I'm back.

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by breath, Sep 19, 2021.

  1. badger

    badger Active Member

    keep trudging. i always say to myself-just do the next right thing. everything else takes care of itself.
     
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  2. Old Tom Bombadil

    Old Tom Bombadil Active Member

    Staying clean can be such a struggle. Well done you for getting through this one. All best,
    Tom
     
  3. Mozenjo

    Mozenjo Well-Known Member

    Keep fighting, breath. This ain't easy, but so worth the effort.
     
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  4. Libertad

    Libertad Well-Known Member

    breath, congrats on three weeks. MO is often a slippery slope into PMOing again.
    Take care.
     
  5. breath

    breath Active Member

    I appreciate your comment, but we should also realize ( and weigh the risks) that for some (like me) Not masturbating can be a slippery slope towards PMO. I rub one out (less these days actually) but after I'm done PMO is not even a consideration
     
  6. breath

    breath Active Member

    I have quit. I'm not religious... but respect to you and yours man...I'm staying here to inspire others and strengthen my convictions . I joined in 2005. I relapsed many times although I never described myself as having quit until now. Maybe if I was religious that would have helped me I don't know, although feeling guilty or bad about myself never helped me.. What changed is that I had (and am still having) some very tragic things in my life happen, things that needed strength and courage to overcome. If I was religious and believed that I was going to burn in hell for ever for PMO perhaps that would make me stop., I don't know. I realized that this stands in the way of me being happy, confident and proud and even sexually happy (but the sexual happiness part is more do to those first things I mention. What changed? It feels like do or die now... I know it is not REALLY do or die, but if I want the part of myself that has courage, will and the ability to pursue and achieve long term goals I have to stop PMO. The hardest part is the work in life I have to put in everyday - not unresisting the urge to PMO but in putting in the work on the things that ARE my actual goals... Quitting PMO was secondary. This is not me telling you what I think you should do, or what I think you should want to do because, well, we are all different. I found something that was I higher goal... It is like I imagine I was an athlete competing to be the best that I could be.... except maybe I never had that goal. I recently achieved anM.A. in my field and am now wanting a PhD... After that i'll still have goals. It is the goals outside of porn that helped me quit this.. I have not quit masturbation, because I personally have no reason to as I see it. Only masturbating to porn is what I have stopped/quit. I have reduced the frequency of masturbation because too much makes me weak willed and tired and lose mental edge toughness and I score lower on on tests... I will -repost this on my own thread as it is my personal diary..... life is tough, I finally am embracing how tough it is, and I like the challenge now before I just wished the challenges would go away, now the tough challenges in life are an inspiration to live a life of achieving my best. Stopping porn was important.. If athletes can set goals which require sacrificing, desisting etc, and act on achieving those goals so can I can I. If there is truly a will, therein lies the way.
     
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  7. breath

    breath Active Member

    I will come back to remind and re-inspire myself of this proud time in my life and as inspiration for my continued pursuit of all goals I may have in life. If it inspires others that will be good, although it is for others to find what is true and effective for themselves .. I sure we all have similarities, but we are all different.
     
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  8. Leonard

    Leonard New Member

    Well done - keep on going!
     
  9. breath

    breath Active Member

    How the fuck do I reset my counter?
     
  10. jumptime

    jumptime New Member

    Thanks for your journal. Really enjoy reading it. There is good insight here.
     

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