Lifeless Penis And Shot Libido Due To Compulsive Masturbation

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by freekings24, Jan 15, 2014.

  1. freekings24

    freekings24 New Member

    Hello Everyone I am new here ok so my issue is a very severe one. my problem is really not so much masturbating to porn its masturbating in general. for the past 3 years i have been a chronic masterbator. my penis now feels pretty much dead ! it is very desensitized to the touch i believe i did damage to the sensory nerves in the penis. it has a numbed non existent feeling now. i stopped for 12 days before i relapsed. even after 12 days it was still numb. i relapsed due to a wet dream it threw me back into masturbation.

    i am now going to try again. i was told by a urologist that penis nerve trauma takes a long time to heal depending on the person up to about a year at most. i need to know if anyone else has experienced this and if they made a full recovery from it

    i will go in more detail if i must to give anyone a better understanding.

    i used to be able to so much as think about sex or a girl and get rock hard plus i remember how sensitive my penis felt and how explosive and rewarding ejaculating was. plus i remember the strong will to have sex

    needless to say all of those feelings are gone. and now my erections are week and i can barely feel any sensation stroking my penis

    the only time i get a hard on is sometimes in the morning but its spontaneous.

    i used to just think about sex and my brain would send a signal and id get erect

    now its like my brain is no longer connected to my penis.

    i know this problem is also psychological as well psychical has anyone had this and got better??

    any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated
     
  2. Hooligany

    Hooligany New Member

    Hey dude, welcome! i don't think it goes so serious as 1 year to recover. maybe completely but,1 year just sound to much! do like everyone here, make a counter (just click on mine and follow the instructions). Everytime you have a urge, get out of your chair and walk a little, take a cold shower, go for a walk, go to the library, go meet your friends, etc... keep yourself busy! you have 1001 solutions. Go to the Journal Session and make one of your own! go as long as you can without masturbating...

    Welcome to the forum, my friend ;)
     
  3. Bounce

    Bounce New Member

    Hey man,

    I had exactly the same... Yes, what is happening to you is a direct consequence of all this masturbation with a death grip. The fact that you not only have lost sensitivity but also lost the desire to have sex is proof your brain is demanding a break. So get into no PMO as soon as possible, since this is the only possible way to gety better. As in for the time it will take, it varies from person to person. Me, personally, I came here in the same state as you, and I have been doing no PMO for 6 months now (with relapses). I have had some improvements in the quality of my erections, and my sensitivity is slowly coming back (slowly tho)... I don't wanna lie to you. Just get on it and set your mind on taking some time, you will not regenerate from penile trauma and years of porn abuse from one day to the other. By what I have seen, many people take long-ish to recover (specially younger ones or the ones who have been abusing porn/masturbating the hardest), but the human body is amazing and you are likely to recover.

    Cheers.
     
  4. Mart71

    Mart71 Guest

    From what I read from many accounts here and on YBOP, regaining sensitivity takes the longest to recover.

    One year for nerve trauma to heal? That actually sounds reasonable to me. I have been off the sauce for three months now, really reduced MO a lot and my sensitivity is still quite bad. BUT it has come back a little bit, so there is some progress.

    Sooooo the advise is: Just give it as much time as it needs and don't stress over it. Count the time to heal in months, not days. Try to live a good life without P and your dick will come back into service.
     
  5. freekings24

    freekings24 New Member

    Thank you all for the Replies ;) from what i understand wet dreams are not relapse? i had one again the other night but i did not masturbate after words i am going to not let wet dreams cause me to whack it no more. i think its cause my brain is over sexed? what do you guys think?

    i agree counting it in months and not days is best so my first month will be February then

    my penis is still of course still dead in feeling it can hardly feel hot or cold. hopefully in time the nerves will repair themselves

    and the wet dreams will stop i am tired to waking up to a mess in my underwear lol

    would love more tips and advice thanks guys
     
  6. Psalm 51:2

    Psalm 51:2 Wash away all my iniquity, cleanse me from my sin.

    DOn't worry about the wet dreams. They have no consequence on your recovery. Your can't control them because it's in your sleep.

    Second of all, you're not alone. I also numbed my penis with deathgrip and not using lube (I'm not circumcised) for 13 years of my life. I had no sensation when I lost my virginity. It sucked. Just don't masturbate fora few months, and buy some cream like Vitamin E oil or Man 1 Man oil.
     
  7. nowheretogobutup

    nowheretogobutup New Member

    freekings, your problem is a common one here, your description could be my own. I am at about 79 days no MO after many years (10+) of death grip PMO. I used Man1 Man oil since about 14 days of no MO, and really tried to avoid touching myself etc. My 'dead dick' started to come back alive around day 40 of no MO, it was bigger and warmer and felt 'fuller'. I still don't have much libido and don't consider myself healed at all but I have seen some positive signs like the improved penis feel, improved sensitivity in the penis, and return of nocturnal erections.

    Basically just stop the MO cold turkey, shoot for 90 days in my opinion. What have you got to lose? Note I found giving up P to be easy but struggled a bit with giving up MO so you can expect some challenging days.
     
  8. Psalm 51:2

    Psalm 51:2 Wash away all my iniquity, cleanse me from my sin.

    Imma read your journal, if you have one man. Good to hear you're getting your libido and penis back. I can feel mine getting more and more shrunken by the minute. It's like it's gonna disappear ;D
     
  9. nowheretogobutup

    nowheretogobutup New Member

    Yep, I got a journal and make sure to write significant improvements (not many yet). Its here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=14243

    Like I said it was 40 days before I felt anything good there. And sometimes I do seem to have the shrunken penis thing but honestly I suspect thats normal, ie if its cold or something, or I am stressed etc.

    Hang in there!
     
  10. alex0213

    alex0213 New Member

    Neutraceutical creams with L arginine are geared toward repair of sensory tissue - a penis health cream with amino acids and moisturizers might be worth a try.
     
  11. rebooting

    rebooting Member

    I battled this issue for 7 months now. Abstinence for several months will do absolutely nothing to regain penile sensitivity. I tried and while doing so, used Man 1 Man oil. It will result in false hope.

    I did death grip for 19 years, often multiple times a day. Last year, I even squeezed very hard during masturbation. In my case, it didn't result in nerve damage. It's your brain being used to a tight grip. About 3 years ago, I abstained from MO for a while because it didn't please me anymore. After several weeks, I got back into it and used a very light grip. I felt great sensations that I never felt before

    Fast forward 3 years and I started to cure death grip by using lighter grips. First, I used a fleshlight to MO. It took over an hour to reach orgasm. After several attempts, I managed to ejaculate in 5 minutes. I bought another fleshlight that has a looser grip. Again, I couldn't reach orgasm in a reasonable time, because it was looser than the previous fleshlight model. After some practice, I could cum in 5 minutes. The fleshlight is tighter than a real vagina. A lot of vagina barely has any friction at all. A fleshlight and a death grip is probably hundred times tighter than a vagina. Your brain can't replicate that. I didn't use the fleshlight anymore and started masturbating using lubrication and a very light grip. Even though I could cum in 5 minutes using a fleshlight, I couldn't cum using a light grip and lube. That shows just how much effort it takes to really train your brain to reach orgasm in a real vagina. Eventually, after a lot of practice, I could reach orgasm using lube and a very light grip. Actually, I'm not even gripping. I'm just leaning my lubed penis in a cupped hand and move it very slowly. It takes patience, but I managed to ejaculate in 20 minutes. Lastly, I leveled up by using a condom while masturbating with a light grip. That is very hard to do. Even a lot of guys who never did death grip MO have a hard time feeling sensations in a vagina using a condom. After several attempts, I could cum in a condom using a light grip in about an hour. I still need more practice to achieve orgasm in 5 minutes.

    What this says is that you can regain sensitivity by retraining your brain to send sensations to the penis. Abstinence does nothing. I tried, even using Man 1 Man oil 2 times a day and abstaining hard mode for months. Even doctors say that DE is cured by masturbating using lube and a very light grip. When I started retraining 7 months ago, I couldn't feel my penis at all. I inserted it into the fleshlight and literally felt nothing. I had to check if it's inserted. The more you practice, the more the brain knows that is the way it should be and you will get more sensitive. Using the fleshlight and later on my hand in a light grip, I felt sensations in my shaft that I didn't know was possible. To sum it up, it was like this:

    fleshlight practice until max sensitivity

    move on to light grip with lube until max sensitivity

    move on to light grip with lubed condom until max sensitivity

    Max sensitivity for me is being able to reach orgasm in 5 minutes.

    One important thing is that you should not MO more than twice a week while training sensitivity. The penis does need a break to recover, but not months.
     
  12. shattered

    shattered Member

    It wouldn't surprise me that it would take one year to fully heal. I have gone 90 days no MO, and have seen great results in the past. My problem is also MO mostly, not PMO. Can you rule out medications completely (now and in the past)?
     
  13. rebooting

    rebooting Member

    I never use medicine, so I'm pretty sure about that.
     
  14. lost 1

    lost 1 New Member

    My experience is after stopping years of masturbating with death grip the regaining of sensation has been my biggest improvment.It was slow to notice first but now 10 weeks in it seems 80%-90% better.
     
  15. Ocguy

    Ocguy Member

    did u use death grip?

    You never clearly stated that was your issue... I know you think this is your problem because of the numbness. But People can get numb just from ejaculating too much and depletion in general.
     
  16. MichaelT99

    MichaelT99 New Member

    Fellas.. masturbation can mess up your penis skin pretty easily. Issues can range from chafing and soreness to nerve damage and a loss of sensitivity. But there are penis health cremes on the market that will treat and protect your skin from these problems. You simply apply a creme once a day and you are covered.... Man1 Man Oil is the best one out there.
     
  17. Harvill

    Harvill New Member

    I've used magic meds for week erection. Lately I've been taking vitamin D3 orally and noticed an improvement in sensitivity after 3 weeks.
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