My Thoughts On Rebooting [EXTREMELY LONG POST]

having a very stressful day. may be due to nf yesterday. the day after hving nf is not worse but the next day is very bad. its happened like this till now.

 

what's happening? I am scared, hopeless, nervous... why? I have been following the rules but still I am like this. I see everyone w enjoying their lives and I am here crying everyday. I can't enjoy my sex life. when will I be normal? this is not fair. please god do something.

 

Hey man sorry to hear you're having a tough time with this. You should start a journal.

 

feeling better after quitting cigarette. still have a long way to go.

 

something strange happened tonight. i drempt of compulsive masturbation. i saw the old me. i was so scared and when i woke up i was so happy that it was not real. but i had a hangover. I had a slight urge of masturbating in the morning. but it got better and i have no urge whatsoever now..

 

My brain is doing its best to relapse. but i have become strong enough to handle my condition

 

"There is a guy who told me he had no problems getting instant makeouts and fucking chicks the same day he meets them."
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It hurts so much to read that, as I'm quite the opposite of that guy. But as I am on no PMO since about a week again, the pain more or less drives me to do sth about it. For years my answer was PMO and drugs, it's only natural that I am not that guy...

 

My car ran out of gas, I had to push it, uphill, on the highway(55mph) to the next exit....

Yeah, guys say a lot of stuff...that's why this thread is so great, it breaks it down for you, do this and good stuff will follow

quitting pmo, is a lot like dieting, and dieting is a lot like going through drug rehab....so it'll get worse, but it's how you got to live to get the great things life has to offer
and do it now, who you are later won't be more prepared, etc, you'll lose the time/opportunities between now and when you do start...

I speak from experience.
http://www.cracked.com/article_20307_5-diabolical-ways-your-body-tricks-you-into-being-fat.html

 

Hello everyone, I am Umang, a newly joined member.

 

Hello everyone, I am Umang, a newly joined member.

I will be in touch with you to encourage you all and myself to live a better life.

 

yesterday I had nf. I know I should be careful now. no chating or talking wide a girl..

 

This thread became weird

 

had nf yesterday too. effects are showing today too....

 

Really great read. I have no idea how long that took to compose but thank you for doing it.
My takeaways are:
-It's about Recovery not Abstinence.
-If I don't start lusting I don't have to worry about stopping.

I can't quite figure out how to use the spreadsheet or how to properly display it in my profile so people can see it but if someone is able to help me with that I'd be really appreciative of it.
That is all,
GeorgeB_USA

 

Hello, a new poster here.

The link to the opening post of this thread on reddit.com/r/pornfree led me to this site.

I have a question for TheUnderDog. I am about halfway through the Slight Edge. Got the book at your recommendation.

I am extremely frustrated with that book. So far, it tells you how wonderful the Slight Edge is without a single tip on how to implement it. I see how wonderful it is. I get it. The author keeps trying to sell it to me. I'm sold. About a million times, but there is not a single concrete tip on how I start. The only tip I see is reading 10 pages of personal development books every day.

I look around and a lot of things in life are out of control and out of balance. Yes, I see that I should attack each area using the slight edge, but where do I begin? Does everyone already know how to implement the Slight Edge, but they don't practice it because they just don't know how great it is? Am I the only moron?

So is the second half any better?

 

Everything you need to implement good habits is in this book. I don't remember which part because I read it some time ago. You just:
a/ evaluate honestly where you are now in the main areas of your life:
- health
- relationships
- spirituality
- finances
- career
etc (I don't remember if those are exactly the ones he used)
technically, where you are now, and then...
2/ create your life vision in main areas of your life and figure out what small thing you can do everyday to get you closersd
3/ Get you ass into it

 

Thank you, but that does not address my question. Does the second half of the book get into concrete tips on how to start implementing it? What you say sounds good, but it's still a pie in the sky. Maybe I am the only idiot who does not get it.

 

I don't really know what you mean by concrete tips. This book everything I needed, but I don't remember if it was in the first half, second half or right in the middle. I also don't understant what "pie in the sky" you're talking about. Say youre evaluation of your health is:
I look like a pork chop, feel like crap, women don't want to look at you.. Than you identify who you want to be in this area: look like model from armani advert, with girls secretely checking you.
what one small step you can do everyda can help you to get from pork chop to armani model?
Start working out. So you go and do that, right now. You do this at home, go for a run, sign up for gym and go, go, go. Now.
than you'll realize that it's also about your diet - to take you from A to B you will have to change something.
So you cut stop buying junk food. Right now. Once you have one or two weeks of working out and eating better, you figure out another step in each area. Might be for example stopping using sugar for hot drinks. And you do just that. That's it. There is nothing else to it.

 

Appreciate this post and all the words of wisdom in it! Porn is definitely not the source of all our problems, it is simply a symptom but overcoming the addiction to porn makes it 100 times easier to get to the root of the issue. Once the cycle of repetitive compulsion to PMO is broken a true and utter change is possible. Yes, overcoming porn addiction is part of a lifestyle change, that is how I look at it.

 

Great read, and for me the reason I've signed up. The energy put into this post is definitely appreciated UD. I've been in counseling for some years and luckily I've had the insight that porn is merely a symptom. But I realize it's something that you need the courage to see in the first place, I can't stress that enough. I hope many will come to that conclusion.