PIED update during reboot

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Bilbo Baggins, Aug 9, 2020.

  1. Bilbo Baggins

    Bilbo Baggins Member

    Hi,

    I am starting a journal on my reboot. I have been free from P and M for a little over 4 months, and recently realized the importance of avoiding orgasms. I have a girlfriend, but I want to go hard mode for a while. Been 8 days since last orgasm, and I am well determined to go a few months without orgasms.

    So far I have seen minor improvements regarding PIED. I am 32 and had PIED ever since I started having sex when I was 16. I have had morning wood a few days in the last months, which is something I did not have for at least 15 years. I was also able to have sex a few times without Viagra (been using it for a 3-4 years) and I am sometimes able to feel aroused when kissing and cuddling with my girlfriend. That’s about it for now.

    I don’t plan to update this everyday, because I am not starting this journal to talk about my moods and thoughts. I just want to give updates regarding my reboot and especially PIED.

    Good luck to you all.
     
    Last edited: Sep 2, 2020
  2. Bilbo Baggins

    Bilbo Baggins Member

    I am trying to find a way to write in this journal without just saying that I feel bad all the time and that there is no progress and all those things we hear all the time.

    Not so easy to do. I can just think of two things that are worth being shared.

    First, I have been rebooting for 5 months and I have had no urges to watch porn ever since. It’s not exactly an interesting fact in itself, but it’s kinda different from what I read here most of the time. I sure won’t complain about that. When I discovered YBOP and the recovery forums, my thirst for porn just vanished, and I am not sure I understand why it’s not the case for everyone here. Don’t get me wrong: I am an addict too, I get addicted to a lot of shit in life. I know what it is to deal with addiction. But something clicked in my brain 5 months ago when I stumbled upon YBOP. Just wished that happened years ago...

    The second thing I wanted to share is about the downside of the recovery forums (semen retention shit and superpowers and stuff like that). 3 years ago, I was searching through the web about porn addiction and ED (has not heard of PIED at that time). I remember going on a website (must have been Nofap) and reading posts from some guys that apparently had the same problem I had but were just writing about semen retention, being pissed out about having wet dreams and wanting to have no O’s for the rest of their lives. Of course, I just ran away from that website without digging deeper, thinking to myself that the forum I had fell upon was for crazy men. 3 years ago I found Reboot Nation and YBR, where we can find interesting things and cool people that were sharing intelligent stuff about sexual health. At least I finally found it. But if there was less crap on Nofap, maybe some good people would find it easier to surf through it and find important content that would help them improve their lives - which is what these forums are actually bringing when we take the time to dig deeper.

    Anyway, I am 5 months in and I have been going hard mode for the last month, which I’ll continue for whatever time it takes to see improvements. In the mean time, I read a lot of posts in here that provide great information, and I am grateful for that.

    Have a good one, fellas.
     
    Last edited: Sep 9, 2020
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  3. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    Hi Bilbo,

    since you're about the same age as me and have/had problems with PIED, do you have a rough plan you want to follow? Have you tried having sex with your gf and if so how was it? The reason I am asking is that I sometimes get the impression that some people reboot indefinitely without taking "rewiring" action because they fear so much of failing in the bedroom and then eventually relapse because they felt, they were getting nowhere.
     
  4. Doper

    Doper Active Member

    I think one of the best journals on here is @nuclpow 's, because he is always posting little goals and the ways he is trying to move forward. But it can be anything you want....wanna talk about old seinfeld episodes...do that...
    But if a person feels bad I think this is a great place to get it off their chest. I think this forum is an incredible place for men (and women) to be able to talk about things they wouldn't with their family or IRL friends. That's the best thing about it, IMO, bar none.
     
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  5. Bilbo Baggins

    Bilbo Baggins Member

    Thanks for your messages, guys. I enjoy reading both of you, so I am glad you took time to write here.

    Pete, well I don’t exactly have a plan. It seems there are two trends in rebooting: one focuses on rewiring, and the other one (which seems to be more recent) is more about avoiding orgasms and even arousal for a period of time to give a break to our brains. I am trying to do both at the same time: that is, for now, having regular sex (roughly once a week) but avoiding orgasms and extreme stimulation. I honestly am not afraid of relapsing right now, so even if things don’t improve in the next weeks or months, I don’t see myself going back to porn in the near future. I am not saying I killed the addiction - hell, I’d love to hack off to porn all day long, if it didn’t ruin my life. But I really have no urges. Ever since I discovered YBOP, I see porn like something almost lethal (at least to me). I like alcohol and I smoke, but I don’t think I’ll ever try heroin of meth, cuz I feel these drugs could cause me a lot of harm. Well I see porn like this, now. That might not be the best way to explain this, but I just can’t see myself going back to porn, now that I know what my porn consumption caused in my life. Also, reading a lot of success stories (like yours) put me on the good track, and I take my reboot very seriously. I will try this for a while and try to gauge my improvements, and adjust my approach when I notice changes in my libido. Of course, your comments and advice are more than welcome on this.

    Regarding my actual sex life, well it’s not exactly awful. I can have sex and keep my erections, but they go away pretty quickly without stimulation. I almost never get morning wood, and I don’t feel any kind of libido in my daily life, unless I am in bed with my GF and I know we are about to have sex. And even then, it’s not really strong. So this is just the beginning for me, I believe. That’s why I want to do hard mode for a while. I have sex about once a week, so I think I am also taking care of the rewiring part (or at least some aspects of it).

    Doper. You’re right, of course. But I’d say a part of rebooting is about leaving self-pity behind us. A lot of us (including me) are very good in feeding feelings of despair that don’t get us nowhere. I think it’s important for us to learn to stay strong in our daily lives. Of course, we can write whatever we want in a journal. But I don’t think that writing about how life is hard and how shitty we feel is the best way to deal with things. I don’t think it’s helping us getting it off our chest. I could be wrong, of course. ...Anyway, if you have a recommendation of a Seinfeld episode, let me know. If it’s funny, I’m in.
     
  6. Bilbo Baggins

    Bilbo Baggins Member

    Things have improved during the last weeks. The most important change I have noticed is about my moods and emotions. Like many of you, I am a guy who usually feels like shit all the time. It’s been like this for a few years. I am not the kind of guy who worries so much about the little things: I just usually am unable to enjoy life that much, and feel like a wreck most of the time. For about 4 weeks now, I have been feeling okay most of the time. I sleep better, and don’t feel desperate about everything. I also started feeling that it’s actually possible for me to have a decent life. This is pretty new to me, and I am grateful for that. I think these improvements might result from me going hard mode (haven’t O’ed since August 1st). There might be other things that helped, but I still feel it’s all due to my reboot. Also, feeling that my PIED is slowly getting better has a beneficial effect on me. I have been able to enjoy sex without using Viagra, or with a lower dose of Viagra, like never before in my life. As I said: things are getting better, but very slowly. I am stating to feel happy about the improvements I made so far. That’s 5 months and a half into my reboot without any relapse to P or M.

    So, for guys who are in a relationship right now, I can only recommend going hard mode (avoiding orgasms, and not getting too close to it). My GF and I still have a sex life, and it’s actually fun for her, since we usually stop when she orgasms, and not the other way around. And I don’t feel frustrated at all about not having a release. For regular guys, it would be frustrating, of course. But for me, who has been dealing with PIED and a weak libido for 15 years, it’s not frustrating. So I plan to stick with this approach for now. No wet dreams for now, and I still don’t get morning wood often, but it’s getting better. Very slowly.
     
  7. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    Sounds really good! I'm glad you're making such good progress.
     
  8. Bilbo Baggins

    Bilbo Baggins Member

    Thanks man. I hope you are well too.
     

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