That's awesome We can't avoid negative emotions, but we can change the way we deal with them. I also find it very helpful to remind myself that things pass. Just sit it out and things will be better. All these things that happen to us are part of being human. Interesting what you write about NMMNG. I agree that what is in there can be helpful for anyone, no matter your history. The author wrote it after his own experiences, so he may be missing that some things are more general? Although it also sounds logical to me that an unavailable mother can lead to approval seeking behavior towards women. Well, just guessing here, in any way I find it really helpful to have found out where my behavior comes from and why I have made certain choices in life. These kinds of books can really help with that.