Oral Advice

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Rusty, Jan 16, 2015.

  1. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    My erection quality still isn't perfect - I get hard okay but sometimes go soft later on. This, to me, isn't such a big deal, I feel over time I will improve. What i'm on here for is advice, here is the situation:

    I've been seeing a woman for a few months now, everything is going really well and I really like her. Unfortunately having penetrative intercourse is really painful for her. Fortunately for us, I'm ok with that. What she wants to do is have oral most of the time. At the moment I can receive but have been reluctant to give and have just been using my hands. The reason for this is I don't enjoy giving oral too much, nor do I feel like i'm good at it, thus I avoid it. I also know this is very unfair to her.

    What I need is advice, how do I improve this situation?

    Can I learn to enjoy giving oral?

    Do you enjoy giving?

    How do you learn to give good oral? ( I need pointers)
     
  2. erdnase

    erdnase New Member

    I personally love doing it (some girls definitely taste better than others though). To me, giving good oral is all about combining the tongue with the hands.

    Stimulate her clit with your tongue. Experiment with up-and-down movements, side-to-side movements, slow movements, faster movements. While you're doing this, finger her. Start slow, gradually increase the speed/intensity, and keep alternating the pace. I like increasing in intensity very gradually, occasionally stopping entirely from time to time. They go fucking crazy for that. Passion/varying intensity is the key to good oral.

    Some girls like it when you go really fast with the fingering. The key is seeing what she responds well to - then just keep doing it! ;D
     
  3. Gee, I really love giving oral. I think I developed a love for it after 'escalating' to lesbian porn, which is now one of my favorite categories. Watching a beautiful woman giving oral to another beautiful woman is one of the most gorgeous sights in the universe, in my opinion.

    If the thought of diving straight in makes you queasy, you can try a form of "exposure therapy" to get you more comfortable with it. Start with using your hands as usual while you are kissing and licking her stomach or her inner thighs, and gradually work your way closer as you get more comfortable. Think of the entire general area as an erogenous zone, with more and more pleasure being generated as you gently kiss your way closer to her clitoris. If you're worried about tongue technique, then just don't use your tongue. Use close-mouthed kisses to tease her whilst you let your hands do the main work. Keep your movements slow, teasing, gentle, and romantic, and maintain eye contact with her the whole time.
     
  4. TheBorb

    TheBorb Bullshit detector

    I love doing it, I'm very adept at it, I even lick the arsehole, though sometimes 'issues' might occur, like maybe they ain't fully cleaned or summat...but a good man must always soldier on.

    ANYWAY, just practice with your tongue on her, soft, hard, fast, slow, always moving your tongue over all the areas of this bean-sized miniature marvel! Learn to 'point' with your tongue, you can focus pressure then, you can also gently nibble it. Just watch how she reacts to what you're doing, the noises she makes, you can easily tell if you're doing it right, and one last thing: don't be afraid of downing a bit of piss and pussy juice, it'll make a man of ya!!!
     
  5. Lol, I always demand that her pussy is fresh out of the shower before I go down there. Once it's clean and nicely smelling, it's awesome.
     
  6. TheBorb

    TheBorb Bullshit detector

    Pussy Elite in the hiz-ouse. 8)
     
  7. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    This is really helpful. I didn't realise people enjoyed it so much, I thought people did it because they had to. I think I need to experiment now.
     
  8. TheAlternative

    TheAlternative New Member

    Giving good oral is the best way to hook a girl and keep her coming back for more sex, even if you're not great at sex itself or they have an issue.

    My advice is always start out gentle and don't attack the clit right away - use tongue on the lips and get her good and stimulated, then start going after it but don't work it too hard and use fingers at the same time once she is wet. Expect that a good orgasm for her can take 10-20 minutes of stimulation, not like us where we can go off in minutes so take your time and enjoy pleasuring her.

    Although I'm surprised that this whole thread is not super triggering for some people.
     
  9. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    I did think about the trigger thing.

    As for your advice, if you are not licking the clit do you just lick her lips?

    Last time I used my hands she said it was painful if I touched her clit directly, I didn't really know what to do after that. Its weird, i'm decent at sex, its just the foreplay i'm poor at!
     
  10. Deebz

    Deebz New Member

    It is a little triggering...but not too bad. I agree that oral is very important. I always enjoy doing it.
     
  11. Osa

    Osa New Member

    If she doesn't taste good down there it could be:

    The food she eats,
    Lack of hygiene,
    Bacteria,
    Viruses, or
    Her time of the month.

    Is she a heavy meat eater? Maybe convince her to increace her intake of fruits, vegetables, grains, legumes, etc.

    Is it lack of hygiene? Get her to wash down there with soap and water daily.

    Is it bacteria or a virus? Get her to see a doctor and consider the risk of contagion.

    Is it her time of the month? Menstrual blood has a distinct smell, different from just lack of hygiene or bacteria or a virus. If it's just menstrual blood, if she washes first, I can quite tolerate it, but I'm sure some men can't.

    If it's any of the other issues, then no I can't go down there.

    I would imagine that most men would have no problem going down on a woman if it's not for any of these issues, so if you are not enjoying it then unless there us something else you haven't mentioned, I imagine it's likely one of the above problems.
     
  12. ls558

    ls558 Member

    Eating pussy is the best thing in the world. It's my favourite part of the sexual act, and I'm a master of it because I love it. That's the trick, you need to learn to love it.

    When you are eating out a woman, first you need to make sure she's comfortable and in a receptive mood. Start with a bit of finger play around the outer lips, and when you reach down the the opening and feel wetness, you know it's time to start kissing her inner thigh.

    I like to put one of her legs up, and hold on to it with my left arm (since I'm right handed, you may need to reverse it if you're left handed). I come in on a slight angle, and lick the clit. You need to make sure you pay attention to her energy, feel it out a bit. When her clit is getting hard, use a finger to rub the area between her pussy and her ass. Sometimes getting a bit of pussy juice on your finger is good to lubricate it, but make sure your finger moves at exactly the same speed as your tongue, that is of the UTMOST importance. The nerves need to be firing together from both locations.

    Another great trick is to throw in two fingers, and push down towards her asshole, which gives her the illusion of penetration.

    Once she starts getting out of control, take the clit into your mouth with a fair amount of suction. Make sure you keep it in there, and gently lick the clit, slowly lick the clit. Don't let go until she starts squeezing your skull between her legs with uncontrollable force, and starts squirting juices all over the place, and screaming.

    If she pushes your face away, you succeeded. Hold her tight in your arms while she recovers, and then throw your cock in, she'll be MUCH more receptive to it now :). Most of all, make sure you're very caring to her. She is delicate, and needs to be treated like it.

    Don't worry about the smell factor either. Learn to love the smell of a pussy, even if it's strong. I actually love a strong smelling pussy, of course it has to be a healthy smell... you can tell the difference. Shower or not beforehand, I'm eating her out regardless.
     
  13. Osa

    Osa New Member

    Any man who lives to pleasure a woman will enjoy giving her oral sex. It's not the act itself that is pleasurable but rather the awareness that she takes pleasure in it. I have not yet met a woman who I knew did not enjoy it but if I did, I wouldn't be interested either. The idea is that her pleasure is his pleasure. Are you ready to servr.? :)
     
  14. TheBorb

    TheBorb Bullshit detector

    I love this thread, it's very positive, celebratory, we all uniting for a cause like brethren, not bickering, instead sharing info, genuinely trying to help this Rusty geezer. I love it! ;D

    Let us pool our knowledge and help this young man out!!!
     
  15. Rose

    Rose Guest

    Erdnase is right in my opinion.
     
  16. TRIGGER WARNING***

    I'm trying to do the "pick-up" thing as part of my reboot and this book is by far the most recommended in terms of sexual advice. Before you roll your eyes at the thought of reading a book on the topic I'll just say this is undoubtedly and important skill to have, especially if you plan to engage in coitus ;) with other girls in your lifetime.

    http://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Method-2nd-Edition/dp/0557036488
     
  17. TheBorb

    TheBorb Bullshit detector

    You be soiling yaself all up in this thread, and vulgarly. My blood was boiling.

    Push that loser-arse book right back into that manpussy you shat it out from!
     
  18. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    My God, you are the oral master. I'm going to read this post a few times before I see my partner next week. I'll let you know how I get on.

    Some people have mentioned smell. There has been no issue with smell, I think its natural that people presumed that was an issue but I have to clarify it isn't an issue at all.

    I think the biggest issue is I've given oral around ten-fifteen times in my life and I've only made a girl orgasm once from it. I think another issue was that I got bored after five minutes and then stopped. Also its not much fun when you don't think your good at it.

    One more question: Is it only the clit area you lick? Do you ever lick the vagina itself?
     
  19. ls558

    ls558 Member

    Sometimes it's good to go up and down the vagina, licking the inner lips a bit to get things started, but all the nerves are in the clit. Lick the clit with a rhythm, like a song. Sometimes it actually helps to have some background music... I use that trick a lot.
     
  20. Osa

    Osa New Member

    I kiss every part of her body from head to toe (except the anus), clit and vigina last.

    When I need a breather I'll just hold my tongue in place there for her to pleasure herself while I catch my breath.

    That works well too.
     

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