I'm really trying and have made progress but I want to overcome this. I'm 41 and have been single for nearly 7 years apart from a lot of online dates. Ive deleted my profiles now as I feel that online dating holds me back and sometimes triggers me. In the last 6 weeks or so, I've been drinking more water, running a lot, doing some meditation, hardly drinking at all. What sort of other stuff should I be working on? I'm naturally a shy person but have had periods in my life where I've come out of myself quite a lot. I do have bouts of social anxiety but had never realised what it was caused by. I want become less introverted and more social. I am aware that this will be a gradual process. I know I need a regular girlfriend to be happier so I need to up my game in this respect. The most likely places to meet women for are a running lcub which I go to and also dance classes which I used to go to regularly but haven't been to for a while. I am not the sort of person that goes clubbing plus I don't have many single friends of my own age.