Staying away from P is one thing. Overcoming the fear of ED is another. Once you start stressing about it, you lose your boner. I think you’re better off starting a relationship slow. Dating a while before engaging in sex. So many people go for sex before they even had a good and deep conversation first, it’s kinda weird in my opinion. The thing is. When you’re focused on your boner, you’re not focused on her. You’re not connecting, not building a relationship, not focused on giving her pleasure, not feeling the sensations in your body, not in the moment. You’re just stuck in your head. A lot of times people will say:“stay a way from P and it will fix ED”. Well that’s true and not true at the same time. It’s mandatory to stop P, so you can put yourself in a position where you can heal ED. If you can meet this girl again, just be honest. Tell her what happend. You quit porn and now you’re reconnecting your brain to a healthy libido. When you’re relaxed and comfortable together, and you’re not focused on it, erection happens. Then just stay relaxed. It might come and go. Be open in the communication and at a certain moment you’re rewired and it all just works.