More than 70 days - Graduation

Discussion in 'Ages 25-29' started by fullset, Apr 16, 2012.

  1. RedPill

    RedPill Back to Reality...

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    Ah. Yeah I saw a Horizon documentary on it once, that and high-intensity interval training. Sounds intriguing.
     
  2. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    Relapsed...yayy!
     
  3. steffy78

    steffy78 New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    Hey full!

    Don't let it bother you. What led you to that relapse?

    Fasting can be a great solution provided you find enough strength to keep yourself busy.
     
  4. Chammorrow

    Chammorrow Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    It happens Fullset, I think that you've matured enough to know what it takes to reboot and to move on from a relaspe. you can do it, and you have before so get it together buddy

    and as far as fasting, I'm sure there are some benefits to it, but I don't know how keeping a reboot and fasting will be beneficial since you don't want to add another hard goal to the two others that you have.
     
  5. steffy78

    steffy78 New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    I agree with Chammarrow, fasting can be great don't get me wrong but it's got to have a spiritual aim rather than anything else. I reckon you're adding another burden in fasting.
    Then again if it's beneficial keep doing it.
     
  6. blinkfanvegas

    blinkfanvegas New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    Awww damn I was really enjoying the journal until you said you never had ED! next
     
  7. steffy78

    steffy78 New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    How are you doing mate?
     
  8. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 10no PMO, 134 hours no cigarettes)

    Update

    Sorry guys its been so long since I posted something in my journal.

    Life is awesome. Seeing improvements in every aspect of my life. Today, its been exactly a month since I quit smoking. I gotta tell you guys, beating an addiction is very empowering psychologically and I am sure that there are some neurological changes as well. But I really haven't felt this good in the last 10-12 years.

    Its also been quiet a while since I've PMO'ed. Six days into my PMO reboot, I quit smoking cigarettes and started intermittent fasting again and cold showers. Honestly feel that cold showers and fasting has been the game changer this time around. I love the feeling of being successful first thing in the morning (cold showers), and as we all know, success breeds success. I don't see any challenge as insurmountable especially when I win the battle against my own mind with cold showers and fasting. I've also started exercising and I can see the results now which is very motivating also.

    I've been getting comments from my family, friends, and co-workers about how I look and am behaving differently. I can socialize more, speak with more authority, and even when I don't say anything, I look like I'm in charge at work.

    The only thing left is weed. I don't feel like I'm addicted to it. Now I know that every addict feels like he isn't addicted, but I've gone days, weeks, months without smoking weed and I don't have any withdrawal from it. But I know that its keeping me from being 100% successful and I also feel that I procrastinate a little bit more when I smoke weed.

    I have a few more goals for the next weeks/months. One is to continue exercising and get in a killer shape. Other is to excel in the new field of study that I've undertaken. And as always, get some pussy ;D

    I think I'm ready for this. To people who might be on fence about doing this or not, all I can say is that I can't think of a better platform to launch yourself to success than no PMO.

    Good luck guys!
     
  9. Forgive Me

    Forgive Me tmrw belongs to people who prepare for it today!

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Hey Fullset.

    Long time since i read your journal buddy.

    Keep fighting, you will overcome all your difficulties with consistency.

    Glad to see you have finally give up the Cigs. One step at a time and before you know it you will overcome all your addictions.

    Onemore.
     
  10. steffy78

    steffy78 New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Awesome mate!

    Life without porn seems to bear fruit and how sweet it must taste! Good to see you're giving up 2 addictions at the same time. I mean wow!
    Keep it up man
     
  11. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Thanks steff and one more chance.

    I'm feeling better and better each day. Talking to girls is easier. I feel like a kid again. There is an almost permanent smile on my face. I can even say offensive things without offending people which I think is partly due to confidence - like you know how stand up comics can offend people but people don't take offense.

    Keep going guys - it does get better. I've been doing this since April 2012, and sometimes it just takes a while for your brain to really change permanently. I've relapsed several times but honestly the benefits do accrue. So keep going guys!
     
  12. Chammorrow

    Chammorrow Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    You haven't posted in a while fullset, good thing to see you back.

    YOu're one of those guys on the forum that I really value as far as how you are doing in life, and also your opinions. Seeing your improvements just shows me that I can't stop and I have to keep going. Good luck with your third reboot, you will kill this.
     
  13. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Hey cham I know its been a long time since I updated my journal. Work has blocked the forum and it's annoying as hell typing on my phone like I'm trying to do now.
     
  14. Pedigree

    Pedigree Active Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Kudos on your recent successes, man. You should be applauded for the mere fact that you're taking on 4 reboots at once.
     
  15. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Thanks pedigree. I staggered them this time and its a whole lot more manageable.
     
  16. darkwolf

    darkwolf New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Hi fullset, I'm grateful to you for your other thread and so I should step out of my age group and follow your journal here.

    I especially wish you luck cutting down and maybe even eliminating the weed use. I've found it to be a major resistance-lowering drug for PMO and other things. Enjoyed it as I have in the past, it would send me in a wrong direction if I were to take it up again, I'm sure.

    Best to you in the continuing battle!
     
  17. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Thanks darkwolf for your suggestions. You are right - weed really is a will power lowering drug. It saps your motivation and your drive.

    Day 50 Update

    What can I say? I feel invincible, and what's more women can sense it! They come around me, stand besides me, chat me up if they're not feeling good just so that they can catch some of my mojo :eek:. Seems like they get their dopamine from me :eek: I wouldn't mind being a hot chic's addiction ;) Like I described in someone else's journal, I feel like I'm on a runner's high all day long. I can't stop having a smile/grin on my face.

    Conversations flow a lot smoother. I can be a good listener and a good talker. Before I used to be a good listener probably because I wasn't a smooth talker. It feels more natural to be both. I guess if you're only a good listener, women might see you as a nice guy, but if you have something meaningful to contribute or even if you take a stand it seems more manly and natural.

    The biggest improvements have actually come from the spiritual side of me. I've been reading up on ancient yoga practices and taoist practices. They definitely confirm what I've been discovering by myself. The only regret now is why the fuck didn't I do this earlier? And why the fuck did I not realize this when I did my other 2 reboots? Anyways, I can feel like a part of me inside has come alive. May be its me starting to come in touch with my own soul - what 'I am' at my core. I wouldn't go as far as saying that I am definitely on the path of 'self realization', but I feel like I'm definitely getting there. I am starting to think that no one is born successful, but somewhere down the road, they realize something which makes things click a different way and that is when they start their road to success. The biggest compliment has actually come from my mom. The last few days she's been saying that all of a sudden I've started to feel like I'm more mature all of a sudden! This is weird because I've always been the kid for everyone in my family and especially my mom.

    I'm about to start weight training and just exercising more in general. I've gained about 6 or 7lbs since I quit smoking. I'm very keen on burning it off and put some muscle on. I also intend to continue with the healthy habits I've cultivated over the past few weeks. The good thing is that now when I think of my addictions, be it smoking cigarettes or PMOing, they thoughts are more like distant memories rather than something I want to do. I've never had my urges so diminished before when I did my reboot or even when I quit smoking for a year a few years ago.

    On a final note, I'm going to continue checking the forum on a regular basis for the next few days, but by the end of this month, I am going to cut down on the forum. I'll check in every few month(s) just to check on a few of you guys. I have gathered enough experience first hand and read all of your experiences enough to get through with this. It is getting a bit monotonous and I can clearly see how the forum itself has been turning into an addiction.

    I really want to thank all of you - guys who post in my journal and even you guys who have read or will read my journal. A special thanks to UD for the forum and Gary and Marnia for opening all of my eyes.
     
  18. darkwolf

    darkwolf New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    I really like all you said fullset. Having a spiritual/philosophical practice has helped me tremendously in this reboot. The key concept is something like "energy management." Sex energy is a big part of that as you're discovering. Keep at it! What you say about forum addiction is so true as well. I am somewhat addicted to this place because I have no one else to share it with and everyone here understands and supports one another so well. But life is meant to be lived.
     
  19. fullset

    fullset Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 36 no PMO, 30 days no cigarettes)

    Yeah I'm really liking all the new things I'm discovering about myself.

    About forum addiction - I've been a member since April 2012 and have had good decent streaks under my belt. Plus I used to be really active on the forum when I first started. So now I've experienced almost all aspects of rebooting, and if I haven't, I've definitely read about it. Even then, the basic essence doesn't change, does it?

    Don't fucking PMO

    That's it. We can intellectualize all we want. Come up with a million scenarios about what to do when we hit the urge. But for a million, billion, trillion scenarios, the answer still remains the same. Don't fucking PMO, right? I know this is too simplistic, and it is. I don't know what makes it so, but I think people who are actually successful (I'm not saying someone who's gone the 90 days or whatever) but long-time successful like Jdoe, Onanymous, and many others (users who most probably don't know) get it on some deeper level that they are never going to PMO. Can't really explain it in words, but once you get there, you know it for yourself.

    I also feel that the support for users with longer streak/more experience with no PMO days isn't there as much as I would like because I guess people can't relate much. Let me emphasize "more experience with no PMO days" because I don't believe that a 90 day streak is necessarily better than a 40 day streak. I know that benefits accrue and relapses don't mean much unless its a crazy binge (more PMO than your average PMO sessions before you reboot) over many days.

    PS: I don't want you guys to feel that I'm turning against the forum. I actually love all of you guys too much and that is the reason why this forum is an addiction for me. This forum has really opened my eyes and enable me to peel my personality layer by layer and make myself better. So thank you once again for that.

    I was reading about forum addiction and someone suggested (on another forum, ironically ;D) that one way they were able to get rid of their forum addiction was to troll the senior members and just make the forum a little hostile towards you. I can't do that b/c I love you guys too much for that. Someone else said to disappear all of a sudden, but it always makes me really sad when people do that. If you have any suggestions, please post them.

    Other thoughts: I was walking in the park earlier today and this thought came to my mind. Our mind is like a spring and depriving it of all the comforts is akin to pressing the spring. The more you press it, the harder it gets and more energy is required to press it further. But the pressed spring also has energy of its own. Now a regular, physical spring has a finite size, but our mind is like a vast, infinite spring. So there is potentially unlimited power that you can get from it, but it takes an insane amount of energy to keep it pressed and it gets harder as time passes. Paradoxically, our mind uses energy to suppress it, but also provides energy by being suppressed.

    So what have you guys been doing to press the spring?
     
  20. steffy78

    steffy78 New Member

    Re: 2 Reboots done, 3rd Re-calibrated Reboot (Day 51 no PMO, 46 days no cigarettes)

    Hiya full,

    You hit the nail on the head, we can intellectualize all we want but at the end of the day we need to call it a day. NO MORE PMO as simple as that.
    On other sites that deal with this, I've been told as long as we still want to Pmo we're not done with it. I think there comes a time when all those support groups, counsellors won't be enough.
    That may seem like the pot calling the kettle black as I'm far from being done with Pmoing but that's the key. Do I want to do porn right now? The answer is a clear NO. Will I want to jack off in a week? The answer will have to be no but right now I just don't know because I'm scared stiff again of relapsing. That's because my mind's been fucked up by porn and because I've been too lenient.
    I believe in streaks though, because they help us build our confidence and therefore our will to carry on. As you say a 6 month streak ain't necessarily better than a 7 day streak.
    Then again there's a psychological pattern that keeps reminding us "if we've done it once we can definitely do it twice and so on". That's what I believe in right now. However that's down to the will to STOP PMO BY ALL MEANS.
    Thanks mate for being a true example.
     

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