There is a difference between caring what people think and receiving feedback or considering their point of view. Some guys, and I've done this, put women on a pedestal. Often without fully realizing it. Get all in our head about "I wonder if she likes me"?, "should I ask her out, she might think I'm a dork". How do we stop giving a (expletive) what others think? For me, it's that I know myself better than the person who is judging me. Their outside perspective may be relevant, but the power is with me to decide how to process it. Someone may think "he's a loser". Is there proof? Maybe, but does the so-called loser really care? Maybe he does. There are endless definitions about what defines a "loser", for example.