In Underdog's post I think the number one key to the puzzle is getting active in you recovery. As you said people get obsessed with their counters and days abstinent but those days don't amount to much if you don't make changes and get yourself to a point where you feel like you are accomplishing things. I know for me it is to get a good sleep routine, eat healthy, exercise, and a big one is notice when i'm procrastinating and nip it in the bud. I think the counter can be a general guide. Don't wait though, just stop the pmo wherever you are and start living and doing the things that you have been putting off or make you hesitant to progress. Don't say things like, "oh once I get 60 days I will go on a date." That is just using a reboot as an excuse to justify not doing things because of fear. Anyways theres great info in op's post. By the way i'm guilty of all this and very much easier said then done.