Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Wild Bill, Feb 6, 2019.
Correction, 82 days!
This not meant to be a negative comment but be careful of the hand even if its hers ! Your brain dose'nt recognize the different physiology it's a hand period!
This is the only way I can cum since I'm going through reboot. Did you not have any sexual activity at all for 6 months?
No I didn't. I felt I had to get thru it. Just my way I guess. Getting thru I feel gave me the willingness and strength to go the distance with the reboot and still helps me when I struggle now.
I had a slight chaser later in the day. Still didn't look at porn
That's the real goal for now isn't it ? The other things will come first things first.
I really feel that you are coming along! Keep it up! The difference now from your first posts is quite amazing !
Thank you! The denial is gone now. This shit is hard and because of my age I wonder at times, if this is not just age related. The feedback from great guys like ya'll keeps me going!
I really appreciate your support Bobo
I want to be here on this forum. If I can help even though I struggle at times thats what I want to do people helped me in the beginning and still do, now I want it to be my turn. If it started to affect my progress then I would have to look at it very carefully. A lot of times I write in detail about my relationship with Heather and Jamie to let other members see it is possible. I didnt know Heather when I was pmo-ing. I really feel that one of the reasons she was attracted to me was I didnt pmo. As time goes on Heather gets more and more sexual. She says that's because she feels free to be as sexual as she wants and I wont criticize her for what I consider to be weird ( there ain't much that I do )and she feels loved both emotionally and sexually and safe. She claims she never thought she could be this happy and happy sexually. Whether she really is or not dosent matter it is what she feels that's what matters.
I've had morning wood 5 times this week
Sounds good you are coming along. The changes sometimes are so small they are easy to overlook. You don't get a " ah ha " moment just small but significant changes when you really think about it. Good job !
Deleted a post realized it belonged on my journal-- oops!
Ok so I went into old emails and out of boredom counted up all the women I've fucked since I've been single and it's a lot more than I thought. Viva Viagra! I also saw the T and A pics these girls sent me and probably shouldn't do that again.
Be careful not probably "definately!"
I just went on some other threads and there are guys who've been on here 6-7 years and they're still PMO'ing and or going a few weeks and falling off the wagon? WTF? That's depressing and they seem nonchalant about it. If you went to an AA meeting and did this the response would be very different. I know I haven't been here long but this seems depressing to me. It would seem that after you get out 6+ months and your libido (dear God I hope) comes roaring back that the compulsion to PMO would be much diminished. Am I missing something?
Their nonchalance is, imo, because they can't, or won't, see what they're doing as a real problem. We can't keep the same life we had and this is where many people get stuck. The model we've been operating on needs to be set on fire and burned to the ground. In this way new things can grow from the ashes. Also, many men here suffer from some form of depression, a depression they can't seem to shake. 40new30 talked a lot about supplementing to help one get the brain chemicals back on track and I believe that he was right. So, it is a war on a number of fronts. First and foremost we must quit PMO! Secondly, we must develop habits that support a different way of life. Thirdly, we may need to address physical issues such as low thyroid or adrenal fatigue in order to really set the ship straight. It's a journey we have to be willing to work for.
Thanks for the insightful response
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