The last time I was on this forum was August 13, 2014. Since that time, I actually married J in July of 2015. As far as his porn addiction is concerned, he may be over it. I'm not really sure and this point I don't care, because I have realized that J has an even more severe issue. Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It all makes sense now. EVERYTHING! About three weeks ago, I had read a post on Twitter, concerning Pres. Trump. Someone had said that they thought he was narcissistic. I had heard of this disorder before, but did not know anything about it. So, I started reading about it, researching, watching videos about it. That was when I began to 'see' the same symptoms in J. It became glaringly apparent. Just because someone has a porn addiction, doesn't mean that they aren't narcissistic as well. Narcissists have a sense of entitlement and will play any game they have to in order to get their way. Before you know it, you'll be watching porn movies with them or doing any kind of sick sex thing they want you to do. Emotionally, you will be stripped down to nothing. Don't try to argue with them or get any kind of sympathy. You won't. They always turn everything back on you! You can't reason with them. They don't care as they are not capable of caring. Yes, their brains are wired differently, but it is permanent. They cannot change. There is not one single case where someone with NPD has changed. They took on a "false self" at a very early age, and were probably raised by narcissistic parents, who did not give them the love they deserved. Yeah, I know you may feel sorry for the narcissist, but please don't. Although it's nice to show empathy and concern, please don't forget who they really are. They have little to no empathy. You will NEVER get empathy from them. Don't expect it. They will play games with you and it will erode and eat away at you. They will "lovebomb" you (put you on a pedestal, make you feel like you're soul mates, etc.), gaslight you, promise you things they know, they are not going to deliver, lie to you, talk about you behind your back, use snide remarks, jabs. They will never take responsibility for anything wrong they have done, for any hurt they have inflicted on you. They will put you on a pedestal and then knock you off of it, without warning. As long as you provide admiration, attention, etc., you will be on that pedestal. However, if you try to stand up for yourself, they will probably fly into a rage and end up blaming you. The reason I am telling you this is because I hope to help those of you, who may also be suffering because your mate has NPD. I hope you will do your own research about this disorder and recover your emotional stability and sanity, before it's too late. Please read this article and if you see yourself in this, please get professional help. That is what I intend to do. Sincerely, Giovanna http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/narc-abuse-recovery.htm Please, copy and paste this link into your browser.