I know that everyone here has different experiences and rules they follow to rid themselves of PIED. My question is how do you balance a relationship with PIED, when your partner has a normal or hyper libido but you're still having difficulty getting it up and keeping it up? I've been dating this girl that I really like for the past month. She knows about my situation with PIED and says she's willing to wait and work with me on it before having intercourse, she's not in birth control and I've never been good with condoms cause I can't maintain an erection long enough to use one successfully. We've fooled around and had oral sex, but we both want more than that. I've been abstaining from porn and masturbation for the past few years, with intermittent relapses, so far I've been clean of porn and masturbation for the past few months(I stopped counting) but the longest I've gone is about 5 months. I guess I want to know if anyone's found success with abstaining from porn and masturbation, but still able to orgasm as long as it's with a physical partner. Or is total abstinence from PM&O the only way to regain my erections? I know she said she'd wait and I do believe her, but I also feel like patience with sex can only last so long before someone with a healthy, functional libido gets fed up and wants out of the relationship. I don't know if she'd be able to wait months or years until my erections regain full strength and I'm able to be aroused from physical stimuli as opposed to porn and artificial stimuli. I also don't think it's fair to have someone wait that long, although I'm able to please her through oral sex and she is able to do the same for me, but it's still not the same kind of connection that intercourse has. I wish there was a strict formula to follow to solve this.