A little backstory, I have been married 9 years, 2 small children, and she is my 5th sexual partner in my life. Our sex life has taken a steep decline after the kids, and it is now about once a quarter. I have pmo for 20+ years and rebooting for 2 years. I noticed that since I started the reboot journey, my drive for actual sex has risen, not only with my wife but another woman. I have not stepped outside of my marriage, but my drive/want has increased two-fold since I have drastically reduced the amount of pmo in my life. I feel like in the past, whenever I have the desire for another woman, I would just go find a porn girl that looked familiar, then pmo and it be done. Was pmo helping me in staying loyal to my wife? I have heard of married couples going the open relationship or even becoming swingers to fulfill these sexual desires, but I am not sure she will be down with that. I feel uncomfortable even to bring this up. Recently, at a party, I socially connected with another married woman, and I felt like I was dating again talking to her. This feeling of excitement I’ve missed when talking to other woman was energizing! I left the party feeling that I had a crush on her, and wish we could meet up and chat again. I know that cannot happen, and it’s all fantasy at this point. The old me would have pmo, and I would have moved on and removed those feelings. But now, I can’t stop thinking about that night, I even went to her facebook page and thought about messaging her. What is up with me? I am happy with my wife, and the family we created, but this urge to see other woman is strong. Maybe its just normal connection with another female, because I don't have other female friends in my life? I have never crossed the line though the years of marriage. I understand the consequences of cheating, and what it does to people. I clearly don’t want any of that. What am I supposed to do? Just suppress these feelings? Go pmo to "get it out" of my system? Do other guys feel this way? I am open to all comments and replies. Thanks for reading.