I guess this is a question for the guys who have quite a lot of recovery time under their belt. I suppose it is a question about a personal philosophy, but I thought it would be interesting to explore the attitudes towards long term recovery. I've heard some successful people who say they will 'never ever look at porn in their life ever again'. Then on the other hand you have the traditional twelve-step mindset in which you tackle life and recovery 'one day at a time' Any thoughts? Part of me gets the sheer boldness of the first statement (hell, who hasn't said similar things to themselves immediately after a relapse?) But there is a lot of potential for let down if you ever happen to trip up, especially if you've bigged ot up so much! However, I understand the 'one day at a time' logic too, it's just such a huge mountain to climb and the thought of never watching porn again is so daunting and intimidating (and many of our brains don't event want to give it up, not for a day, nevermind eternity!) So doing the best we can do to stay clean, in this precise moment of the now, makes sense. But I can't help feeling (certainly regarding the way my sneaky and sly brain works) that this mantra may potentially carry a hidden suffix- "I will not watch porn, one day at a time .... ...But I might tomorrow!" I'm not actually proposing we have to subscribe to either statement really. I just thought it would be fun to see what people make of the two outlooks and what they might mean to the individual, generally speaking, as an indicator of the way they regard the recovery journey.