Journal for mutual support 3.0

Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by CidGuerreiro, Nov 12, 2012.

  1. sak1234

    sak1234 Member

    Re: Journal for mutual support 2.0

    I see where you are coming from Aussie. I'm not usually doubting those that reboot in 20 or 30 days, but I am always wondering what their background is. Obviously the older guys and guys who have had more than enough enjoyable sex will be the quickest rebooters and usually those reboot success stories where they didn't spend too much time rebooting are coming from just those guys. I typically find success stories from those who have had limited sexual experience and are in the same age group (23-25) and try to compare ED.
     
  2. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    I'll need to change tactics if I want to avoid MOing in the morning.
     
  3. furor germanicus

    furor germanicus New Member

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    Used to MO in the morning too. Sometimes four times even before standing up. ::)

    Why aren't you able to cope with it? Just get up, take a shower and cook, read, learn, do sports, ... .
     
  4. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    The problem is while I'm still laying in bed. It's cold as balls in here, so it takes me a long time to get the courage to leave the bed, lol. After that it's all ok.
     
  5. Pedigree

    Pedigree Active Member

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    Are you in a half-asleep, half-awake mode when you're MOing?
     
  6. sak1234

    sak1234 Member

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    Have you tried sleeping in underwear? That has really helped me. I just don't get urges to masturbate with them on (even when I am half-awake).
     
  7. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

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    ^ I sleep in my underwear most nights and it never helps me not MO in the morning.

    The only thing that seems to work is telling myself "get your ass out of bed, if you mastubate right now it's going to be a long day"
     
  8. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    That is correct, Pedigree. I usually MO before I'm fully awake and aware of what I'm doing. Today I've managed to think about the consequeces (damage to my libido, etc) but I was already awake, just laying in bed out of laziness.

    What I wear doesn't really matter. I'm running out of bright ideas to overcome this issue.

    Shutting down all images on my browser was a wonderful thing to do, though. Zero peeking since then and no real urges to watch porn.

    Thanks for commenting, everyone.
     
  9. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    Asked Lulu out and she said she's too busy right now with school's tests. It's frustrating as fuck, but also kinda comforting because I'm not feeling social or flirty at all. Tried it out because the waiting is killing me, but a big part of me wanted her to say no.

    I don't want to start depending on "X days of no O" to do anything, but it might be good to postpone it and get a few more days clean before (if...) we go out. She told me to calm down and that we'll go out someday, but I don't know anymore.

    Gonna ask the other girl tomorrow, lol. She looks like trouble, but who knows.
     
  10. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

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    I'd walk away from Lulu, for now. Based on what you're posting lately she seems to have lost interest and is just stringing you along.

    When a girl wants to see a guy, they will make the time and the effort regardless of their schedule.
     
  11. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

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    You can't say that. If she has exams then that is her priority at this moment in time and dating is the last thing on her mind. Take into account she is 16 so needs to concentrate on her schooling as I'm sure the exams she's taking will have a big impact on her future.

    I'll give you an example; this 40 year old I'm dating said the next time she is going to come round my place is when she has finished these courses which she is doing.

    I respect that and I haven't been sweating on her finishing it up. When she is ready I know she will bell me to let me know when she wants to meet up again. And for me when I've got exams or assignments to do the last thing I want to do is worry about some date, because when you have studies hanging over your head it's very hard to concentrate and give all your attention to other things including people.

    So just relax and stop putting pressure on the poor girl
     
  12. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

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    I hear what you're saying, but...

    These aren't encouraging signs. At all. And they've been playing the cat and mouse game for at least a month now it seems. If Justin Bieber asked her out, do you think she'd be delaying like this? She's not particularly interested (any more) and Cid is not particularly confident. It's a recipe for shit.

    I've dealt with both girls who are interested but genuinely busy and girls who aren't, and unfortunately this seems like the latter. Cid can keep beating a dead horse if he wants, and maybe out of boredom and pity she'll go to the movie with him. And it will be an awkward, crappy time. I'm sorry, but a good looking athletic 24 year old like Cid should not be chasing a 16 year old girl for weeks at a time just so, if he's lucky, he can take her out on a date. That's not how it works.

    If I was Cid, I'd let this thing die for now and then see what she's up to, I dunno, end of the summer or early September maybe. At least let her think he's the one that lost interest, and then reappear down the road. Continuing to chip away at it is a recipe for failure.
     
  13. TheUnderdog

    TheUnderdog Active Member Staff Member

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    Next time don't ask girls if they would like to hang out someday.

    Call them and say "HEY! What are you doing? Wanna go for a drink?", as in right now, today, NOW.
     
  14. gameover

    gameover Age: 26

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    Fuck the analyzing. Just reading all that shit and going so far down into it is going to mind fuck you either way.

    Do you really want to put it all in on this 1 girl? You have been banking it your whole life.... At least spread it around. You already said you have no issues hitting on women.
     
  15. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

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    @ tsmith - I agree that he should hold off for a while and stop prodding for now, but I don't think all is lost and completely cut his ties. Just step back, get on with your life and adopt the attitude of ''if it happens it happens, if not oh well''.

    Because right now all it is, is a message cid sending screaming '' I need lulu, I need you lulu, please tell when are we going to meet lulu because my life is dependant on you''. And she is probably freaked out a bit which is to why she had to say calm down.
     
  16. TheUnderdog

    TheUnderdog Active Member Staff Member

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    The name Lulu cracks me up ;D
     
  17. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

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    Yeah me too, it sounds like some 70s pornstar.
     
  18. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    @tsmith1302: I was already planning on doing that. I'll let her come to me, she has initiated conversations via Facebook before, which gives me some hope. I honesly think she's interested (at least to some extent), but also confused due to all the tests she'll be taking, the age gap between us and we being neighbors, not to mention her own underlying issues.

    @Metal: it has been more than a week since I had last invited her for anything. I'm not constantly hitting that button. And she is the kind of person that tries to embrace the world and do lots of things at the same time so I agree, she probably is indeed too busy right now.

    @tsmith1302 again: 3 out of those 4 quotes are products of my head.

    @TheUnderdog: ehh, that rarely works with anyone around here (myself included). Also, she has to ask permission to go out, so in this case it wouldn't work at all.

    @gameover: I don't have a problem in being flirty and etc, but meeting new women is pretty much impossible for me right now.

    @Metal again: I don't need her at all. She just happens to be the single one girl around right now (there's another one but I still have to check if she's for real). And that "calm down" was more like "don't be angry", so it was actually a good thing.

    @TheUnderdog & Metal: ohgodwhy.

    @CleanHands: that would work if she's interested (and if that's the case, anything will do). If she's undecided she might feel like I don't care about her and say no out of spite. But I agree with not letting the woman take charge of the date.

    Whew. Thanks for commenting, everyone.
     
  19. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

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    What an interesting turn of events.

    I'm going out this saturday with the other girl I've mentioned. I'll call her Hannah. IS THAT NAME GOOD ENOUGH? Jesus fuckin' Christ...

    Anyway, Hannah seems like the kind of girl that will destroy you if you let her. Praise her too much and you're dead. I hate that.

    She's also much younger than me (16, 17 years old) but also seems very mature for her age, even more than Lulu. Seems like we have a few things in common (just as I have with Lulu).

    Invited her for a smoothie at the mall. Is that too shabby? Seems ok to me, I guess. I wouldn't be taking her to anywhere fancier without a car.
     
  20. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

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    I'm going to call her Hannah Banana.
     

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