I want a better life at age 36. It´s NOT too late!

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by MarstonS, Jan 19, 2013.

  1. Fry2

    Fry2 Well-Known Member

    Thanks man. If you manage to cut out sugar and the internet after 8.30 pm that's two huge leaps forward. I put my phone to greyscale too, it makes it more boring and less addictive and it reduces the mindless surfing. Maybe that's something to try for your computer?
     
  2. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Thanks Fry, I'll keep that in mind and start to consider it...
     
  3. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Warrior evening Day 1 (No internet in my house after 7:30 pm at night)
    Nofap Day 5
    Alcohol Day 88

    Confidence: 40%
    Motivation: 50%
    Mood: 40%
    Anxiety: 50%

    I feel I should be careful writing down my thougts here right now as to not spread "negative energy" on other rebooters. Let's just say that my mood is not the best right now and I think a big part of that is the winter that's coming up on us here in Finland. Days are getting shorter and colder and one can hardly see any light at all. Ok, I think thats enough complaining for today =) this too shall pass....

    I'm proud of my alcohol counter though....just to mention something positive :cool:
     
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  4. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Warrior evening Day 1 (No internet in my house after 7:30 pm at night)
    Nofap Day 1
    Alcohol Day 91

    Confidence: 50%
    Motivation: 70%
    Mood: 60%
    Anxiety: 40%

    Willpower alone is not enough, I know this. And it shows on my counter but the quesiton is, do I even have will power? Why am I acting like a child who wants candy at this very moment and can't possible wait until Saturday? Ok, bad example since there is no waiting for "a porn day" but the concept of instant gratification is the same. I'm pretty good at postponing gratification in other areas of my life. I have always been good at saving my money, doing physical exercise, to reap the rewards later instead of this very moment. Same goes with diet....

    ...I guess it's a different ballgame when it comes to addictions. Or is it?
     
  5. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Warrior evening Day 1 (No internet in my house after 7:30 pm at night)
    Nofap Day 3
    Alcohol Day 93

    Confidence: 60%
    Motivation: 70%
    Mood: 60%
    Anxiety: 30%

    Feeling pretty good despite the last relapse. I want to see my alcohol counter get up to 100 and I'm pretty confident I will be able to do so. However, I'm pretty sure I will not keep a zero alcohol tolereance for life. I will probably have a 2-3 drink max limit and only if I notice things getting out of hand, will I again go on a zero no alcohol streak. More on that after a week....
     
  6. Thebeg

    Thebeg Well-Known Member

    All in life is about balance. Don't set your min d too hard on 100 days no alcohol, else you'll drink right at day 101.
     
  7. Fry2

    Fry2 Well-Known Member

    Same here, as usual...
     
  8. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day 4
    Alcohol Day 94

    Confidence: 60%
    Motivation: 70%
    Mood: 60%
    Anxiety: 50%

    Finally a good nights sleep. Slept like a baby for 9 hours. That's amazing.

    Thanks for commenting guys.
     
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  9. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day 5
    Alcohol Day 95

    Confidence: 60%
    Motivation: 5%
    Mood: 50%
    Anxiety: 30%

    Stressful times at my job. Yesterday I felt that strong pull to "relieve" my stress with unhealthy addiction behaviours. Like a child who wants candy when he's sad. This time, however, I was very aware of it being the voice of the addiction and I did not listen to it.
     
  10. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day 1
    Daily meditation 1
    Alcohol Day 99

    The god damn p counter is on day one again.... I always feel a bit of humiliation having to log in a and report a relapse. So that's why I'm making an update.

    To expect different results even though we keep doing the same thing, well, as the saying goes, that's the deffinition of insanity. Problem is, I don't know what I could do differently. I guess I could move to Tibet and become a monk but then again, they might have internet and have to do perhaps, one hor of online work a week or something (I don't know). ...and then I'd probavbly relapse during that hour. No, honestly I don't think I would, since they have cut out all the mindless surfing and crap we do here in the west. On top of that they meditate a lot so their prefrontal cortex are strong as F*ck.....

    ..well, there it is, I just rambled on and acidentally happen to write down my next move, MEDITATION. As the alcohol counter reaches 100 days tomorrow, what if I'd try to reach 100 days of daily meditation to strengthen my own prefronatl cotex. I have meditated before, in my life, but I have never perhaps done it for long enough to notice any benefits.
     
  11. Fry2

    Fry2 Well-Known Member

    Don't worry M, I believe this journey gets actually harder as we get better in handling our vices and addictions. As you cut out alcohol for such a long time it's unterstandable that pmo is coming back more frequently. But its impact on your life should diminish - have you observed that effect too? A relapse should become a bit less of a deal.

    Regarding meditation: yes it's a great tool, but I have read you might have to do it for up to nine months to yield any tangible effects.

    Oh can you imagine what could be possible without pmo for nine months? ;-)
     
  12. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day 2
    Daily meditation 2
    Alcohol Day 100

    Ok, the it is, day 100 on the booze counter.

    Fry2, interesting, I have not read the 90 day timespan thing. Do you meditate currently?
     
  13. Fry2

    Fry2 Well-Known Member

    Congratulations on 100 days no alcohol.

    Actually it's not 90 days but up to nine months until you may experience the benefits of meditation with further benefits along the roads. Recent scientific research so it seems. Until now science wasn't successful in proving the benefits because their studies weren't sufficient in duration.

    Yeah I do, every day 15-20 minutes. Subtle benefits for sure.
     
  14. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day 2
    Daily goalsetting: 2
    Daily meditation 4
    Alcohol Day 104 (Last day I note this down)

    I think I'll stop count my alcohol now. My aim is to continue with moderation, and for me that is to never binge drink and to set a limitation for me. So a few people are going moderation is a bad idea. And that might be so but my aim with the 100 days streak was never to quit alcohol. It was a 100 day challenge, which I found pretty easy to do. That said, If I find that I start using too much alcohol, then I'll jum back on the zero alcohl streak once again.

    Fry2, oh yes, I missread it. 9 months is a long time for sure. I guess we never get anything for free in life :) Allthough, just sitting down with a slow breathing at some poind during the day can at lest be beneficil for stress right away. even if the brain benefits show themselves months later. I shall see if I can muster up the motivation to keep going.
     
  15. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Nofap Day: 3
    Alcohol Day: 1
    Daily goal setting: 1
    Daily meditation: 1

    Ok, so yesterday I tried drinking a few beers after 104 days of no alcohol. It was interesting in the way that it did not deliver any pleasure at all. So why would I want to even have moderation in my life if I don't even enjoy that ?? In fact, I get a LOT more enjoyment out of adding numbers to the non alcohol counter every day. So if I like counting non alcohol days, then why not continue with it? I'll keep counting without a goal in mind. Self improvement and doing "good stuff" for the body and mind is so much deeper than shallow pleasure...still, I tend to forget that.

    Today I'm grateful for:

    - My physical health
    - The warm weather, it could be snowy and icy this time a year, but right now, it isn't
    - Rebooting
     
  16. Fry2

    Fry2 Well-Known Member

    Sometimes we need to try it again to realize we fon't even need/want something in our life anymore. I had the exakt same experience as you Marston.

    I also noticed I don't enjoy eating refined sugar, ungealthy food or things like playing computer games or watching TV any more.

    The things we fill our lives with should facilitate reaching our goals and self improvement or at least should the pros outweigh the cons.
     
  17. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Daily goal setting: 2 (365 day challenge)
    Nofap Day: 1
    Alcohol Day: 2
    Meditation Day: 2


    Fry2, I guess your right about that. I really found that I don't need or want alcohol anymore. I have not yet gotten to that point when it comes to sugar though, but I will keep working on it and, eventually, I might get there in that regards as well.

    Today I'm grateful for:

    -My mom is doing ok. We had a bit of a "health scare" yesterday
    -The opportunities to make something out of my life
    -Loving and caring people
     
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  18. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Daily goal setting: 3 (365 day challenge)
    Nofap Day: 2
    Alcohol Day: 3
    Meditation Day: 3

    Today I'm grateful for:
    -That it won't take long until the November month is over
    -Free valuable information
    -My workplace
     
  19. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Daily goal setting: 4 (365 day challenge)
    Nofap Day: 3
    Alcohol Day: 4
    Meditation Day: 4

    Today I'm grateful for:

    -My house
    -Good and healthy food
    -Clean water and peace
     
  20. MarstonS

    MarstonS Walking the longest walk...

    Daily goal setting: 5 (365 day challenge)
    Nofap Day: 4
    Alcohol Day: 5
    Meditation Day: 5

    Today I'm grateful for:

    -Good sleep
    -The experiences I have been through
    -The ups and downs. (we need bad stuff to appreciate the good)
     

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