Out of the Question

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Joost, Jun 19, 2020.

  1. Joost

    Joost Member

    I'm at the brink of relapsing into porn.
    Before I had some painful realisations and its makin' me head off into fantasyland again.
    Seriously struggling right now. I know its not worth it, but still it feels more favorable now than dealing with reality.
    The girl I thought belonged to me, might not belong to me after all..

    Gave in to the urge and watched some vids. Yeah its exciting, but never satisfying. Its never good enough. There is always a next and before you know it, you're a few hours into the night. I don't want that. I'd rather face the reality of the day. Yes, yes. :rolleyes:
    Last edited: Oct 15, 2020
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  2. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Yup this is how it has played out for me as well. Endless searching for something that porn is never able to provide.
    I also feel like it is a false excitement. When watching porn it's always the same situation that has been engaged in many, many times (at least in my case) before. How can that really be exciting?
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  3. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    Try to be careful with your expectations.

    It's good to dream but many times when we confront reality things aren't as we hoped.

    We got to stay humble and keep trying. Having too strong expectations and then getting crushed by them (totally normal response) is a sign we need to learn more. We're not doing something right yet. Over the top expectations (too attached to them) is a sign we are probably burning some steps. Maybe have some more humble expectations.

    I think you're doing good man. Keep going.

    Love your life my friend. With all your heart.
  4. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    Totally agree ... I know that feeling.
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  5. Shady

    Shady Active Member

  6. Joost

    Joost Member

    Thanks for your support guys.
    I think you're right about the expectations Longwayhome. Thanks.
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