Men of Steel [GROUP]

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Men of Steel

"Iron is sharpened by iron;
one person sharpens another."
- Proverbs 27:17​

This is a group for Christian members or those with an appreciation for Christianity and Jesus' power to lead souls out of PMO addiction and into authentic sexuality and true love:

"Greater love has no man than this: that a man lay down his life for his friends." - John 15:13


Members can come and go as they need.


Simple Rules
- Post as often or as little as you need to.
- After joining the group, each member should make an "introductory post" where they talk about their current reboot situation.

Full Rules for Group Journals: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10328.0

 

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Nice! ;D

 

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Great weekend as expected. Got some work done, hung out with family, easy breezy. I made the decision to give up social media for lent and already logged out of everything except for nofap related sites which are on timers in Net Nanny. I already feel more freedom, calmness, and focus. I'm so thankful that Lent rolls around every year and forces me to take a hard look at my life: no one can serve two masters, he will hate one and love the other.

Just updated my signature with stats, hoping to beef those up during Lent, too. Have a great week everybody and I'll be checking in as often as I can.

 

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Ha, thats awesome.

Here are the rules for all the group journals in this site for anyone who hasnt read them. I think Underdog made them for a reason. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10328.0

"9) After joining the group, each member must make an "introductory post" where they talk about their current reboot situation."
I will add my introduction soon.

 

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Good call. My intro:

Late twenties, married, small children, been on the nofap journey for almost a year with varying success. I keep my stats in my signature and update them as I can.

Internet addiction and procrastination is a big problem for me. I think my PMO stems from this. So, I'm trying to eliminate things from my life that keep me from work and fun: internet, news, social media, TV, etc. I'm taking on some spiritual exercises for Lent and daily reading through:

www.whattogiveupforlent.com
www.menlivingforgreatness.com
www.flocknote.com/lent
Verbum Lenten Journey

and a few other Catholic apps I've found. Still can't let that keep me from working.

Thanks for your support and I'm praying for your progress, rewiring, and healing today.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (12 spots left)

My very brief intro:

Mid 30's this year, father, separated from my wife but wanting to win her back. To earn her back. Not been going well.

I have a counter because it helps, but the number isn't the important thing. The important thing is that with or without my wife that number is recorded somewhere eternally. Don't wait for devastation to force you to change.

This forum is probably my biggest life line and help in getting through the reboot, which isn't over I would say. It's just getting started in some ways. Getting off the substance is the easy part, compared to rebuilding my beliefs and unwinding the lies that got me here.

 

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My current reboot situation.

I don't know if i can say it is a reboot. Not in a sense that is common among this forum. I need to reboot my mind into thinking that MO is not an option. The only sexual release should be in marriage.

Ever since i started MO when i was about 15, i have struggled and regretted each time. As my counter in my signature suggests, i am not doing to well. Thought it is not every day so there is some positive side to it.
I have gone a whole summer without MO before and i want to do that this summer. There is better things that i can spend my energy on.

To give an age-21; in north dakota.

I hope you guy start doing better, I think we have let self worship or PMO rule our lives too much. I know there can be freedom because i know our God is great.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (12 spots left)

MsbtNnoPorn,
We just reset at the same time . I challenge you to a duel. Loser does 50 pushups non stop (which is tough for me).

maloo,
So sorry to hear about your wife. You're on the right track. Keep the lines of communication open however you can, however little it may be. Don't let her forget about you and how much you care for her. Do little things for her, acts of service, if she'll let you. We should all be doing this.

Didn't do my full morning routine this morning and went off track big time. 4 day streak is back to 0 but my stats are improving slightly. Still have a chance to have a great February record.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (12 spots left)

I'd like to join this group.

My intro:
Late 30's, new dad, fairly newly married, immigrant from the old world.
I've been on this journey more intentionally since November 2012, had some pretty good streaks of freedom from PMO last year, became lazy (and I guess also a little bit overwhelmed) since TLO is in our lives...

Started a fasting for lent on Ash Wednesday - not a full fast, but a fast of simple meals. Decided to get back on track here, not because I think "giving up porn for lent" is such a great idea (in particular: not something I want to take back on after Easter), but I know myself well enough to know I will look for alternative ways of instant gratification since selfmedication through food is not an option.

I think I "know" most of the things you can know about my addiction. What I need is: stability and accountability.

 

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Welcome FindingSanctuary. You're in and you're singing my song of laziness. While I too feel like I've learned "enough" about my addiction, I sometimes easily forget and need to be reminded. At the same time, I'm usually reminded of the beauty of relationships with others and my relationship with Christ.

Lent is the best time to get on track. I still have habits I created in Lent two years ago: Rosary/Chaplet on the way to work, Confession (scheduled, many times attended) every week, listening to religious talks on the way home, etc. Forget new years resolutions, Lenten promises are where it's at.

Congratulations on your growing family and new life. It's time to make it better with Him.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

"MsbtNnoPorn,
We just reset at the same time . I challenge you to a duel. Loser does 50 pushups non stop (which is tough for me)."

Haha! ok, idk if you already did the pushups but i guess cas i ended up with a MO that night.


U guys will do great! thanks for the intros.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

I did.

Do you guys use any free apps or browsers for your mobile browser that work well? Incognito mode is killing me. I'd love some tips. My phone has been my only weakness for the past year.

 

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Sorry, idk of any apps.

I ask for prayer and support though. My friend committed suicide last night. so many thoughts are going through my mind and its hard to deal with them. I have not spoken to the friend in a long time and i may never get to see him again now that he is gone.

my efforts to avoid MO have been minimal. yesterday i was just busy and didnt think about it. today i will probably be busy or MO is the last thing i want.

I will be praying for you guys. let me know of ways you need help or what you want to talk about. I need prayer for getting closer to God and spending my energy in correct ways.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

Prayers go out to you, MNP, and your friend's family. What a tragedy.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

I want to share this video with you guys today. It really spoke to me: trust means that whatever happens to me is for me, not against me. However, usually, when pain hits, I reach to self-medication and fool myself like the Israelites into thinking that during the time in the slave house of Egypt we sat around whole pots of meat.
Foolishness. Our way is forward, to the promised land.

Blessings to you all.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

Does this video have to be purchased or anything? You have to enter in personal information...I signed up for an account. you need credits to see the video...

Thanks for praying also.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

I don't believe you need to sign up nor purchase credits to watch the video on TWOTP, only if you want to download it.
Blessings!

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

Take heart. Temptation strikes when we least expect it: even when we're sad or depressed. I pray that your friend finds the gates of heaven, his sins are forgiven, and that you will see him again on the other side.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

Thank you.

I figured out that video, derr.
Its a really cool idea. breathing in the pain, experience it, allow God to work. I did something similar to this with my pain.

 

Re: Men of Steel 2.0 [GROUP] (11 spots open)

It strikes especially when I am sad or depressed. When I feel loved and strong, I am not invulnerable but have more strength to stand. When I am lonely it's harder.

I like that video. I think it's dead-on. The pain is part of the process.