its deeper than porn

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by XFinity, May 29, 2017.

  1. XFinity

    XFinity Withdrawal is a bitch.

    Been on and off since 2013. I really dont understand anything right now. I do super good and slip up. Went 228 and 218 day streaks hard mode. I worled out, ate healthy, and did every single healthy thing i can think of including meditation. Work is the same shit, still waiting for college to start. Seems like life keeps pushing me down.

    I even went as far as joining the air force. Finished basic training and they kicked me out because i had diarrhea... Went away once i came back home... Sometomes comes back but its not very often. I kinda dont wanna rejoin either single ill have to go through a lot and i think ill do better at home and go for a cyber secueity degree.

    After the discharge i came back and tried to go to college and missed the deadline by 1 day! So i got a job in the meantime and someone ran a red light and totaled my vehicle. After that i had to quit my current job and find something closer. Walmart hired me and i had to ride a bike there back and forth for about 5 months. Saved and got a vehicle and now im driving to work.

    Met multiple girls during the last 6-7 months and even went on long streaks. The ones worth going for are taken, even the one im currently "talking" to she said she likes me and we text every day and i even spend time eith her out of work but shes too "nervous"? Yeah fuck off. I need to find another girl and stop wasting my time... But if thats the case, then why should that even be the "answer" for happiness?

    Rant over, im glad you listened. Id like someone's input.

    Ps: And to the guys in a similar situations. Dont you think it can be deeper than porn?
     
  2. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    I'd say yes. In general, everything deeper than just one thing, as there are always interconnected causes. Problematic porn usage is part of a cycle. Many folks here will say the behaviour is a symptom. Which seems true, but it's also a factor influencing other issues.

    Congrats on working your way to a vehicle.

    I think this 'nervous' girl may indeed be wasting your time. Not telling you to ditch her today, but don't let her monopolise your attention. Date other girls! And perhaps your relationship shouldn't be the main source of your happiness. I'm fond of the Stoic idea that you depend only on what's in your control for your happiness. Like, how you choose to conduct yourself in a relationship (or in your work, or education, etc...)
     
  3. Wabi-sabi

    Wabi-sabi Imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete

    Really, the OP is just describing twenty-something life. Stuff falls apart, stuff breaks, you work hard to replace it, jobs come and go, chicks waste your time (don't want you but love the attention). . .

    You live through it and do the best that you can, and find ways to enjoy where you're at.

    The thing about porn addiction is that it's just a red flag, it shows when you are miserable, lonely, self-hating, etc. And it's been my salvation, because it's pushed me into working out how to be happy and comfortable in my own skin for the first time in my life.
     
  4. XFinity

    XFinity Withdrawal is a bitch.

    I really do appriciate all of your input guys, thank you very much!
     

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