Got Off With Girl First Time Ever - Age 34 - Groin Pain Healed

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Foxhunter, May 26, 2019.

  1. Foxhunter

    Foxhunter Deflect & Parry

    I have finally found success.

    The great enemy is defeated and on the run...

    It has been a long time since I posted here and this post is about 3 months overdue, but wanted to come back and complete my story in case it helps even one man out there.

    You can find my previous writings here. (hopefully this link to my threads works for others, I got it from my profile)

    TLDR History
    • Tons of porn since about 14. Dial up into high speed.
    • Unable to perform with any real life girl, even very attractive girls. No erection whatsoever.
    • Lucky to be tall with good looks. Had plenty of opportunities with 8s and 9s, but could never get it up
    • In 2015, developed debilitating and absolutely soul crushing groin pain from over-masturbation
    Porn is clearly a problem, even though most people may not know it. My body and mind were and still are completed wired to porn. Real women are not capable of turning me on like porn, though I find real women incredibly attractive.

    For years I blew so many opportunities. My mind started to decay into a form of madness because of it. Almost felt like a eunuch.

    In 2015, at the lowest point in my addiction phase, I simply could not stop masturbating. It was a pathetic time and even with pain lingering and my body giving in, I kept pushing it.

    This lead to a groin pain that remained FOREVER.

    The mystery and torture of this is unexplainable, and would end the average man.

    Two doctors and three urologists could not determine the issue. I had a cystoscopy, hopefully you never have to experience this. Found nothing.

    This put me in a place where not only was I incapable of a satisfying sexual experience, I now lived with constant pain, about a 3 on a scale of 1-10. Might not seem too bad, but when it never goes away and gets worse when sleeping, it's absolute hell.

    Last resort was a physical therapist (should have been the first move). She figured it out rather quickly as male pelvic pain from pelvic floor dysfunction. Unbelievably, I was able to get about 80% better within just one week of exercises.

    There are many threads on the forum describing issues with pelvic floor and I can confirm it can be a major issue especially if you masturbate sitting down at a computer like I did edging constantly.

    For me, edging is the enemy. The constant muscle contractions ended up affecting me harshly.

    Over the past year, I have gotten much better with abstaining from both porn and masturbation, with the occasional slip up, but can easily go 2-3 weeks monk mode if need be.

    I could feel libido coming back slightly and gained more confidence about being able to perform.

    In 2014, there was a very attractive girl I failed with. She was and still is a model and it was so awful not being able to perform. I had trouble getting the failures out of my head.

    In 2018 I reconnected with her. We dated for awhile and I had a lot of performance anxiety.

    In March of 2019, it finally happened...

    I got off to a girl during real sexual activity, at age 34.

    So many years wasted...

    The monkey off my back was an amazing feeling.

    I took a 5 mg Cialis to keep myself in prime position but also had more confidence due to not being drained from constant masturbation.

    VICTORY ACHIEVED.

    I want to list a couple ways I succeeded:

    • In my experience, monk mode is the way to be, as long a possible. Underdog's post about removing all sexual stimuli from your life is a very important step
    • Realize - if you are jerking off to porn, it's like the least alpha male activity possible. I am really sitting there jerking off to some other guy getting the girl? This realization hit me hard because if you think about it, it's so pathetic
    • If you gotta do it, make it extremely quick. Less than 5 minutes. Minimize all stimulation of the brain. We all fail here and there. DO NOT go hard on yourself.
    • Find a way to get some Cialis or Viagra. Sure it's a crutch but having that extra boost helped me big time. I may not even need it now.
    • Do not edge. It's very pleasurable but so must the heroin needle be.
    • Groin pain, if pelvic floor, CAN BE SOLVED! DO NOT GIVE UP!
    • When with a girl. JUST GO FOR IT. You may not get another chance...
    • Using a fleshlight helped me IMMENSELY. It trained me to use my hips etc. instead of my hands to stimulate myself as if I was with a girl. I was skeptical, but this gave me A LOT of confidence because it was essentially practicing for the real deal. I set it up so it was sticking out of the corner of a couch as if I was hitting a girl from behind. Yeah is this ridiculous? Of course, but you gotta do what you gotta do...
    I want to thank all the guys I used to talk to on this forum, especially ThouShallNotPorn. Having a confidant and someone to talk to really helped. We still talk on Skype and even met up in person despite being world's apart.

    Below I want to put a list of keywords that might help someone looking to solve their seemingly incurable groin pain. I could not find an answer when searching the forums or Google so maybe by doing this it will help someone find hope and most importantly a resolution!

    Guys - YOU CAN DO IT.

    USING PORN IS A PATHETIC ACT.

    GIVE IT UP AND GET THE GIRL.

    I succeeded. You can too.

    Until next time, or maybe never again....

    Foxhunter

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