How to transmute sexual energy when in front of women when they try seducing/arousing you. Serious.

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by auzzie_mikey, Jun 2, 2019.

  1. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Hey guys,

    I only want serious answers and replies here.

    How do you transmute sexual energy when I am in front of women when they try purposely seducing or arousing me?

    How to purposely and consciously transmute this sexual energy and avoid any release of precum from my penis when in front of women.

    Whether it involve some transmutation from 1 chakra to another chakra. Please advise me on this.

    Only serious answers and contributions in this thread would be appreciated.
  2. doneatlast

    doneatlast Active Member

    Focusing on their non-sexual attributes can be helpful. Making non-flirtatious conversation can help. There is a reason porn caricatures have little-to-no personality besides "I'm so horny" - arousal of the quick dopamine hits are easier when it isn't complicated by that person being a real three dimensional human being. You can do this with the person in how you talk to them and interact, or it can just be in your imagination. You can remember that this woman is a daughter, likely a sister, and possibly a mother. She might have interests, talents, bright ideas, deep wounds, or big plans.

    Stepping back and saying "that is a beautiful woman" is also effective. Why? I think it puts into perspective that yes they are attractive, that being attracted to them is natural in the same way that looking at nice food makes you hungry (but doesn't give you an excuse to eat like an animal), and that she isn't the only beautiful woman in the world. There is something about the porn addict's drive that tells us "we need this NOW" and gets all of the gears working towards orgasm; we got to "rub it out" every time we were even slightly aroused before, and our bodies don't understand that it isn't how the real world works until the reboot is further along. Yes, she is a beautiful woman. You will likely meet many other beautiful women as time goes on. The world is full of them. The less porn holds onto you, the more we see them. You can appreciate it without having a "I need to ejaculate" panic, and recognizing the beauty in a positive, calm way can be better than letting it induce anxiety.

    To speak more broadly and help you think up some of your own ideas, look at it this way. You are experiencing lust, attraction, and jonesing for a dopamine hit. Maybe a racing mind of "what-if" scenarios if you pursued these women. You're using the word "transmute" so I'm guessing you reject the idea that this energy can be destroyed, but only transformed. There are negative things you can turn it into: in following it, lust, further porn dependence, bad decisions, or in fighting it you can turn it into anxiety, paranoia, or anger. What are the positive things it can be transformed into? Compassion? Friendship? Pity? Dignity? Respect? Awe and appreciation?

    None of this will work instantly and takes practice. It won't be a secret weapon in the back of your pocket that will work every time. It is more like an exercise that slowly builds up muscles and coordination.
  3. Gilgamesh

    Gilgamesh Seize the day

    Maybe this something for you? Been reading it. There are some effective methods in the latter half of the book. I was able to download a .doc for free.

    The Oriental Bedroom Art of
  4. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Hey man, do you have a link for this book that I can download the .doc?
  5. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Hey man, I've found the book, but does it have any methods on how to actually stop getting aroused when you are in front of women and they are actively trying to seduce you?? Like is there anyway to stop precum being released at that stage?
  6. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    If you're really concerned about this, Mikey, other than the obvious which is to tell women to mind your own space, I think that your best bet is to calm your arousal response . Here are three ways in which you can calm yourself down. Firstly, you want to slow your breathing down and breath through the diaphragm so that you are taking deep long breaths. Around 10 seconds inhale and exhale should do the trick. I also find when I am very aroused that anchoring the awareness away from the sexual energy in the pelvic area helps. Maintaining a meditation practice can help with this. My third tip is to give reverse kegals a go. You might have to train your muscles a bit before you reap the benefits of these, but they're supposed to be worth it. Reverse kegals relax the BC muscle, the contraction of which is responsible for you producing pre-cum.

    At the end of the day, as long as you are abstaining from any form of sexual activity, there may not be a lot that you can do about it. I am in the same boat and find that I am very sensitive to triggers too. I think it may be because the brain craves a sexual release and is highly sensitive to stimuli because of abstinence. I wouldn't worry about losing pre-cum, there is no harm being done
  7. Gilgamesh

    Gilgamesh Seize the day

    The main technique for energy transformation is squeezing your pelvic floor muscles, while at the same time breathing in and pulling your stomach up. As if breathing your sexual energy from your testicles up your spine. It is described in the book after a long and bit odd intro. I used the techniques a couple of times effectively in bed, at work and in the car to decrease arousal. Hope it helps.
  8. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Cheers for the advice! What to do with reverse kegels?
  9. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    You push the muscle out instead of clenching as in the case of a regular kegal. A reverse kegal is identical to the sensation you get when peeing. For obvious reasons, you want to make sure that you have an empty bladder when doing them. See online for more detailed instructions. There are plenty of articles.

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