Last chance...

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by CleanBootsBaby!, Aug 28, 2021.

  1. crhisram14

    crhisram14 New Member

    [QUOTE = "CleanBootsBaby !, post: 721484, member: 39015"] ... para registrarse y escribir en la sección de 30-39 años! : pag(Bueno, técnicamente todavía tengo tiempo hasta enero de 2022 ... pero * no * tengo tiempo, al mismo tiempo ... ¿me entiendes? : confundido:)

    ... pensaste que iba a escribir algo más dramático, ¿no? ;)Todos somos (¡ok, la mayoría!) Demasiado dramáticos al elegir nuestro nombre de usuario : frio:... luego rebosantes de motivación mientras redactamos nuestra primera publicación : frio:... aprendemos a seguir los movimientos (tal vez incluso lucir bien al hacerlo: "Oh ¡Amigos, esto es tan fácil! ¡El cielo es el límite, babyyyyy! ¡Me siento como un recién nacido! ": frio: ... entonces, para la mayoría ... se desvanece más rápido ... o más tarde : eek::UPS:: Rodar los ojos:.

    Estoy tratando de ser menos emocional con el proceso. Sé muy bien lo que se necesita para vencer esta adicción. Lo hice, una vez, durante algunos años. También ayudé a muchos en el proceso; vi caer algunos, menos triunfos.

    Sé que todo lo que se necesita es disciplina, elegir cada día lo correcto. No hay atajos, solo más formas de despellejar a un gato.

    Cada día de ocuparme de mis asuntos en lugar de complacerme con mi enfermedad no me acerca ni un día más a una inevitable recaída; en realidad, destruye el control que este mal hábito tiene sobre mí. Una mentalidad de víctima no tiene nada que ver con ir en contra de algo de lo que soy 100% responsable y 100% en control.

    "Huye de los malos deseos de la juventud" dice 2 Timoteo 2:22. Eso es, nada más, huye . Sin dudas, dudas o miradas, nostalgia entretenida (... y tengan paciencia conmigo porque todavía me etiqueto como "un hombre joven" :D). Olvidé cómo odiar el lugar en el que me pone esta cosa más que amar la emoción temporal que se siente. Por eso estoy de vuelta en un foro como este.

    Volviendo a lo "emocional". Es profundamente emotivo darme cuenta de que aprendí la verdad sobre la adicción a la P a los 29 años; creando, entonces, una cuenta en un foro de ideas afines por primera vez y finalmente triunfando sobre esto ... solo para, 10 años después, darme cuenta de que estoy en un lugar similar. Ya sabes, dicen mayores y más sabios ... así es como deberían funcionar las cosas, ¿verdad?

    Necesito recuperar mi motivación. Independientemente de que los últimos cuatro años hayan sido a veces literalmente un infierno . Independientemente de las cosas por las que he pasado y sigo experimentando. El sufrimiento no debería sumarme a otros sufrimientos.

    Honestamente, cuando comencé a escribir esto, casi sentí que preferiría usar P en lugar de estar aquí. Decidió hacer esto en su lugar, antes de que el uso de P se convierta en algo cotidiano nuevamente. Y ahora me siento bien de nuevo.

    Sé lo poderosa que puede ser la rendición de cuentas. En este momento estoy ayudando a alguien más a liberarse de otra adicción ... y antes, mientras contemplaba su éxito, me sentí como un hipócrita.

    Preparándose para terminar la perorata. Desde el foro de pornaddictioninfo.com, hasta el de NoFap ... me doy la bienvenida aquí. Volveré a tener esposa algún día y quiero ser el mejor esposo posible. Hasta entonces, todo lo demás puedo ser.

    No sé si seré tan activo aquí como en otros ciberespacios. Depende de cuánto tiempo encuentre y de cuánto de mí pueda invertir en otros. Humildemente admito que ya no sé si lo tengo en mí. A uno le cuesta mucho convertirse en mentor.

    Simplemente ayuda, mientras "limpio mis botas", ser responsable. Tener un contador, saber que alguien está leyendo mis divagaciones y tal vez encontrar motivación en ellas. Incluso si ya no paso horas y horas en MP, correos electrónicos con otros ... dándoles la bienvenida a todos en este lugar o compartiendo en persona mi "bolsa de trucos", por el simple hecho de que amo a la gente.

    Una última cosa. Este será el "modo difícil". Cualquier otra cosa conduce a un reinicio. Sin P, sin M y sin sustitutos (todos saben muy bien qué son). Sé mucho mejor que eso. Entonces ... "modo monje". Sé lo difícil que es (como alguien que ha estado soltera durante 4 años y se abstuvo de cualquier "atención" femenina que podría haber tenido mucho fuera del matrimonio) y no me comprometo demasiado al elegir esta forma: cualquier cosa menos sería falta de compromiso .

    Ahora para configurar ese contador ... [/ QUOTE]



    ¡Después de un largo período de adicción al porno! ¡Todos hemos intentado parar, porque nos damos cuenta de lo mal que estamos viviendo la vida a causa de esta cosa horrible! ¡Gran parte de todo lo que logré fue por todo el contenido que buscaba en grupos, foros y todo! ¡Uno de los mejores para mí son los podcasts porque tocan tu alma directamente! ¡Recomiendo a este hombre con todo mi corazón! ¡Simplemente me ayudó! y lo comparto porque también te puede ayudar mucho, hombre! ¡Reinicio de JayKay Porn! ¡Intenta buscarlo! ¡No te arrepentirás, te dice alguien a quien ayudaron! his name is JayKay! serch for youtue!
     
  2. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Whoa...that was a lot. Thanks for the recommendation. Please use English going forward :).
     
  3. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    As much as I dislike modern rock / nu metal, here's an exception...and high-energy motivating song:



    Keep throwing those haymakers, guys! 19 days: graduated.

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  4. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    23 days, like a boss.

    Yeah, sometimes I miss the "convenience" of "taking care of business" myself, but it's not worth it.
     
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  5. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    I'm doing fine, even less present here. Just checking in to report 30 days. Having some structure helped me indeed.

    I was tempted a few times, but no incidents to report. This ship is sailing well.
     
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  6. Rudolf Geyse

    Rudolf Geyse Well-Known Member

  7. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Thank you, @Rudolf Geyse (19 days is NOT shabby at all, great job!), and to the other gents that liked my post! I appreciate it.

    Keep fighting the good fight, MEN!

    I will be dropping by every now and then to see what's new. For the time being, I feel keeping myself busy in other ways helps. Seems like I've gotten in a rhythm and it is refreshing simply being...normal. Part of feeling normal seems to be taking short breaks from the forum.
     
  8. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Reminder & motivation for myself: https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/for...e-road-goes-ever-on.13968/page-47#post-722488 .

    36 days, going strong. Today I had an almost instant erection just from seeing an attractive woman in real life (thankfully, I was seated and well out of anyone's sight, LOL). It's been a while - seeing how things were ummm...growing in my pants, reaching a semi-erect state in a few seconds...so few because I wasn't looking like a creep - since I was worried about some social mishap...just like back in my teens.

    Guys...it is worth it. Stop half-assing it. Do what needs to be done, NOW. Burn the book of excuses.

    Some sonic motivation, this thing just gets me revved up:


    No deadheads in here, LOL! The term fits the description, LOL. Would've made a wicked username!
     
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  9. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Maaaaan...some health problems...pain etc. Hormonal stuff!

    Besides, two nights ago almost had a wet dream, woke up pretty pissed-off because it didn't happen - that being my only outlet, of course :|. Felt like (timestamped) [Edit - nvm, the forum doesn't support timestamping; @ 39s]:

    Hahaha!

    But the frustration dissipated (it helps when you're having other problems, LOL). Concentrated on helping others, in deeper problems than I...probably 5 or so people today...it feels good.

    At the same time, feeling motivated in all domains...happy with today's productivity...

    Being around young pretty women helps, too.

    37 days, lads. In a few minutes.
     
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  10. Rudolf Geyse

    Rudolf Geyse Well-Known Member

    Great streak @CleanBootsBaby! Go for it.

    Btw that live recording is superb.
     
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  11. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Thanks, man, I appreciate it. Rebalancing continues:
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    Believe it or not, I just discovered Devin Townsend. The advantages of having other colleagues into rock/metal :) - mainly younger guys that I usually surprise with some classic acts they haven't heard of, but this time it was a slam-dunk for the young'uns...and I am happy.
     
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  12. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    38 days. Another good, busy one (serving others, working); most importantly...P-free.

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    Guys, we dug ourselves into these pits by repetition. The same thing is required from us to pull ourselves out. Day after day after day. There were no shortcuts employed when we messed up our brains - instead, a deliberate, devilish persistence; should we now fear to apply the same method, but for a better cause? Bemoan that it's "too difficult"? Naaah!

    If you put everything into sparing your existence from tragedy, there is no way - let me repeat that: no way - for you to fail.

    Let's just be adults; take time to consider the consequences and feelings of pure dread (the very second we ejaculated) lived in the past, before going down the road of the fool once again.

    The weightlessness of a soul that has nothing to hide is something that can't be bought other way than paying this price, and I'm both hands deep into my pockets. This must be so much more precious for the weary Christian.

    Do you value knowing you're not a hypocrite as much as you'd state at any other moment, in the very moment when the opportunity to act out knocks at the door? Do I want to hit again rock bottom to wake up from this trance? Do I?

    Eyes on the prize, gents. Its size will tell you it is worth it. There's too much other kind of beauty in this world - and it registers when our dopamine receptors are back firing as God designed them to. Not when we are sick.

    Speaking of beauty and sickness, the song of the day, breaking from the usual rock/metal mold :):


    (P.S. Also, feeling better - health-wise!)
     
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  13. BoughtWithBlood

    BoughtWithBlood Well-Known Member

    “The weightlessness of a soul that has nothing to hide” Oh man such a precious thing. Well put into words.

    Glad to read you’re feeling better!
     
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  14. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Thank you for everything! I appreciate it, man. See you coming strong with your counter, nice round number you've got there yourself. Keep up the good work!

    You know, I tend to write A LOT :D, something good-sounding is bound to "happen", eventually :D...
     
  15. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    To mark my (soon to be) 40th day clean, I'm going for a treat, such as:



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    This is an important (symbolic) number for me - because, as I said, I want to enter my 40th birthday clean. There will probably be regrets regarding things that went wrong in my life - oddly and sincerely, few that I can impute to myself...welcome to the human existence in a crooked world - but this won't be one. So help me God.

    Stay focused, gents. The more days clean - w/o compromise - you amass, the lesser grip this thing has over your life. To repeat myself...repetition, says a saying in my country, is the mother of learning. Unlearning goes through the same path.

    Respect for anyone that goes against the grain and values himself (or herself - even women can struggle with this today) more than to engage in defilement. Lay down the self-abuse; there's enough things that abuse us, and the last thing you need is to seek solace into something that promises to soothe, yet poisons your whole being...while you know very well the aftermath of each "session". At one time, masturbation was called self-abuse...turns out, it wasn't some overblown "puritanical" impulse after all to label it as such; if we only knew.

    Stay wholesome, bros!
     
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  16. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Having a not-so-great day today. Not addiction-related.

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    I'm not big on motivational speeches - at least not for me. (I do it, rather, for others.) Because I consider that the quiet guy in the corner, minding his business, many times does much better than the one full of bravado, piss and vinegar...that slowly dissipates :), in time. Let's rather look at the contact surface of that rubber and that road. Don't let your eyes be seduced by the fast stallion that runs like the wind only to stop where the quiet, humble mule negotiates its path carefully and slowly through the roughest terrain.

    Also, because in the past I made promises that I broke. "Yeah, I got this!" - only to get complacent after 6 months.

    OTOH, sometimes proclaiming that I am healed takes everything and puts it right back in perspective: on my own shoulders - since I am responsible for everything in this thing. Yes, I know very well that sometimes God adds grace to my situation just to make everything fall on the right side, and not unfold as a disaster instead; but, in general, I understood, years ago, that - as He seems to operate with the more mature Christians - He won't give me instant victory over a besetting sin for which the Bible's RX is simple: to run away from.

    As with so many other things in my walk of faith, every time I think I "figured something out", He comes back and shows me things that years ago I would've never understood, let alone agree with. And even when I am tempted to despair of how little I know Him, I go back to the simple things like His Sovereignty, trust in Him and hope...even when I don't know what my faith should look like to please Him, anymore, in the particular context I am going through. My whole suffering and the questions it drags behind stop being relevant when I look at Golgotha and I see God dying on a cross for me. How can I complain about fairness, when His whole life on Earth culminated in the most unfair death of all, and the greatest suffering ever experienced, under the weight of all our sins (that includes mine)?



    All my questions and frustrations cease, as "My knees are buried at Your cross", my sweet Christ, Savoir of this wretched soul of mine.

    One of the most beautiful songs I've ever heard - and that comes from an Evangelical living in a predominantly Orthodox country, and a background in Theology (including a Masters). It moves me to tears (English subtitles):



    This live rendition is absolutely heartbreaking:



    (Sung in Aramaic.

    As for the different titles - a comment explains it well: "Confirmed from a Chaldean Catholic priest I'm acquainted with who knows Aramaic, they are chanting Psalm 51/50. It's Psalm 51 by the RSV and NAB numbering (and even the KJV numbering), but Psalm 50 according to the numbering that the Orthodox still use.")

    God bless all His children, regardless of their denomination.
     
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  17. Rudolf Geyse

    Rudolf Geyse Well-Known Member

    @CleanBootsBaby! Wow guy! Amazing post! Remarkably mature outlook (which I've come to expect from you). I look forward to working through some of the videos.
     
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  18. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Thank you! Very gracious of you; appreciate it. Feels good being called mature :D (I try very hard, this journal is part of the missing puzzle of maturity...).

    I promise you won't feel like you wasted your time if you put some aside to listen to those music videos. They are simply divine.

    I try to walk into this light I've been given; who knows what other spiritual lessons God has for me? It's been years since He has shown me ever new things, and continues to surprise me. It will surely feel GREAT in Heaven, when we will finally get the big AHA! moment and know everything in fullness...not in part.

    Btw - already checked the 40+ section for your first post :D. Expect me right there mid-January :). For now, all the best - to new beginnings!

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    42 days. Wasn't 42 supposed to be the "answer to everything" (it was actually a longer formulation) :)? It may not be so in reality, but for sure it is today's answer to the bad impulses of the flesh that need to be subdued. So...I'm happy, humbled, and (cautiously) proud of yet another day focusing away from the rubbish and doing my best to walk the way I am supposed to.

    Time to post a timeless song about addiction. It has motivated me many times:


    It's a sleepless night, she's callin' your name
    It's a lonely ride, I know how you want her
    Again and again, you're chasin' a dream yeah
    But Johnny my friend, she's not what she seems

    Johnny B, how much there is to see
    Just open your eyes and listen to me
    Straight ahead, a green light turns to red
    Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B

    And when you drive her home, is she sittin' real close
    Does she make you weak, well that's the way that she wants you
    You're strung out again, she's taken you over
    You've been here before, why can't you let go

    Johnny B, how much there is to see
    Just open your eyes and listen to me
    Straight ahead, a green light turns to red
    Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B

    And when she calls your name, my sweet Johnny B
    You can drive all night and you know she'll be waiting
    To love you again, her kiss is her poison
    Forever inside you, wherever you go

    Johnny B, how much there is to see
    Just open your eyes and listen to me
    Straight ahead, a green light turns to red
    Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B

    Johnny B, how much there is to see
    Just open your eyes and listen to me
    Straight ahead, a green light turns to red
    Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B

    Oh, can't you see, oh, Johnny B
    Oh, can't you see
     
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  19. crhisram14

    crhisram14 New Member


    I totally relate what you're going through. I experienced the same (reiterate a few painpoint they initially shared) during my reboot journey and this guy content helped me a ton https://bit.ly/3kefPUi
     
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  20. CleanBootsBaby!

    CleanBootsBaby! Active Member

    Thank you for writing in my journal and for your recommendation especially! We're all in this together, and we're all gonna make it, bro!
     

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