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Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Paul Kirkbride, Feb 7, 2019.

  1. Paul Kirkbride

    Paul Kirkbride New Member

    I have a very basic understanding of what i need to do, basically stop using porn. I feel totally disillusioned with life and empty inside and there are two things that reoccur in my life that i think cause these feelings, one obviously porn use, and one heavy drinking bouts. Has anyone had any experience of this connection? Weirdly i can go months without a drink n have a three day binge then back to it. But what is more constant in my life is porn usage. I guess i thought id just send a summary of myself in those terms in hope of finding help n advice.
     
  2. Perigee

    Perigee Member

    There is definitely a strong relationship between binge drinking and PMO. I think it's due to the fact that binge drinking significantly impairs the hippocampus - which results in poor-decision making/planning and impulsivity. I also think the glutamate rebound is a factor since this leads to hyperexcitability, poor cognitive function, and anxiety.

    PMO is not an isolated behavior, it's tied to a lot of things you do. Many people think they simply need to forcibly quit porn and the rest of their life will fall into place, but this is simply not true.
     
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  3. Caoimhín

    Caoimhín Winter's coming...

    Booze and porn are two of my tradition coping factors. Not generally at the same time but I historically swing back and forth between the two. They both need dealing with. You are not alone. Many guys here are in the same boat.
     
  4. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Addiction is a trained, learned, practiced, "conditioned", condition. Somewhere in the future, we will be taught this fact in kindergarten, and by being taught it, many will avoid it. A lot--not all, but a lot--who become addicted, become addicted because they do not understand that they are training their brain to become addicted. Becoming unaddicted is also a trained, practiced condition. Becoming unaddicted is most efficient when it is not done passively, but when it is your purpose, day one, as in you get up and day one say: "Today, and every other day after today, I am not using," as in I am not using porn to obtain a dopamine high. A lot of people try to quit by simply trying "not to". They fail. Simply trying "not to" is not enough. Getting up and dedicating to "not to", as in that is your purpose in life, is required. Focus, which we, porn addicts, hate (we're porn addicts, of course we hate it), is required. You are going to have to rewire your brain. That hurts, but if you choose to do it, you can do it. It is a choice. Porn addiction is death worship. Make a choice. Choose life.

    Much love. (Because Gabe signs off this way).

    W.
     

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