masturbation and being the "nice guy"

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by shattered, Feb 19, 2018.

  1. shattered

    shattered Member

    I'm trying to piece together some things in my past life and how I got to the point where I am today.

    I have a theory that when you masturbate daily as a habit to fantasy or porn, when you encounter real women, you typically aren't "manly", but rather you're bound to behave in such a way that lands you in the dreaded "friends zone".

    First off, my theory can be wrong, but let's say I'm right.

    I believe that with frequent masturbation, it takes the edge off of any sexual pursuit of a woman, and the women you do encounter will naturally see you as a friend because she senses that "it's not sexual".

    Has anyone been in a situation where they make good friends with women all the time but it never goes anywhere sexually? This happened to me frequently when I was younger, and I'm starting to think that my solitary habit created the situation.

    BTW, IMHO, there is nothing wrong with having female friends. It's when 100% of encounters with women are non-sexual friend types that might not be normal.

    For some reason, the words just didn't flow in this post, but I wanted to get the conversation started at least.
  2. 1234dyl

    1234dyl Active Member

    Well if you think about your own behaviour, if you weren’t busting a nut every day and you were not seeing countless naked women everyday on porn, how much harder would you try to date that girl so you can see her naked and bust that nut?? It’s a no brainer really. We hinder ourselves by watching porn. There is the argument that we would be less needy around women if we weren’t relying on them for sex (abundance mentality is attractive to women) but I don’t buy that argument with porn. There’s something about being jacked up and ready that’s attractive to women I feel, not all spunked out cos you fapped in your bedroom lol.

    But in regards to what messages are you sending them, women work on sub communications. Me masturbating throughout my whole adolescence defo probably took the edge off me, made me less confident, more shameful around women and countless other things that they probably picked up on a subconscious or conscious level.

    Just my 2 cents
  3. shattered

    shattered Member

    Exactly, good quote
  4. shattered

    shattered Member

    This masturbation habit is really hard to beat. I came down with a cold, and couldn't sleep, yet I didn't want to go to work the next day on zero sleep. Alcohol wasn't an option because I'm abstaining from that now too. So I gave in masturbated twice for the sole reason to go to sleep.

    I'm starting to see that using masturbation to sleep, reduce stress, relieve depression, check to see if your thing is still works, etc... is really a problem. I have not been able to give up the masturbation habit. One time 5 years ago, I stopped for about 100 days, and I believe I was on the brink of a radically new life. I've never been able to get back to that point.

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