I've been keeping a journal here for the last month for anyone wanting to see where I am at - http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/...children-i-want-to-be-with-them-again.116264/ ***** Just had a mail from my wife with the first direct question - "Were you hooking up with people for sex while we were together?" The truthful answer should be "Yes, my porn addiction escalated to me meeting people in real life, I met a couple of women via sex hookup sites, I met and paid several female sex workers for sex, I met up with several men from gay/bi sex hook up sites" What is the right level of disclosure? I know that if I am to beat my sex/porn addiction I definitely need to be 100% truthful to my therapist, to SAA and most of all to myself, but how much do I tell to my wife so that I am not harbouring more lies from her but also not completely crushing her? I would welcome thoughts and experiences of anyone who has had to face this or similar questions. Thank you.