Last Train Home (Goodbye YBR)

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Johhny Bravo, Jul 1, 2019.

  1. Johhny Bravo

    Johhny Bravo Every temptation is another chance of life revival

    All beautiful, lasting things should always have an end mark. This is my end. I am leaving my account and whilst I wont be deleting it, I wont be logging in for quite some time.

    I will be open on this forum for the next couple of days to the end of this week, so if you have any questions about how to quit porn or you want to have a chat, just send me a message or you can comment here and I will respond.

    This is indeed a beautiful forum with respectful, loving people.

    I have been part of online forums for a while and can say there is usually a problem I term "online cannibalism."; one person ends up gobbling up most of the attention and overcrowds and shuds people out. It is very annoying. And trolls etc....This forum isn't like many others I have seen. I love how there is an atmosphere of respect, easiness, advise giving without power tripping, genuine sincere sharing deep from your hearts and an attitude of openness. Out of many forums out there, YBR is one of my favourite and on the subject of addiction, wow, incredible. If it were real life I can imagine how healing things would be.

    I have many takes on tricks to quit porn and move on with existence. Many of you members also have interesting different views on it and its amazing. I have learned great things from you men, and what I can share is that it is never what you say or the technical workings of an idea or attitude, but the energy and spirit/intent behind the attitude which is the giveaway.

    If there are things to leave you with for advise on quitting porn, let us recap. I will purposefully make it short and simple because there is no need to get fancy:

    1. Regardless of what happens with your porn use, make self-respect and self-acknowledgement, self-cherishing, self-love your number one priority above all. For me, I found I needed the permission to be able to indulge in a 30 hour binge of porn, and after that instead of shaming and whipping myself, say, "Johnny, it's all good....You're a good kid, you're a good dude, it's ok.." I have found nothing less than this attitude to be harmful. You cant quit porn without a loving, familiar, friendly kind smile from yourself and gentleness. Any harshness, any brute force punishment, any slap in the faces from yourself is all fuel for another deep trip of self-guilt. To exit the self-guilt train, you need to reparent yourself in a loving fashion.

    2. 'Quit porn' just translates as "stop flowing energy down this path, and flow it down another path." You cannot suppress your sexual energy no matter what you may tell yourself. It either comes out through porn, or another means. Look at many religious priests and you will see they suppress their sex and it comes out in perverted ways. Take men into jail cells long enough and they will become homosexual. These extremes just reveal that we cant suppress energy, and especially sex energy. Locate it elsewhere. For me, I went on a mad girl spree and ended up dating all the girls and women and goddesses I wanted; that was the exchange I made, quit porn, get real women. I don't regret it one bit but it was out of my comfort zone.

    3. Make your life a James Bond adventure every single day. Don't be scared of going over the edge with things, and if you want to quit porn, just make your 'real life' super fun. The internet is amazing, but limit it. Social media I am not a fan of and believe it is poison, and I found quitting social media during those times to be effective. Get a sport or fitness thing going, go meet some weird souls, go down the rabbit hole of existence, get eaten by some sharks, go and gamble your savings- just have an adventure and live life.

    Existence will take care of you. When it's your time to quit, it is time to quit. Simultaneously, ensure all your efforts are gentle and from a place of self-love. Don't try and prove anything to anyone.

    It's been a blast. All journeys must end. And that is also why I advise that after you have counted day X amount of days free of PMO, make sure there is some 'end point' where you can graduate and say, "Yes. I did it. Now I will celebrate, I will reflect, and on to the next phase of my beautiful life."

    Despite if you believe you have failed, the fact you put in some effort is beautiful enough. What more reasons do you need to self-love? We are all just doing our best.

    Thankyou so much for letting me play here and be with you all, and for all of your feedback and attention.

    As I said, I will be hanging around for a few more days to respond and examine things but this train will be departing shortly.

    I love you all and will meet again soon :)
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  2. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    Goodbye Johhny. I really enjoyed your posts here (including this one).

    Wish you only the best!
  3. Axiomatic

    Axiomatic Member

    I would like to bump this thread.

    Firstly, I like how the OP discussed the level of respect on these forums and I really appreciate that as well. The troll level is remarkably low and this seems to be a place where genuine issues may be described which is essential for us to have good communication and trust to be able to discuss a really difficult topic of conversation.

    Secondly, I really do think OP hit the nail on the head about the most important thing - self-compassion, self-love and all of the ideas about forgiveness. This seems to be a crucial component for getting over PIED because sex is an act of giving and loving, and you can't give that if you can't have it for yourself. Part of my experience was to forgive, and let go, of all the stuff I did to myself to get my to PIED levels. I had to realize that what happened, happened. There was nothing I could do, and for what it was worth, I had no ZERO idea that watching porn and masturbating was not healthy for me. Why, and how, should I hold myself accountable for something I didn't know was detrimental for me?

    Moving on from those negative thoughts can do wonders.

    Thanks Johnny, for your post. Inspirational and deeply written. Cheers, love you too man. Best of luck on the next stages of your journey!
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  4. Mekkeren

    Mekkeren Member

    I might not have expressed it to you but your optimistic posts really gave me hope and I am trying to love my self more and more each day. I fully agree that this is essential to quitting porn.
    Point 2 and 3 I still need to work on.
    Especially point 3. It scares the crap out of me to go out of my comfort zone. Typing here is already scary lol. But it is what I have to do to grow. And something that is the furthest from your comfort zone will have the most potential for growth.

    Best of whiches and love Johnny.
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  5. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    Goodbye Johnny, it was nice meeting you on here.

    I appreciate the advice and perspectives you have given me.

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  6. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Thanks so much for your valuable insights Johnny. May you fare well!
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  7. Johhny Bravo

    Johhny Bravo Every temptation is another chance of life revival

    Thankyou all big heart felt hug to everyone.

    Bye for now.

    I love you all.
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  8. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    Thank you for sharing, Johnny. I have also found your posts helpful. The personal advice you have given me about self confidence is something that I particularly appreciate. All the best for the times ahead. I hope that we will have the opportunity to see you again on here :)

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