i am new need little help

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by prakash, Aug 19, 2020.

  1. prakash

    prakash New Member

    hi i watch porn daily mostly into extreme japanese crap.. have tried fight the new drug website once have got 2 days or 3 maximum... i am trying to become a guy who dont look at porn..came here from https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-quit-porn/ so here to get some support from you guys..iam 35 living alone ...looking for a job,,have anxiety and panic attack issues.. took medication now managing without....on doctor recommondation... can anybody tell me about streaks and accountability partner...
     
  2. ItIsTime12345

    ItIsTime12345 New Member

    Hey man,
    I am new here too. I was watching a lot of porn daily, probably 3-4 hours, of hardcore Japanese and Chinese bdsm. I would get really into it and also came here from the website you mentioned. We are basically the same age and I also have issues with anxiety and panic attacks.

    The longest streak I have gone without watching Asian porn is 3 weeks. I was really proud of myself and decided to take a peak at what I was missing. BIG mistake. All the work I put into avoiding my triggers (Twitter and Only Fans) went down the drain and I was back at my daily 3 hours of porn. The hard part for me was not being able to let it go. I changed a good bit, but I still have trouble letting it go. After a few weeks, it's just something that I always come back to in order to "relax". So, if you are gonna try to wean yourself off, one thing I might say is keep track of the number of days you are pron free, but keep in mind that you will have urges to take a peak at what you are missing. Although it's technically ok, that really hurts your overall progress.

    As for accountability partners. I found that no one really had the same desires as me, so I couldn't really connect with anyone. However, if you find someone that has the same desires as you and the same drive to stop, it might be a good way to keep yourself motivated.

    Wishing you the best of luck with your new journey. Keep at it.
     
  3. prakash

    prakash New Member


    thanks man... my first thought is to search for Chinese bdsm bcs i have not heard of it...:).. my problem is mostly not looking at new stuff...i know that these are companies they keep creating content with new women.. and they do it for profit...my longest is 2 days... will try to get your 3 weeks...i believe in order become a guy who doesn't watch porn is to stop looking for new content...bcs novelty is the excitement of porn... another thing i use porn to "relax" too... we should find other ways to relax and manage anxiety...we can try exercise,meditation,guided visualization...etc..

    thanks for your reply

    All the best for future..
     
  4. prakash

    prakash New Member

    thank you for your reply..

    i am not going cold turkey... i have deleted most disgusting stuff and thing i wasn't interested before porn...i still have quiet a bit of porn saved... my hardest thing is not looking at new content..."session duration, porn to fantasy ratio, amount of content viewed per fixed unit of time".. thanks i am using an excel sheet and counting number of times.... but will add what type of porn..is it newstuff or old... etc to my list...and my i dont call it an addiction..bcs https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-quit-porn/ and psychiatrist community have not called it as such..they talk about hypersexuality disorder..but whether it is addiction or not still want to stop looking at it...

    so all the best for your efforts..
     

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