How long is your edging in average and longest edging?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Hope_81, Jun 25, 2018.

  1. Hope_81

    Hope_81 I am pornoaddicted. I am in trap.

    Hello Guys,

    I am just curious how many hours is your edging in average? Personally me between one and two hours. Not every day. Sometimes I drive my edging to 3 or 4 hours, but on rarely base. Once or twice per month.

    Always when I finish my edging I feel so bad. I feel emptiness. I realize that the girls on the screen even do not know for my existing. :( I feel full of wasted energy, both physically and mentally. I feel much guilt and shame. I am Christian man and I know that watching porn end edging is not ok for my God.

    I decreased it. Before some years ago 2013-2014 I edged every single day. I collected 50-60 hours per month in average watching porn. It caused to me a lot of troubles. All my efforts resulted to significantly decreasing of watching porn, but I cannot quit it at all.

    I am just curious for you guys.

    How long is your edging per day in average?

    How long was your longest edging?

    Thank you for your answers.
  2. BuddhaPunkRobotMonk

    BuddhaPunkRobotMonk Administrator Staff Member

    Hi BG,

    I can't say I have ever edged for that long (I always got too impatient and finished quickly), maybe half an hour at most. But from reading thousands of stories from users like you, I can tell you that your edging habits are common. You are not alone in this struggle. There are plenty of people who are fighting this just like you.

    That being said, an hour a day is pretty long and means you have been training your brain for a long time to associate orgasm with people on a screen. So it may take a lot of time to recover. Don't get discouraged. You don't have to magically quit it and never do it again. Most people's recovery stories aren't like that. Most people struggle for a while before they finally succeed. If you can reduce your edging to just 1 or 2 hours a week that is a great success. Aim for that, and then once you have accomplished that you can work to extend your streaks.

    Hope this helps, and wish you the best on your reboot.
  3. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    In my 'success' days I was edging to porn 1 to 2 hours per day on average. My record is 9 hours edging :(. After that I was depressed for a week. I felt so miserable.

    Actually when I started with nofap, I felt really proud of myself of not MO-ing, but at the same time I was still edging a lot every day. Only now I see how bad that was.

    The reason for the long edging for me was that I was aware that after finishing I didn't have the dopamine rush anymore and I just needed it to avoid my stress and emotions for as long as possible. Actually I also noticed that after I had an orgams I really needed others ways to get that dopamine rush going: binge eating, watching thrillers or horror movies, etc.
  4. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Used to edge every day from 2 years ago to offset work stress, it was always 30min on the clock, dunno why.
    High stress was 1-2h easy, had few extreme whole day edging too where my balls hurt after.
    Of course talking about dry edging here (no orgasm at the end), which is always purely for stress relief

    I got it down to about once a month nowadays, I keep log of total monthly hours, and make a note what I think triggered it.
    I'm very proud of my progress, and you should be too.
    Edging comes from a painful heart, be kind to yourself, peace.
  5. Imfree

    Imfree Active Member

    When I have been acting out addiction,

    Average : 3 hours
    Max: 8 hours

    After getting above 5 hours, the thought of stopping can get quite scary. You know that you'll have to face reality and you will feel really bad about what you have done. It is a literal hell on earth. At that point you have fallen into a botomless pit.
  6. learningOrder

    learningOrder Member

    Usually 1 to 4 hrs

    It was how I realized P was a major problem for me
  7. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    About 14 hours, high on booze and alcohol too. Average... 2 hours.
    I found that I was addicted to chem sex, or chem porn. A cross-addiction of substances and behaviours. Terrible.
  8. FUBB

    FUBB Member

    Do you guys know that every time you edge, you need to reset your counter or mark a relapse on your calendar or spread chart. Why? Because it is the worst thing ever! :eek: The following quotation is from Gary Wilson, scientist, and the speaker in the Ted video, The Great Porn Experiment. He explains why edging is the worst thing ever!

    Some men attempting the rebooting process believe that as long as they avoid ejaculation, they are successfully rebooting. This twisted logic leads them to endorse an unhelpful practice common to Internet porn users, called edging. This is masturbating up to the edge of orgasm, then stopping to cool things down, then revving up again. Three common versions of edging:
    1. Watching porn without masturbating
    2. Masturbating while viewing porn, but not ejaculating
    3. Masturbating without porn and without ejaculating
    Since a reboot is defined as no porn or porn substitutes 1 & 2 make no sense. For those trying to overcome problematic porn use, edging while viewing porn (or fantasizing about porn) is far worse than simply having an orgasm and getting it over with. Why is that? It all comes down to dopamine.

    Addiction-related brain changes and sexual (Pavlovian) conditioning are initiated by:
    1. Dopamine levels which are higher than levels attained through natural means (drugs, for example)
    2. Moderate dopamine levels that remain elevated for long periods
    3. Combo of 1 & 2
    If you are edging to porn you are combining naturally high dopamine levels of masturbation with the dopamine raising abilities of 1) exciting, novel visuals 2) searching the net for porn 3) finding surprising or shocking genres. Edging can keep dopamine levels elevated for hours, and train the brain to require constant visual stimulation, rapid-fire novelty, clicking from scene to scene, particular fetishes, and the pressure of your own hand. None of this matches real sex. (see this video – Rebooting: What Counts as a Relapse?, by Noah Church)

    High dopamine tells the reward circuit that “This activity is really, really important, and you should do it again and again.” Forget the (very real) possibility of addiction-related brain changes. Chronically high dopamine is conditioning your sexual arousal to everything associated Internet porn use. You are now training for the wrong sport. It’s like spending your time hitting golf balls in order to become great basketball player.

    Worse than training for the wrong sport, you may be taking yourself out of the game all together. Dopamine is odd. It really shoots up when something is better than expected, but drops when expectations are not met. Rewiring your sexuality to Internet porn means you unconsciously expect to be a voyeur controlling your dopamine with a mouse. When real sex doesn’t match porn, dopamine plummets – along with your excitement and erections. Streaming porn use appears to be causing an unprecedented rise in youthful sexual dysfunctions: Research confirms sharp rise in youthful sexual dysfunctions.

    What about edging without using porn? Depends on your goals I guess. Keep in mind that YBOP is about Internet porn, not masturbation (hello nofap/reddit). Is it similar to simply staying close to the edge with a partner? Not exactly, because you are wiring your sexual response to your own hand. Having sex means you are wiring your sexual response to another person. This may be significant for visitors who are are dealing with sexual dysfunctions and need to rewire to real partners. See Studies linking porn use/addiction to sexual dysfunctions, lower arousal, and lower sexual & relationship satisfaction

    It’s important to realize that sexual stimulation is by far the highest level of dopamine naturally produced. Dopamine is at its peak when on the verge of orgasming (edging). In the pre-internet days, guys would usually masturbate, orgasm and be done with it – it might take 10 minutes or so. At orgasm, prolactin rises, which drops dopamine to baseline levels and inhibits its release. That normally spells some relief.

    Placing your foot on the dopamine gas, without ever hitting the brake (prolactin) results in a continuous state of cravings without satisfaction. This practice of edging calls to mind the earliest experiments on the reward circuitry of the brain in which animals would stimulate themselves over and over, braving electrical shocks and ignoring willing mates.

    In the end, chronically high levels of dopamine (in conjunction with a specific stimulus) are the trigger for the brain changes that can lead to full blown addiction, as over-stimulation of the reward circuit leads to the accumulation of DeltaFosB, activation of genes, and specific brain changes. As the sustained molecular switch for addiction, DeltaFosB initiates both behavioral and chemical addictions. Yet one of its evolutionary purposes is sexual conditioning. It rewires the reward circuit to sexual cues in the environment and makes “sex” even more enticing. If your sexual environment is Internet porn, that’s what your reward circuit expects….and craves.
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  9. On average, about 4-5 hours. On a weekend with nothing to do, 6-7 hours. On drugs, who knows, maybe 10 hours.
  10. FUBB

    FUBB Member

    That is massively damaging!
  11. Believe me, I know.
  12. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    That is chem sex all about, feel high for fours ages while destroying the body. I am reaping the ' rewards' now.. ;)
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  13. I think I may have just found some chem anti-sex.
  14. Imfree

    Imfree Active Member

    Those are rough. Anybody else wind up with a bleeding penis afterwards, worried about scars? Turned into a total zombie?
  15. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    I have had that a few times, I did some mattress humping a few days ago - sleep drunk horniness triggered me - and now my penis is hurting every morning. I have had worse years ago, when I would be on medication, get tipsy and use lubricant to go on for hours and hours.

    I have no scars as I took the situation very heavily and stood away from more fapping. As for the zombie - only withdrawals make me a true zombie. Using porn every other day or every now and then keeps me far away from my dreams and a free life; but it is the withdrawals that get me into a zombie mode.
  16. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    I just finished a binge of about 6 hours. Now my intestines are fucked up again. The adrenal glands and the brain will suffer for a bit, I actually felt my adrenal gland respond - I have to belch frequently after a relapse - which is a drag.

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