New Life Now

Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by TheAndersMan, Nov 24, 2012.

  1. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    Maybe you should setup something to do every Sunday. Sunday has always been a boring day for me. It helps to have someplace to go and a time to be there.
     
  2. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Is this exercise also from reuniting.org? I didn't really expect to find anything relevant to me there, I'm single. I took a quick look at the website but didn't see any exercises.
     
  3. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    It's from the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow.
     
  4. Rastapopoulos

    Rastapopoulos New Member

    Hi TheAndersMan,

    I've read your first post and I'm impressed. As you might have noticed, most people on here notice P is a problem when it's already too late. I think it's very courageous of you to face the thruth before it has you corned and forced to look at it.
     
  5. MsbtNnoPorn

    MsbtNnoPorn Tryin to control.

    So ya, that breathing exercise seems to work really well! I do t get blue balls often but it releases tension n helps with erections. I have heard qbout deep breathing that helps but this way is better.

    For me, sundays seem to be a day totally blessed by God. The weather always seems nice outside. I often gain a renewed sense of commitment for no MO. I always read the bible every morning so i start out right. I also teach sunday school so thats cool.

    Seems like your doing well andersman! May you get to your goal and continue for even longer.
     
  6. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Thanks guys. I attend a local church in the morning, but I could definitely use something to do in the afternoon hours. I get negative feelings if I ever allow myself to blame my upbringing, church and family, for any of my problems. It was so conservative, sexual issues were totally glossed over. I remind myself that the older generation lived in a totally different time, a totally different world. Maybe the way their parents taught them to deal with things worked for their time.

    Concerning masturbation, I have not experienced significant urges yet. I want to see how much this is physiological vs mental. I think I'm having more success this time around concerning mo. (If you read back to my initial attempt, you'll find that I allowed myself to mo as much as I wanted, only placing a priority on quitting porn. That method didn't work out too well!) I believe one reason for that success this time is the emphasis I've place on controlling my mind and my attitude. Perhaps if I continue to steer clear of inappropriate sexual thoughts, my body will respond physiologically, dramatically reducing the urge for orgasm. But I realize I'm only 25 days in, less than a month. I won't be impressed until I reach at least 3 months.

    Memorizing Scripture has been helpful in controlling my mind. A pretty young lady sits right across from me in my kinesiology lecture, and sometimes my mind tends to wander. But I've found I can quote Scripture to myself to keep my mind under control.
     
  7. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    That was certainly true in my case. My parents, especially my mother, had no idea of the world I faced growing up, and I was born in the mid fifties! Nowadays porn is ubiquitous and masturbation is encouraged.

    You will, over time, feel less need for orgasm. One important point here, this doesn't reduce your libido or inhibit your ability to perform when the time arrives. We are made to desire sex, but not need sex. We don't have to have orgasms or ejaculate to be healthy and comfortable. People that practice Karezza avoid orgasms deliberately and don't feel sexually frustrated. I really believe that we were designed this way to allow sexual and emotional satisfaction without having family size go put of control.

    Scriptural thoughts can keep us mindful of our place in the scheme of things, avail us Divine wisdom and help us to control our thoughts. You might want to get to know the pretty young lady. :)
     
  8. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I didn't even visit the site yesterday. I was feeling really sick, but I'm feeling a lot better now.
     
  9. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Some interesting progress today: I heard back from a friend of mine. He suggested taking a course from Setting Captives Free and getting someone I can be accountable to on a regular basis. I do want to begin dealing with this problem more transparently than I have been, so I'll be looking for that person. I hope to have good news regarding that within a few weeks.
     
  10. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I wish I could claim that, but that's pretty much what happened. I had to see what it was doing to my life, and the effects were serious.

    I lost the first draft of that post, but I think I said something to the effect that porn was tearing my life apart.

    Sure, I always "wanted to quit" and was almost always making an "attempt" (Lone-Ranger style), but to my shame I allowed myself to live like that for a long time. I definitely needed the rod on my back.
     
  11. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    week 6 data​
    W6D1------just a time marker------
    W6D2: SI3 - D4 - B3 - Sp3 - N5 - A4 - PA1 - S?
    W6D3: SI3 - D3 - B4 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA1 - S?
    W6D4: SI3 - D3 - B3 - Sp4 - N5 - A4 - PA1 - S?
    W6D5: SI3 - D3 - B5 - Sp4 - N3 - A4 - PA2 - S6.5
    W6D6: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp4 - N3 - A4 - PA5 - S8
    W6D7: SI5 - D2 - B5 - Sp4 - N3 - A3 - PA4 - S7.
     
  12. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    You have really made some serious progress. Good going.
     
  13. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    week 7 data​
    W7D1: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp3 - N3 - A3 - PA5 - S7.
    W7D2: SI4 - D5 - B5 - Sp4 - N3 - A3 - PA5 - S8.
    W7D3: SI3 - D5 - B3 - Sp5 - N3 - A3 - PA4 - S9.
    W7D4: SI4 - D4 - B3 - Sp4 - N3 - A4 - PA2 - S7.
    W7D5: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp3 - N3 - A4 - PA4 - S5.
    W7D6: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp3 - N3 - A4 - PA5 - S7.
    W7D7: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp3 - N3 - A4 - PA5 - S6.
     
  14. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Felt some temptation today to search for something that could easily take me down the wrong path. But I know that fulfillment does not come from through gratifying the senses, through porn or even otherwise. Fulfillment comes from God and living in accordance with his will. I will not search for fulfillment through the flesh, that does not feed the soul. Expecting fulfillment through the flesh is a waste of time.
     
  15. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    That's a good way to look at it.
     
  16. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    The more time I stick with this, the more I realize I can't do it alone. I'm praying for the right person to confess to and be accountable to.... I know I said the same thing like a week back... I'm just still working on it.... That leaves me the unpleasant task of confessing. But I believe it's utterly necessary.
     
  17. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    A lot of different things going on these days. Still seeking an accountability partner. That would make me really really happy. Reading some stuff by F. F. Bruce in my spare time - not much progress on that yet.
     
  18. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I've just installed Safe Eyes on my computer, but I shall not "test" it ;).
     
  19. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    Good plan.
     
  20. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Post upon completing 40 days, my preliminary goal.​

    "And immediately the Spirit driveth him into the wilderness. And he was there in the wilderness forty days, tempted of Satan; and was with the wild beasts; and the angels ministered unto him." Mark 1.12-13

    One grows better or worse in the wilderness.
     

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