Men of Steel [GROUP]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by freisein, Jun 12, 2013.

  1. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Too many good names to choose from! (Even though my money was on Hungry Hearts!)

    Love the new name, men of steel! Remember to put the Proverbs reference near the top so people know we're not simply superman fan boys! Although sometimes we are supermen.

    Reminds me of: Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine
    www.lifeteen.com/gay-catholic-and-doing-fine/‎

    "Is it hard to be gay and Catholic? Yes, because like everybody, I sometimes want things that are not good for me. The Church doesn’t let me have those things, not because she’s mean, but because she’s a good mother.

    "So, yes, it’s hard to be gay and Catholic — it’s hard to be anything and Catholic — because I don’t always get to do what I want. Show me a religion where you always get to do what you want and I’ll show you a pretty shabby, lazy religion. Something not worth living or dying for, or even getting up in the morning for."

    If quitting PMO was easy, everyone would do it.
     
  2. Well, I MO'd. It's like I didn't even care when I was doing it. On the bright side, I didn't fantasize or use any pornography. But I'm still mad that I just carelessly did it. I'm going on a mini-vacation tomorrow, so no pornography for sure; now all I have to do is avoid MO'ing again.
     
  3. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    IS, same feeling I had last time. While it was happening, I thought "this sucks". The buildup was pure addiction and I basically tricked myself into it. Once again, getting out of my routine (or any routine) was a major contributing factor. Get back on the saddle and drive on! Like my friend John says:

    On that note, I have an app called Habit Streak on my phone which daily tracks habits for me. Each day I simply check whether or not I:

    1. Read 15 minutes
    2. Exercised 30 minutes
    3. Avoided PMO, fed my soul
    4. Avoided wasting more than 15 min on the internet

    Upon looking closely at it, what a surprise?! The tally or ratio of successful days with total days of no PMO practically mirrored the other tasks! Getting major things in order in my life chokes out PMO.
     
  4. Drefree

    Drefree New Member

    Hi everyone,

    I'd like just to pose a question for discussion. Apparently, many of my relapses were out of control, just evidencing the addicted pattern of this behavior and all the chemical changes that my brain has undergone. It's as if I had no choice. But, as a christian, I also believe that there are spiritual enemy forces fighting against every human being. So, how to reconcile the view that porn addiction is the result of a change in our brain behavior and the view that somehow there is also evil spiritual forces trying to take control of our minds.
     
  5. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    We will always be tempted to do evil because it is attractive to us (and deceptive). We have the free will to choose it, nevertheless we give over some of our freedom each time becoming slaves to it (addiction). This site recognizes the brain patterns that facilitate addiction.

    Satan of course loves lies, confusion, sin, and separation from God who is love. He'll take us anyway he can get us (seven deadly sins: pride, greed, lust, anger, gluttony, envy, and sloth). Satan cannot take control of our minds; we have to freely give it to him.

    But focusing too much on Satan doesn't solve the problem of what to do. What is the answer? Love is the opposite of lust and Christ is the God of love, Who is Love. Since love is not a fuzzy feeling, Christ sacrifices himself for us and calls us to give of ourselves to others. I believe this is the key to overcoming self gratification: giving to others (sacrificial love, or agape).

    The heavenly virtues are antidotes to the capital sins (not in order): Chastity, Temperance, Charity, Diligence, Patience, Kindness, and Humility.

    descriptions here: http://www.aquinasandmore.com/catholic-articles/the-seven-capital-virtues/article/247/sort/relevance/productsperpage/12/layout/grid/currentpage/1/keywords/capital%20virtues
     
  6. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Had another reset (and another 50 pushups). It was so close to the 11 day goal mark that I can't tell if I made it.

    Readjustments:
    - Downloaded/updated for Chrome: Nanny, RescueTime, StayFocused, Time Warp, timeStats, Title Time Tracker, and Web Timer to help me stay productive on the web.

    - Started reading a book for adults with ADHD

    - Implemented no internet Wednesdays!

    I'll try to get my streak up before our August count! Thanks for your support, my prayers are for you.
     
  7. Keep pushing on totallyyours! Stay strong these next few days for the chaser effect - my first three days had terrible urges, but every time I overcame them, I felt proud and successful. Just consistently tell yourself that it's not worth it to PMO or MO when you have an urge, and learn to trust yourself.

    Have you tried Open DNS as a filtering device? It might help serve as a last-minute defense, and it's free. Check it out:
    https://store.opendns.com/familyshield/setup/
     
  8. freisein

    freisein New Member

    Hi guys...how are you? :) How many no-PMO days we have together?
     
  9. sputz214

    sputz214 New Member

    Hello. I would like to join your group but I'm not exactly sure how to go about doing so. Could you please help me? My email address is sputz21456@yahoo.com Thank you very much
     
  10. freisein

    freisein New Member

    Hi Sputz...you are in :)
     
  11. sputz214

    sputz214 New Member

    Great, glad to be here. I hope to meet someone who can point me in the right direction to overcome this habit of self pleasure. It's made my marriage horrible as I have a hard time being with my wife now, The last two years have been the worse. I don't have much willpower and that seems to be my setback. If you have any suggestions, i'd really appreciate it. It's nice to find a site where I dont' have to feel so ashamed. I hope to make friends with people on here who can help me out. Thanks for the reply.
     
  12. clufert

    clufert New Member

    Howdy sputz!

    You might consider setting up a counter to appear at the bottom of every post you make. It sounds silly, but keeping my counter number going day after day has actually helped a time or two in strengthening my will and keeping me from jumping into PMO. You can click on anyone's counter to go to the website to set up your own.
     
  13. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Hey Everyone,
    I second the recommendation for counters so we can have a grand total of PMO days free on Aug 1. Things are going well, still trying to quiet my mind and focus more. Frequently checking my to-do list has helped me stay focused (I may have ADHD which I'm looking into).

    Sputz,
    Look into some filters and time managers on Google Chrome or K9 and I recommend Kaspersky Parental Control for smart phones.
     
  14. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Guys failed again. :( I got an a laptop in the house with no filters. I guess it wasn't that sudden since I found some random pictures online the day before. Work and personal schedule has been out of sync (my laziness) so I'm trying to get back in the game.

    As I said, I'm also looking into an ADHD book. I may browse around the site for ADHD threads as well.

    The previous two weeks I was focusing on diligence in my life. This week was more listening and less talking (from Sunday's Gospel, Martha and Mary). Also been reading the Catechism from flocknote and it's been about chastity, marriage, etc. I posted some of it in the Helpful Quotes thread.

    Thanks for your prayers. May you have a diligent and prayerful weekend.
     
  15. freisein

    freisein New Member

    Deuteronomy 25
    17 Remember what the Amalekites did to you along the way when you came out of Egypt. 18 When you were weary and worn out, they met you on your journey and attacked all who were lagging behind; they had no fear of God. 19 When the Lord your God gives you rest from all the enemies around you in the land he is giving you to possess as an inheritance, you shall blot out the name of Amalek from under heaven. Do not forget!

    I hope I will never forget what porn did to me and other people here and will fight it forever!
     
  16. Woke up wide awake last night, and unfortunately MO'd twice. I'm regretting it - it was a stupid relapse. I'm setting a goal of no MO for 19 days. That marks the day I get to college. I don't want any more relapses between now and then. The only good news is that I have been successfully avoiding pornography for almost a month now.
     
  17. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Great weekend here: productive and busy but took some excellent time out to keep up with the events of World Youth Day in Rio. I read some great encouragement from Pope Francis that kept me filled all day. I'm still going back and reading his and other's addresses and words to the youth of the world.

    Getting on my routine. Currently reading: Be A Man! by Fr. Larry Richards and then Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic by Matthew Kelly.
     
  18. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Hey men of steel. Where are you guys??? I'm going on a little trip with no internet and I'm looking forward to the reading time I'll have. I'm bringing about 4-5 books along.

    What are your reading and internet habits? How much time do you spend on both per day or per week? Do you have a schedule?

    I read somewhere that you should read one book per week or month (fiction or non fiction). Of course this requires a reduction in media for most of us!

    Forgot to do a day count for Aug 1! Feel free to count on your own. I'm going to use one of my first posts on this thread to keep a record.
     
  19. I'm leaving for college on Monday! So far, I'm doing pretty good with NPMO and I plan to continue with it in college. As of now, I've been reading the Bible for 15 minutes when I wake up and 15 before I go to bed. It's amazing how much you can read in just 30 minutes. If you guys could, pray for my family, as I'll be leaving them for the first time to move on to college. Thank you.
     
  20. digitalzone

    digitalzone Guest

    Ok, I will pray (before I forget to do it).
    So, definitely for me it will be easier to not PMO in college. You have less time, more people around you. I am looking forward to be in school again! :D
     

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