What are some of the strategies that helped you to quit porn? Would some of them have analogues to sex addiction for you? I struggled with sex addiction for years, in and out of therapy. Maybe four or five years of my life were really wrapped up in it --- in my case, on-line cruising and hookups. I don't know exactly what made me "click" to leave it behind. No one magic action or change can do that. You're on to something when you talk about improving self-esteem ... and I think that's more important than, or maybe prior to, exercising "self control." At a superficial level, yes, it's about control, but at a deeper level it's about what kinds of things feel like real choices for you. One thing that seemed to work for me was to identify the other areas in my life, besides sex addiction, that I was unhappy about. At times I got caught in the trap of thinking that THAT was the problem and it caused my unhappiness. Later I realized that acting out my sex addiction was the way I fled from other issues in my life that I was unhappy about. Money, drinking, relationship issues. I was pretty overwhelmed when I realized that I had to address *all* of those areas. But later once I started taking little steps to address those, I found they were all mutually related and dealing with the others, including (especially) sex addiction, was easier. Not least of all because I felt better about myself when addressing my problems head on.