Had sex for the first time, felt weird.

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by hopefulraccoon, Jun 14, 2016.

  1. Hey there, it's been a long time since i was around here. So in the past year or so many things have happened.

    Long story short, for months now, porn videos cause nothing on me, nothing at all. I just feel bored watching them. I've masturbated watching camgirls and the like for the past weeks, more softcore stuff, girls in bikini, etc... And right now not even that causes any effect on me.

    So, for the first time ever, i have a girlfriend, i have been dating her for 2 months and we made it official about 2 weeks ago.

    We have had a lot of intimacy in bed already but there was no penetration until yesterday, i was hard, not full hard sadly but hard anyway. I don't think i was nervous at all, probably related to my years and years of fapping at least one time each day.

    For the past few months i've been masturbating just a few times every week though, sometimes even only once a week.

    So, to the point of this post. There was penetration, and it felt weird, i did feel pleasure, not as much though, i can honestly say that i only felt very little pleasure, and it hurt at points. I know it is the first time, but i thought the first time hurting and not being enjoyable was just a girl thing. Or am i wrong?

    I really love her, the building up to that point was really intense, we took our time to get there, about 2 hours of foreplay, fingering, oral.. And it still ended up like that for me.
     
  2. Wabi-sabi

    Wabi-sabi Imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete

    Sex, the first time, is never what you think it will be.

    You are nervous. It feels awkward. You have been imagining (and watching!) the actions, but when you are actually doing the deed you can't see what's going on, you only feel it.

    You think sex should be more. It should change the world. She should scream. . . You wonder if you've failed.

    But really, it's about intimacy. It's about lying together, afterwards, holding each other, covered in a sheen of sweat.
     
  3. Imfree

    Imfree Active Member

    In my experience you have to have sex with the same woman at least five times or so before it starts to get good.
     
  4. ted93704

    ted93704 Keep Your Heads Up!

    and for the first time in man's history, sex for the first time hurts the man more than it hurts the woman!
     
  5. This forum focuses on porn, but in my experience, even just masturbation can have it's negative effects.


    Stop masturbating completely. Give it a try and see what happens.



    This is an uncharted field. And because mainstream science ignores this, WE are the scientists. The pioneers. It's a matter of trial and error. Just experiment and share your results for others to build on.
     

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