hey Rudolf, i have pied for years. but the main reason i need to quit is to be intimate with my wife. i mean intimate in a loving, caring, compassionate way. of course sexually too. but with the PIED comes the estrangement not only with my wife but everyone else. i am always thinking that i am half a man, not enough. or less than. and i know it's because of my little "secret". my focus when the urge hits is first to recognize it for what it is. i see it as my greed for pleasure trying to highjack my brain into porn. once i recognize it i will deliberately take action. for me this means no computer. read, workout. walk. do honeydos. anything but give in to this monster. i am not always successful but i keep trying. hang in there. rooting for you.