Last porn use yesterday. QUIT cold turkey yesterday eve.

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by breath, Jan 10, 2020.

  1. breath

    breath Member

    Quit all porn accounts and QUIT cold turkey yesterday eve... cold turkey is best for me - easier - no grey area... as much as it suckers guys in it is not something we've had in our evolution

    - it's not a necessity - so quitting is very possible, very do-able.
     
  2. breath

    breath Member

    Ok I actually worked on my school work!
     
  3. breath

    breath Member

    I'm not sure why the counter didn't show the first 24 hr period without porn... It's at 0 days
     
  4. breath

    breath Member

    I'm happy that I got work done today. My goal is not to quit porn for the sake of quiting porn... but rather having a happy life
    and accomplishing things in my life
     
  5. ruggerdoug

    ruggerdoug Well-Known Member

    Welcome!

    The counter doesn't flip to the next day until after the 24 hours is earned; we as humans often round up, the counter doesn't! Don't focus on the counter, focus on "having a happy life!" and it'll be an easier go at this.

    I would encourage you reading the resources here as well as at NOFAP. Educating yourself on the dynamics of porn addiction and PIED and whatever else ails you that is related to those two things is not only helpful but almost a necessity.

    I mean to be encouraging with this as well -- this is a long term fight, slips and relapses are normal in the addiction fight no matter what the addiction is. If you think it is a quick fix you'll likely get frustrated. Some guys get frustrated and leave. Others keep fighting with the help of others here. Read other journals. Comment on them. Solicit advice and support from the rest of us here. You are alone because you are doing this on your own and we are all anonymous ... but you are NOT alone because we all learn from each other all the time!

    Good luck! Again, welcome!

    Rugger Doug
     
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  6. positivef

    positivef New Member

    Congrats. I have, in the past, contemplated trying to just use a little porn - but it always ended up with a binge.

    However, I've had a change of heart over the last few months, thinking about how damaging porn is overall. Ultimately I used it as a very unless plaster over multiple issues I have.

    It's not just porn either, it's all those sexualizing thoughts over any image that can set you off down the relapse path.
     
  7. breath

    breath Member

    Sex with wife this morning. A quickie before the kids woke up. A brief hint of round two.... maybe tonight... vibes are good anyway + I gotta work around the house - Todays is Sunday
     
  8. breath

    breath Member

    Really nice sex this morn. but too short...
    but alas it is Monday morningand every one is now off to work/school.
    I was super hard, but household distractions and perhaps my lack of sleep and cardio may have effected erections. I could say it's age too except the fact thati was quite hard before hand. Masturbating with death grip probably has had an effect
     
  9. GreyHeron

    GreyHeron Active Member

    Breath, welcome aboard. You do not give your vintage. We have many older guys here who claim that good cardio health and leaving the stimulation to their partner has given them great erections.
     
  10. breath

    breath Member

    55. I'll go jogging this morning. Gonna go light
     
  11. breath

    breath Member

    i haven't used porn. that's good . but i get distracted by internet.

    asking myself what do I want to stop or cut back on is fine.... it is important

    but not as important as

    ACTUALLY DOING WHAT I DO WANT TO DO .
     
  12. breath

    breath Member

    havent gone jogging or done school work yet.... ok back at it.. good day all
     
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  13. positivef

    positivef New Member

    I'm going to jog later today. I'm try to go at least every other day.
     
  14. breath

    breath Member

    Definately used to watching porn. I have refrained. There is one part of addiction that is just the habit.

    Context. The time of day, location whatever.
    Whether the percieption is a need or not a need it is a habit - mindless and reoccurring. Stopping a habit may only be putting it off temporily.

    What I want to achieve is not a void but a brand new habit which is fullfilling
     
  15. positivef

    positivef New Member

    Right, you could describe the habitual routine as a kind of trigger. Like being home alone automatically triggers thoughts of porn use.

    Yes to brand new fulfilling stuff.
     
  16. breath

    breath Member

    Thanks for reiterating... that helps remind me quest to keep on track with concrete goals to pre-empt the habitual routines. I was going there this morning and feel good and inspired now again...
     
  17. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    Yes. Putting people and situations in a sexual context creates many mental struggles
     
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