First Post

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by WRAT, Dec 17, 2013.

  1. WRAT

    WRAT Active Member

    This is my first post. I’m a 58 year old Christian, husband and father. I found YBOP July of 2012 and have been trying to reboot since; the longest I’ve gone is 34 days. I am at day 14 with no PMO and this is usually when I relapse. I’ve reviewed rebooting accounts on YBOP in the past but just visited this site a week ago and am encouraged. I’m not at all comfortable writing about this but I’m hoping this will help me get this monkey off my back forever.

    I’ve been masturbating since I was 10 and looking at anything close to porn since then. A 9 month period of unemployment in early 2009 and now working from home has allowed this to escalate. I’m home alone all day sitting in front of a computer. Funny in my lifetime I have heard that masturbation is everything from evil to the fountain of youth; it is neither. For me, porn & masturbation go hand in hand (no pun intended). It’s an addiction that is negatively affecting both my personal and professional life and I want to stop forever.

    I love the Lord, my family, my friends and you guys for sharing your journey. I’ve traveled this journey alone without much success and I look forward to traveling it with you guys.
     
  2. midge

    midge Guest

    Welcome, WRAT. Very glad you're here. I agree, it was weird to find myself talking about this stuff to strangers, but being here and talking about it has made all the difference for me. I'd tried to stop PMO a thousand times before discovering ybop and this forum. There's something very empowering about having comrades on the journey. Like you, I work at home and am on the computer all day; many of us here seem to be in that same situation. But it's definitely not an insurmountable obstacle. I just wanted to offer you some encouragement as you get underway here. Stick around, read and post often, and you'll find the results you're looking for. Onward.
     
  3. nofapado

    nofapado Guest

    Midge is right. Reading journals, posting and commenting on others journals will benefit your recovery. As Christian I sure you understand the power of helping others. If you help others recover it will help you recover. Welcome.
     
  4. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    Welcome WRAT,

    This community of fine men has helped me since I came here a year ago November. I had tried to quit 2-3 times before. The non-judgmental supportive attitude of the guys here really pulled me along.

    You are in a good place. I will help in any way possible.
     
  5. Florida22

    Florida22 Member

    You are surrounded by a very helpful community! Welcome abroad and keep the faith!
     
  6. fiftyplus

    fiftyplus New Member

    Keep strong but don't beat yourself up if you slip up.
     
  7. needtoohigh

    needtoohigh New Member

    Hey Wrat! Welcome welcome and welcome again! Come on in, strap in, suit up and join the battle here. It's a victorious one man!

    Read through the journals here and read the stories of just how similar everyone's story is... it's for this reason that we can all relate so well and help and understand each other so well.

    If you were to read through my mess of a journal, it's quite a ride and story... BUT to save you some time, one of the many big underlying theme's is what you wrote here:
    THIS my good friend, is BAD BUSINESS! Whew! Yes sir, that will get you every time! It snared me MANY times! Just stay here, read and post and read and post!

    It's all good here. We are ALL good. We fall here, but we are here and we all get back up! We are all aided and supported by each other here. There are many here with a LOT of wisdom to over this process.

    Welcome again and stay strong. Good and glad to see you here!
     
  8. LTE

    LTE Master Of My Domain

    Welcome to YBR. You'll find plenty of help here. Like yourself, I'm in my late fifties and had this problem for a long time. YBOP and YBR really helped. Likewise did Reuniting.Info.
     
  9. WRAT

    WRAT Active Member

    Thanks guys for the encouragement. I'm crawlying through some of your journals and feel like I'm reading my life history. Finding guys from all walks of life that share this addiction give me a lot of hope.

    Day 15. I will figure out how to set my counter soon.
     
  10. TheCure

    TheCure New Member

    Click on anyone's counter and you will be taken to the page with instructions on setting up your own counter.
     
  11. nofapado

    nofapado Guest

    It is comforting to know you are not alone in your struggles and that others have succeeded and you can too.
     

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