I feel the same in that it is scary and it really screws with my confidence. As opposed to a long period of abstinence which can make one super confident. Are the 2 maybe related? How natural is it to be without sexual release for a long period? Relapses always happen in a train of events in which the boundaries are slowly lowered. But the longer you abstain, the faster this train of events can take place and the more intense and extreme the relapse often is (binging). We need to find a balance (yourbrainrebalanced), but I feel that long-term abstinence is doing the opposite. Long-term abstinence feels good for as long as it lasts, but I feel more and more strongly lately that it is really about finding a balance with either intimite sex or intimite masturbation (wo fantasy) right from the beginning. As Saville always writes: neurons that fire together, wire together.