Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by GABE, Dec 5, 2013.
How to solve the problem of sleep then? Pls help me out with this.
Hi Gabe, you are inspiration to me, like you are to all of us.
I have a question. You said that during your reboot you were able to have first successful sex after 9 months. What did you consider as successful sex back then? Were you hard 100% then, was your erection stable and did you need oral/hand stimulation to get hard? I was able to have sex this month (after nearly 7 months of rebooting), but i needed oral and hand stimulation to get hard and it would go to 70% after penetration and I also had PE (I was done in a 1-2 minutes, sometimes even in few seconds). Did you have similar expirience ? I just want to compare myself in this stage of reboot with you, just to see when could I potentialy get better if I keep moving foward
Hey man, I’ve had this same question. When do you know you’re ready to have sex? And how often should you have sex? If you have sex too often I would assume you can undo progress. Like a wound that just healed, you shouldn’t go crazy on it.
I’ve had sex several times but like you, I need a BJ and or Hand stimulation to get hard. Sometimes I loose my boner, other times I dont. Through time sex has become much more enjoyable! But I think I’m not ready because I only feel like having sex every couple of weeks or so? Think I need more time ... not sure !?
It’s great you got this at such a young age. Looking back, I can see how pmo led me down some weak decisions in finding a mate, no sticktuitivness professionals and a general letting go of myself physically. Better late than never, I still have dreams.
"What did you consider as successful sex back then? Were you hard 100% then, was your erection stable and did you need oral/hand stimulation to get hard?"
Yes. I was 100% hard simply from the anticipation of sex and my erection did not weaken during sex. I did not need oral/hand stimulation like I sometimes would in the past, as a precursor to PIED.
"I was able to have sex this month (after nearly 7 months of rebooting), but i needed oral and hand stimulation to get hard and it would go to 70% after penetration and I also had PE (I was done in a 1-2 minutes, sometimes even in few seconds). Did you have similar expirience?"
Yes, I did. I would try and have sex several times during my reboot and would "force orgasms" through oral sex or trying to have sex and failing. Although I probably could have waited longer, I was rewiring. And yes, had pre-mature ejaculation initially. When I have consistent sex it goes away.
While comparing can be helpful, it can also be hurtful, as there are so many variables that go into this so try not to over think it. Sounds like you're on the right path and doing great. congrats on having sex! Just keep truckin' and things will likely continue to get better and your body will rewire and become more responsive to real life sexual situations.
Hi Gabe, i have a kind of out of the blue question, because is not really about porn addiction, but after cutting my porn use back in 2015 (i´m from Argentina, and i m 32 now) i have read the Gary Wilson´s book on internetporn, and i´ve been on the forums and reading a lot of the information about this addiction, and at some point i also came across the Cupids Poisoned Arrow book, about Karezza, and even though i dont have a girlfriend, i have been very intrested in this different approach to sex, i was wondering if after leaving behind your addiction if you have a new approach to sex all together? i saw that sometimes you mention Karezza for the new recovering people, but are you still using it on your regular basis? or was it just something you did at the beggining?
Its kind of hard to express my self quite right in english but my main wonder is something like: ¿how do you approach sex right now years after quitting porn? just kind like regular people? like regular people but with a bit of Karezza? ¿just Karezza?
i would like to hear your thougths on this...., i think its kind of, like pushy question, because i m not asking about your addiction recovery, or recovery advise, i´m more kind of asking about your intimate relationship life, but Karezza its a very interesting topic right now for me, and maybe you have no problem discussing it.
Well, thanks for the videos and advice you gave! (i translated a couple of those)
and thanks for reading!
Regards from Argentina!
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