I read your article. First of all, hope your daughter is well. The article is eye opening. A while ago, I read from Bernie Brillstein that one should actually say "I hope you understand" while explaining behavior. But you said that's an incorrect way to go. "This is you trying exonerate yourself of 100% culpability." That's very interesting. I actually thought that the reason for apologies were to even out the playing field. But you are right, there can't be justification for any wrongdoing. I guess Bernie was taking advantage of the gullibility of the Hollywood royalty. I don't know, I think so though. So the take away is: I did wrong, I accept I did wrong. I am sorry. Let's move on. What I always loved about the US that non-Americans don't really get is the system that you guys have. It is much clear what the people do and where they spend their time in. I can't even find a golf course close by to my house here. Back in the US I had one close by to my house and one in my college campus. But again, as always, I digress.. I don't want to say lower or higher class, where I don't want the conversation go in an unnecessary direction, I'm genuinely facing this social difference and I literally discovered something very important about myself and how my surroundings respond to me. Nothing more. But I have to use a name to differentiate what I'm saying. It is different norms, it is different expectations, it is different world views. And more power to them since they can pretty much find a place for themselves in the economic ecosystem and continue their lives. When I started my business with my business partner, who is also from an equal upbringing, we treated everyone the way we treated each other. We had situations where we were almost ripped off, we had situations where we did so much work upfront and it didn't go anywhere, right after we found out the job was given to a completely average competitor. I didn't get it. I was back in Asia when I found out. I was going crazy. I kept calling my business partner to give him feedback on how we should improve and such. But then my biz partner said, 'bro, they were never interested in us. sure, we speak the same language, but we aren't speaking their language. let it go already.' Did I get mad at him after he said that? Sure. Was letting it go making me look like I was decreasing my values and standards? You bet. But I did realize that it was true that we were speaking different languages afterall. They were from a complete different world, even though they were rich as fuck and that they could have saved my company thousands of dollars. But that didn't happen. Over time I started to realize it was the majority of the people not just in my hometown but in the world. It was the same thing with the girls too. The women in my mindset (who I've ceased to meet after high school) would and did jump through hoops and everything just to get some more of my attention. Why shouldn't they? I had a great potential, I was attractive, socially adept, and young. Well now, I can't blame my kind choosing to go with the richer guys, Imagine me, with so much money (I guess that does come with families of richer levels, though we are not poor, I can't ask my family to buy me a porsche or complete attire from Armani, Burberry, etc, that's not me (who asks family for money) either. Or older guys who are also richer in that way. I don't blame the older guys, they probably didn't get a chance with these girls when they were my age. More power to them. I do feel lonely and feel uncomfortable opening my world to these one night stand options. I also don't want to be a one night stand fuckboy (if we were to speak from women's perspective). Maybe this loneliness is a part of growing up. Maybe it has more to do with the porn withdrawals.