Hopes up for sex in 2 weeks?

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by needsomhelp, Jul 20, 2013.

  1. needsomhelp

    needsomhelp New Member

    Hi, I'm 19 years old and have had sexual encounters with 3 different girls, when I were aged 16-17 an so were they. Objectively, they were all great looking and horny girls you should want to 'destroy' in bed prettt much. Well my erections were terrible with all 3 girls. I wouldn't cum from getting jerked and getting oralled hurt me so that wasn't an option. That put a lot of pressure on me, sure mustn't be fun for the girl. Girl 3 I tried to have sex with I got mediocre erection, she sucked me a small bit (should be fine now, no pain, had wrong masturbation strokes) but my mediocre erectipn turner numb a few seconds after she I penetrates with her on top of me.

    Needless to say, all of this scared me. Even now I'm still worried I might be gay even tho I dint fantasize about men. I do check them out to compare myself and even that worries me, because previously I thought a men should get an erection from a nake girl instantly and that thought kinda sticked. Anyways I masturbated since age 8 and watched porn since age 12 or so, eventually watching mostly big titted milfs. I tried to stop quite often the past year and now I think I'm succesful with that. I have watched porn about 3 times the last 2 months but probably masturbated with real life girl fantasies about 10 times. I saw this youtube clip
    of this guy explaining how our brain with evolution isnt ready for porn but fantasy masturbation is ok. Anyways I met this nice girl and ill be home alone in 1.5 week, at which point we will likely have sex. Last time I was with her we had some good kissing on her couch and I got erect, even though I knew 100% no sex this night. Also I can get erection within 30 sec-1 min or so while fantasizing masturbating, do you think I will get a fine erection or should I have better symptoms?
  2. needsomhelp

    needsomhelp New Member

    i will not masturbate 2-5 days prior to her visit to promote erection even more. is 2 days good enough or would 5 be a lot better?
  3. Bazooka Joe

    Bazooka Joe New Member

    You're cute.

    ED only goes away if you don't masturbate at all for a minimum of 90 days. And no porn etc. or other stimulation.
    Older guys can do shorter reboots, but you started with porn very young.

    In the beginning you'll get "porn libido" and think you are cured. And @ 20 days you are most likely in a flatline.
  4. needsomhelp

    needsomhelp New Member

    Everbody saying something else
  5. needsomhelp

    needsomhelp New Member

    I can get erection from thinking about certain fantasies. Like doing my ex or a milf friend of my mom. While kissing I got erect with a girl few days ago. In the shower I can cum within 5 minutes and the erection won't go away if I stop touching for 10 sec. Am I close to cured?
  6. Hello Penis My Old Friend

    Hello Penis My Old Friend Well-Known Member

    Back when I knew something was up with porn but hadn't tried to reboot, I'd always give myself 5 days to a week before a planned date, and the difference in erection quality was noticeable.

    Your mileage may vary, or course.
  7. Bazooka Joe

    Bazooka Joe New Member

    Your erection should stand without physical stimulation when fully cured.

    10 seconds? That's far away from that.

    Btw.: Stop testing yourself.
  8. confusedguy

    confusedguy Member

    You know, that's pretty rude, and you couldn't possibly have sounded more condescending.

    The truth is that some people have fully rebooted in less than 90 days.

    Also, this is still a fairly new condition, and new discoveries are still being made. It seems to be the trending topic now that rewiring is much more important than avoiding orgasm, and while sometimes no orgasm streaks are necessary, many have made great progress while just rewiring.

    In fact, for a while, I was completely cured after only 65 days of no PMO, and I was having regular sex, and then I relapsed. But before I relapsed, I was so cured, I was actually having difficulty keeping my penis flaccid.

    So before making insulting, a little aggressive sounding statement, just take a chill pill and relax.
  9. MisterBrown

    MisterBrown New Member

    a) you're not gay. don't worry about that.

    b) you are NOT cured. I am on day 26. I was getting good quality hard-ons just by touching my girlfriends leg 2 days ago. I have now entered what I recognise as a flatline. I saw her naked last night and nothing. I cuddled with her naked this morning, 50% erection. I believe you are still in the stages of porn libido, so you think that you are cured.

    In reality, after abstaining, your erections will get better, then a lot better, then bam. Dead dick. Which suuuuuuucks. Because I thought I was recovering faster than others. The flatline just confirms for me that my ED problems were in fact porn related. So of course I'm sticking at it.

    I wish you luck with this girl, if it works, more power to you! that is freaking awesome. but if it doesnt, don't worry dude. It's a long hard road, but it's totally worth it in the long run.

    P.s. try to cease orgasms. They arent a relapse, but they will slow the process. Also, a milf fantasy = a porn fantasy. Avoid these COMPLETELY.

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