I'm 57 been here since 2005. Same problem. I need to knuckle to down to matrimonial home/mortgage. I have to kick this PM habit. Marriage is better now was rocky for many years. It survived and is much better. Still have doubts occasionally, but, life is full of challenges, and I believe we get back what we put it..I had best be the best me possible. If she's on board to try to make a great marriage then it can be so. If she's not, then at least I'll have tried. Now, My goal (#1)may be simply not to overdo it with masturbation or PM... There was never, I thought, a good argument against PM on moral grounds. Rather, the problems are mores around focus productivity, and an almost ADD trait of craving release and instant gratification release of tension......that underachieving is what I want to outgrow. It is a lack of stick to it-ness.Perhaps if there was PM at times, but I was otherwise well engaged with career and family , I'd not feel so negatively about my PM habit. s. Simply though, it is a negative factor towards having good happy feelings and balance. Sometimes I have ED with the wife. I take tadalafil and if I have not masturbated for a couple of days will almost always be fine.. Rest, and exercise (at 57 yrs) do factor in. I will try not taking tadalafil until the weekend. It does give headaches but if I take less I'm ok, and if I haven't squandered my chi from PM I'll be good to go. To add to that, Covid has really messed with my cardio and fitness. Goal (#2) is cardio. I take DHEA and used to do push ups and such - I got out of the habit but have re-started that..