I agree: it's very easy to fall prone to the overwhelming sexiness of a woman (in porn or real life) or the warm nest feeling. It's something we should master on our way from boys to become grown up and mature men. Staying solo for a while and getting our shit together will be a valuable phase for most. However the right women actually can inspire us to become better men. Women complement us, if we can handle them. They will get us out if we are stuck in our "cold minds" and will present us with new challenges so we can grow. If you stay alone you can only get so far in life and I have yet to see a widely successful and respected man without the presence of a woman (that is not his mother) in his life. But of course being alone is better than being with the wrong women. If you constantly pick the wrong women or get rejected by the women you desire there might be something you have to learn first.