Thanks for your comments Going Stoic. I have heard others talk about this 'Mr Nice Guy' thing. Perhaps I will look into this some more, it can only help. There is a book I think some people have recommended, does anyone know of it? If not, I'm sure I will see it posted elsewhere... [EDIT] I have just found it, sitting in my amazon basket already - No More MR Nice Guy by Dr Robert A Glover - I will get this right away!!!