Moving towards a more desirable future

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by chrism, Mar 1, 2019.

  1. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    Hi Chris,

    I'm contemplating of getting Freedom for myself because OpenDNS won't work for me because I use a vpn at all times and I don't want to give up my anonymity with all these asshole spying all the time (government, provider, etc.). I'm using Cyberghost btw. and I can highly recommend it.

    So, I have a few questions. Is Freedom an app that works in the background or what is the situation here? Can I configure it, so I won't be able to disable it? Does it work on multiple devices (I need two for my computer and my android smartphone)? Can I configure it, so that it only works as a porn blocker? I don't need it to increase my productivity. Also, is the official website?

    Thanks in advance!
  2. chrism

    chrism It's time to make a change.

    Hi there, yes I had the same problem using open dns with my vpn as well (I use NordVPN).

    Yes it does run in the background.

    I have gone into detail about how it works in my first few posts, but in summary; you install it, then create lists (one might be a P or P-subs list in your case and tick the ‘adult category’ but you will need to manually add your own sites depending on how obscure the sites you use are) you will then set the period of time you want this to be activated, and the schedule (I have mine come on every day at 04:00) but you could have it run for longer if you want.

    There is a feature called ‘locked mode’ the developer says if you activate this, the only way to turn it off is to contact the developer.

    Since installing freedom I have not had a relapse. I have now completed over 30 days of being clean.

    I have ‘tested’ it a couple of times and luckily it has worked, where as in the past I have done the same with k9 and the ‘test’ failed, leading me to relapse.

    You mentioned that you done want to use it for productivity, and this was my initial thought, but then ended up setting up (what I have called my) ‘level 2 block list’ which sort of just ended up being a p-sub / productivity blocklist anyway. And it does really help to reduce procrastination, which is a nice bonus.

    However this app is not the only reason I am clean, I have also been actively filling my time with other things, such as; going to the gym, working on my portfolio, being around people. So you have to make sure you do other things as well to fill your time.

    Hope that helps, and let me know how you get on with it, and yeah that’s the address.
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  3. chrism

    chrism It's time to make a change.

    Still clean, on like 34 days now.

    Feeling a little bit of cravings today.

    Got word yesterday that the company I work for is making a loss and that our jobs aren’t safe if this continues so I now need to think about moving to a new job.

    I am a bit stressed by this, however I think I’m in a better mental state than I would be had a not been on 34 days of being clean.

    I am trying to relate how I feel now to how I felt previously when I had long streaks. I am not feeling as good right now. This could be a flat line or just a general low point.

    I do however feel like I have more motivation to exercise or do work on my portfolio, I just feel less happy.

    Odd feeling to have those 2 emotions at the same time, hopefully my happiness levels increase over the coming days.

  4. -Luke-

    -Luke- Active Member

    I hope your job situation will resolve in a good way.

    And thumbs up for 34 days
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  5. Eternity

    Eternity Patience

    I experience the same. Perhaps it's due to the taint being stronger. Back then everything felt fresh; anything was possible. But considering that finding out about the addiction actually made it escalate even more, it makes sense to me. Here's to hoping that a turning point eventually comes.

    The job situation sounds stressful indeed. I hope it won't affect the reboot since it's going well.
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  6. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    Congrats on your streak, Chris! I just installed Freedom and configured it the way I want it to work. The only thing I'm missing is a whitelist but I asked the support about it and they told me that they are going to implement it in 3 months at the latest. Thanks again for the recommendation. After my last wet dream the chaser effect was real and really annoying and brought me to the brink of relapsing after smooth sailing for 60 days. So, I'm happy that I've added an additional layer of security.

    Edit: Do you know a way to block google's image & video search (for obvious reasons)?
    Last edited: Mar 13, 2019
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  7. chrism

    chrism It's time to make a change.

    Not posted on a little while as I have been keeping myself quite busy with life.

    On day 41 of being clean.

    This is the best I have done in a very long time, so I’m proud of my achievement. I do need to make sure I don’t get complacent though.

    I think I’m in a flat line or sorts... I do feel good, but I also feel a bit down and not really got a huge amount of sexual energy. Although last night I some really good sex with my gf. So I guess I just need to not think about it until it gets started.

    In the last week I have had a fair few fantasy’s enetering my mind, both P related and things from my past. I’m doing my best to push them out of my mind. This could be one of the reasons that I am feeling a bit of a flatline possibly... not sure but just gonna try ride it out and keep moving forwards.

    I have got a lot more motivation to just do stuff in life. I have been able to do more activities relating to exercise this last week or so and I am a more attentive bf. I have also got more concentration when I am working on my portfolio which I very useful considering my goals at present.

    I will reply to those who have commented on my journal in the next couple days.

    @Pete McVries I actually just block the whole of google ( and for 24 hours if I feel urges coming on. Hope that helps.


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