My Story and Advice on Recovering (5 Months)

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by JohnDoe6, Sep 14, 2014.

  1. leannfit

    leannfit New Member

    how I hate videos, what a lazy way to share info

    so I can reduce energy intake by dieting

    or eating in an IF style?

    but what if I do the IF style and still overeat?


    I agree, in a few years IF might become better understood, but it's not going to go much further than that,
    we know smoking gives you cancer, being fat gives you cancer, yet people still smoke and are fat
    you say:
    are you fat? You don't seem to be from the USA, so being fat may not be normal where you are, but it is here, same with vague, generalities


    I think you made a great post, I don't like videos, but I do appreciate the effort you put into your post
    Keep at it
    I'm friends with a medical student in Sweden, if that's where you are, PM me
     
  2. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

     
  3. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    Thanks John! I agree. I think it depends on the character of the person to an extent, how they will react and treat the situation, but I agree that honesty is important overall. Also, sorry for posting on the other forum, I didn't notice they were both your threads!
     
  4. coolmusti

    coolmusti Go hard or go home

    Say no to madturbatiom and porn.
     
  5. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

    Ha no worries No.turning.back sorry I didn't reply to the email. Are you going to tell her?
     
  6. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    So far we've only hung out together a few times. I offered to take her out to dinner this weekend but she asked for a rain check. I'm taking it slow regardless, especially because I'm somewhat early in the reboot. If it seems to be headed towards intimacy I will. Either way, I'm trying to socialize, even with friends, as much as I can. Even if it's not the girl I was referring to, I definitely am mentally ready for a relationship, so when that opportunity comes, honesty is the best way to build upon it.
     
  7. leannfit

    leannfit New Member

    this sounds good, does thinking about her cause you to desire to
    fap?(I'm not sure if you are abstaining or not)
    -watch porn?-I would PMO a ton when I had a GF, mostly cause I couldnt be with her...opps bad idea
     
  8. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    Maybe some, it's hard to tell, because since shunning porn almost 5 weeks ago I've had nearly constant never-ending urges to fap and O. Part of this might be boredom and habitual tendencies (The cycle I used to be stuck in). I haven't made a clear-cut decision not to fap, but have avoided it since most say this helps the reboot process. Another reason I've stayed away from it is because I'm afraid my thoughts will drift to porn, which is definitely counter productive. I've had OCD since I was very young, so I know I will think about the fact that I'm not supposed to be thinking about something!:eek: The most surprising thing so far is that I've had much less urges to visit tube sites and watch porn then I expected. The hardest part is that no matter where on the web you go there are ads and images of some sexual degree...even if it's not actual porn. Ok I've rambled enough now.
     
  9. leannfit

    leannfit New Member

    you dont fap and don't look at porn, SMART Man ;)

    I learned the hard way that my brain ties together all 3 FAP. FOOD, porn :-[
    so did one, FAP and it led to the other 2, I am on board with you....and agree about the web wanting you to fap everywhere.
    so in your 5 months Fap/porn free, you are feeling ready to have sex with a female? or am I mis reading?
     
  10. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    For me it's been 5 weeks and I'm entering my 6th. I think it was 5 months (maybe that's what confused you?) for JohnDoe6. I doubt I'm ready for sex, though I want it badly. In addition to issues getting aroused by a real woman, I think I have some performance anxiety due to worrying about PIED (though I didn't know it was PIED). Obviously I'm early in my reboot. I was trying to date before I came across YBOP as well as Gary's and Gabe's videos. I'm glad I came across all of this information when I did. I'm really aggravated and annoyed that I didn't learn about all of this sooner. So much time wasted. But there's nothing that can be done about that. By continuing to date and try to start a relationship, the rewiring will hopefully start. I figure there's no right time to start, and the sooner I practice the right sport, the better. I'm not very smooth, in fact I'm introverted, so meeting women is not easy for me.
     
  11. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

    Don't let that put you off! Keep on pushing through, its the only way :)
     
  12. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    John, if you meant this about me being and introvert, not to worry. It's more about meeting people in the right situations. I've never been much for clubs or party life, so it's much better when I meet people at social gatherings, or through friends, etc. All we can do is keep hunting, for lack of a better word ;D
     
  13. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

    Going out clubbing isn't for everyone by any means :) you took the words right out of my mouth!
     
  14. InChristAlone

    InChristAlone porn gave me a limp noodle too, Gabe haha

    thanks for posting this johndoe. its always nice to hear a good concise account of a successful rebootm
     
  15. redman12

    redman12 New Member

    have you noticed any more benefits? did your dopamine levels remain permanently high?
     
  16. leannfit

    leannfit New Member

    I read that a lot, how DA levels are high/low, or attempts to manipulate them. what? how do you measure DA levels?
    It seems that this is just a F'n guess.

    or am I missing something?(no)
     
  17. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

    This is definitely a guess and a lot of speculation on my part.

    To answer redman12's question, I very rarely got that feeling that I described and haven't for a few months now. My theory behind this is that your brains dopamine levels will fluctuate as you recover sensitivity to non porn stimuli. It would make sense that you could have periods of high dopamine does it not? As the idea behind the flatline ect is that your dopamine levels hit rock bottom? Is their any research on this yet?
     
  18. shattered

    shattered Member

    I just want to confirm that you did not masturbate at all during the 5 months.

    I abstained from MO for a little over 3 months with good results. I had successful sex with my wife, and for reasons I don't understand, I feel back into MO a few years ago, and have been stuck there ever since.
     
  19. JohnDoe6

    JohnDoe6 http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic

    No I didn't and still don't 9 months on :) still seeing improvements- get yourself back on to no PMO, I'm sure you can do it if you did it once already :)
     
  20. shattered

    shattered Member

    The further convinces me that MO with fantasy is the same thing as PMO. I am trying to quit masturbation. I have a lot of close calls in the last few days.
     

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