Giving this forum another go.

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Gone fishing, Jul 20, 2016.

  1. newleaf63

    newleaf63 Member

    ditto the wise words of webdeveloper above.
    we continue to learn thats the important part of this journey mate. youre in my thoughts nofap. get up, get on up
     
  2. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Thanks for the support guys.

    Spent an evening out with family last night.

    dissappointed but not devisated, I'm not disheartened, I'm going to continue being free and continue to develop to be the best I can be.

    A long reboot changes you and returning to porn could never be the same as before a reboot. Not that I return to using because I know how unhealthy that would be. The obsessive thought are not there. I view this slip like the 24 hour flu, not fun but over and done. And now for the flu shot.
     
  3. titan_transcendence

    titan_transcendence Well-Known Member

    Hi Nofapado
    Be extremely wary of your thoughts from now on. I can tell that after I relapsed to P after nearly 4 months, its very easy to relapse again and again. The barriers are not there so strong. There will be coming urges for some time that will tell you, that you already relapsed once, whats the big deal to do that again? All that I wrote in here is pretty obvious, but just wanted to share my current feelings about the matter. I have relapsed already few times in this month, and still not feel like strong enough to be sure to remain safe. Stay strong!
     
  4. Billy B.

    Billy B. PMO is NOT an option!

    I'm diggin' yr attitude, Nofap.

    Kickin' it, but good. :cool:
     
  5. newleaf63

    newleaf63 Member

    you know buddy you arent back at square 1. you have come so far down the road. take what you have learnt and get back here, the less we wallow the better and quicker we can get over our (little) disappointments.

    there seems to be a few folks slipping at the moments. i feel some f it may be to do with the (external) pressures of christmas. we are being bombarded with adverts letting us know just what we need to buy in order to be happy and complete and also its a time where the stresses of family and friends are heaped onto our shoulders too.

    my thoughts are with you pal. we go back a few years and i was fortunate you and others were around when i took the decision to return here. you have helped me and many other) enormously. we forget how far we have traveled. but we must keep moving forward.

    weve spent too much of our lives already being disappointed with ourselves, dont allow yourself such negative thoughts.
     
  6. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    There comes a point we're almost everyone who has actively benefited from this forum becomes less active and stops posting. The benefits of talking about it diminish and it almost seems counterproductive to continue to focus on what you don't want to do. That's were I'm at now, I need to hear less about M, MO, PMO and more about things that are not discussed here. This forum is great but it's only the beginning. There is so much more to life. Many who fade away from here I'm sure are no longer here for the right reasons. it has come to the point for me where it is too easy for the ego to post here but not nourishing enough for the rest of me. To you all I wish you a speedy recovery, with good health, lots of love and abundant peace.
     
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  7. newleaf63

    newleaf63 Member

    nofap,

    interesting post. i have to disagree with you. there is, as you say, much more to life than things discussed here. however looking at journals like soj's it is positive for us hanging at the back to read how positive a successful persons changes can affect their whole.
    its not about ego at all, far from it, its about understanding other peoples struggles and victories and how these signposts can help in all of our struggles.

    i feel the disappointments and victories of other users journeys, i have never come across anyone who is in this process for their ego, in fact, i think most people are here because they dont have an ego, dont even know how to feel positive about themselves.

    you are free to talk about anything here, and i think that would be a positive way to open discussions here, this pmo addiction has many causes and interlinks with so much in our lives and it can only be a positive to incluse these things in our posts.

    if you are thinking of leaving, please dont. it wont onl be damaging for us, but for yourself too.

    peace and love to you and yours, i hope you are okay buddy.
     
  8. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    Senor Nofapado: I'm not "far along", but I just wanted to offer my hand to help you along. You're one of my rocks; an anchor in this horrible struggle against the addiction.

    So -- know that I'm here and I'm walking with you and I'm cheering you on.
     
  9. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Newleaf63 and Guy_Stewart you are two of the most open guys on this forum. We've travelled this journey of recovery together for a number of years. For this Christmas season I wish you both serenity and much engagement with the fullness of life in the new year.
     
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  10. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    Thanks, Senor!
     
  11. sonofJack

    sonofJack I deserve self-respect

    Hey Nofap, I know exactly what you're feeling right now, or at least when you wrote the post from a week ago.

    That green bar below is as much a talisman to remind me of how far along I am in this, as it is a curse; so many times I've looked at arbitrary numbers, and attempted to attach significance to them. Luckily, I was comfortable enough on here to say what I was thinking, and was rewarded with some good, solid advice from the forum.

    On a few occasions, I came here to read up on the struggles, and victories, only to overload on talk about masturbation, and pornography, and found myself wanting to do just that. It was the forum making me want to do that thing I joined here not to do, right?

    Not really. It was me, not feeling like I had anything more to give, which was such bullshit.

    If nothing else, this place keeps me accountable.
     
  12. newleaf63

    newleaf63 Member

    hi nofrap

    just dropping by to say happy new year and to wonder how you are buddy. i hope all is good with you. i think soj's post explains a lot about the reasons to keep posting here, as ive said countless times we never know just how what we post can aid others and thats surely why we joined this forum in the first place. we gain and give, what more is there to life? i miss several posters from my last time on here, i dont want to miss another one. please think again. you are needed as we all are.

    look forward to hearing how you are keeping mate. keep on keeping on.
     
  13. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Doing great newleaf. Thanks for asking.
     
  14. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Happy New Year's, Nofapado...hope you're on track.
     
  15. Billy B.

    Billy B. PMO is NOT an option!

    I wish you all the best, Nofap (glad to hear you were doing well as of the 12th). And Happy New Year!

    But I also agree with some of the comments above: that we can share here about a wide range of topics (our addiction doesn't occur in a vacuum) and that being of service to others (in recovery) can be invaluable in keeping us on track (the AA folks assert that it's crucial, actually).

    Either way, it's been a pleasure travellin' with ya.

    Stay Gold, Brother.

    - Billy.
     
  16. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Hey guys, that's for asking, I'm on track and doing well. Reading journals but not posting much these days.
     
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  17. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Glad to hear it...check in when you can.
     
  18. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    Hola, senor Nofapado! Haven't heard from you in a while -- but it's good to read these journals! Uplifting, even.

    Just wanted to say, "hey!" and I miss your comments!
     
  19. Lowdo

    Lowdo Well-Known Member

    Oh yeah - I think we all know that feeling. :-(

    The thing is to remind yourself what you really want, pick yourself up and keep going. It's bloody hard tho! Will b thinking of you...
     
  20. Billy B.

    Billy B. PMO is NOT an option!

    Too bloody, true.
     

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