New Life Now

Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by TheAndersMan, Nov 24, 2012.

  1. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I'm finding that I don't have clear definitions for terms such as "difficult" "easy" and "doing well." I do know that any thing that does not push me toward my goal opposes success. Therefore, any thing that pushes me toward my goal supports success. If I'm constantly supporting success, I'm doing well. "Difficulty" refers to how hard it is to do well. Easy refers to how easy it is to do well. I'm not at all sure that I've ever experienced "easy." Therefore, all the things that push me toward my goal make my life easier. All other things are in the one, and only one, other class of things which I've already mentioned to many times and whose function is not nearly as nice as that of those things in the former class. Of course, it all falls apart unless I can identify which things push me toward my goal... Logic, I've said nothing.
     
  2. FindingSanctuary

    FindingSanctuary One foot before the other.

    AndersMan, sorry I haven't been writing much. I am impressed by the systematic approach of how you review your days, and I'm envious to see how you stick to it... I probably lack the discipline, but I'll pick up some of your questions for my personal journal.

    What was this?
     
  3. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    That's ok, FS. I know just how it is to not want to write much on anyone's journal..... sometimes including my own. Sometimes I just feel so burned out emotionally.
    For a while there though, it may have been your posts that kept me believing in the online journal, so thanks.
    My best wishes to you and your wife. I'm not married, so I won't try to offer advise other than just keep loving her. Love is not always soft or easy. But I'm sure it always keeps the other's best interests in mind :)
    About my old journals, I used to keep some paper journals. They were rather sporadic since they weren't as easy to keep track of as an online journal. Anyway, these journals were meant to be just traditional journals of what happened in my life, but instead I ended up writing things concerning lust, masturbation, or pornography quite often. I still don't know exactly where they are, but It'd be interesting to find them so I can compare my thoughts then to now.
     
  4. FindingSanctuary

    FindingSanctuary One foot before the other.

    I figured you were talking about paper journals. I have some myself, actually - one of the few things I took with me when I migrated. Might want to review them one day, too. Would be interested to hear from you if you find any old/new insights!
     
  5. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I was able to look up some of the old "journals." Most of them did not contain very many entries, certainly not many having to do with pornography and masturbation, but there were a few. There were several prayers that I had written out. My thoughts and desires seemed to be good, but I did identify a common weakness. I tended to be too cerebral, and not practical enough. I think I would have made more progress earlier if I had known how to make more effective goals. Making goals is still something that I really need to work on. I feel that's a weak point I still have. It's something I'm currently working on.
     
  6. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    "However strange it may well seem, to do one's duty will make any one conceited who only does it sometimes. Those who do it always would as soon think of being conceited of eating their dinner as of doing their duty. What honest boy would pride himself on not picking pockets? A thief who was trying to reform would. To be conceited of doing one's duty is then a sign of how little one does it, and how little one sees what a contemptible thing it is not to do it. Could any but a low creature be conceited of not being contemptible? Until our duty becomes to us common as breathing, we are poor creatures."

    George Macdonald - The Wise Woman or The Lost Princess, A Double Story or simply A Double Story
     
  7. FindingSanctuary

    FindingSanctuary One foot before the other.

    Lot of wisdom here! Love your quote by Macdonald, and I can totally relate to your statement about the challenge of setting goals. I feel I'm just at the starting line there...
     
  8. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Strange how Sundays can often be the toughest days.
     
  9. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    Lots of free time on Sundays. I had a rough one myself yesterday.
     
  10. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Had an opportunity to help out in a special needs physical education class today. No other news right now:)
     
  11. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    i couldn't imagine better therapy than that.
     
  12. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Week 4 data​
    W4D1: SI4 - D2 - B3 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA5 - S7.
    W4D2: SI5 - D3 - B4 - Sp4 - N3 - A5 - PA5 - S8.
    W4D3: SI3 - D3 - B2 - Sp4 - N3 - A4 - PA3 - S8.
    W4D4: SI4 - D5 - B3 - Sp4 - N3 - A4 - PA3 - S6.
    W4D5: SI4 - D2 - B5 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA4 - S6.
    W4D6: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp3 - N3 - A4 - PA5 - S8.
    W4D7: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp5 - N3 - A4 - PA4 - S5.
     
  13. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    Hi TheAndersMan,

    Reading over your journal, have not quite figured out your code, still working on it.

    Have enjoyed reading some of your supportive comments on others journals. Saw your words of encouragement to snoops, nice!

    You are almost 3 weeks on this current path, go strong brother!
     
  14. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Thanks, fc. My code is simply a group of abbreviations.
    SI = Social Interaction, D = Difficulty , B = Business, Sp = Spirituality, N = Nutrition, A = Attitude, PA = Physical Activity, S = Sleep.
    All of them are rated 1 - 5, except sleep which is approximate number of hours.

    I made it up because I wanted a fast and concise way to update my journal without having to write out a summary of my entire day everyday. It shows me at a glance how I feel I'm doing in some important areas of my life day by day. I hope this will help me keep the big picture of what's important in view. It's somewhat weak because it's subjective to how I feel that day, instead of being truly objective about what I experienced and did throughout the day. You can read my initial thoughts about it and read an explanation of each category Here.
     
  15. MsbtNnoPorn

    MsbtNnoPorn Tryin to control.

    Woahh..iv been doing it wrong TAH. I read stuff wrong sometimes ( such as seeing the word beard n reading it as bread)
    I have always been scaling the B as tasks needed done instead of business or how much free time i didnt have. :eek:
    Tonight i realized that if i rated how busy my day was i could relate that to if i even had time to think about MO(which i havnt)
    Anyways, ur code has been useful to me in the same way; i can look back n see how much i struggled, in relation to my SP, S, n SI.
     
  16. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    I'm continuing to look for "closure" to this p, mo addiction. I think I took a big step today. I'm trying to find more counsel and help.
     
  17. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    I think that closure is when it becomes natural not to PMO. I feel close to that point but I'm not going to get too uppity.
     
  18. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Week 5 data​
    W5D1: SI4 - D5 - B5 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA5 - S8.
    W5D2: SI4 - D4 - B5 - Sp4 - N2 - A5 - PA4 - S7.5
    W5D3: SI4 - D3 - B3 - Sp4 - N3 - A3 - PA3 - S7
    W5D4: SI4 - D3 - B3 - Sp3 - N3 - A3 - PA3 - S6.
    W5D5: SI5 - D2 - B5 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA4 - S7.
    W5D6: SI4 - D3 - B5 - Sp4 - N4 - A4 - PA5 - S7.
    W5D7: SI5 - D3 - B5 - Sp5 - N3 - A5 - PA5 - S7.5.
     
  19. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    It was a necessary thing to start a journal, but I believe I need to do more. This forum is great, but it's online. Somehow, I think I also need to deal with this "closer to home."
     
  20. TheAndersMan

    TheAndersMan Watch-and-Pray

    Hmmm... Another fairly difficult Sunday. I mean, it's not like I was about to go look at porn or masturbate, but I just didn't feel as good. My attitude was not as good and I felt irritable.
     

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