Finally realized...

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Wild Bill, Feb 6, 2019.

  1. Wild Bill

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  2. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Active Member

    Woke up with firm morning wood. Progress? I hope
     
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  3. Wild Bill

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    Nurse came over yesterday and I broke down and used viagra. Great session but now I've got a wicked hangover. Are any of you gentleman my age using ED drugs? Did you need to use them during rebooting but now you don't? I have a feeling this is psychological as I get MW. Any comments?
     
  4. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Nope never. Not during Reboot either. If you can hang in there libido will come roaring back as it did for me and others. Every day without pmo or fantasy is a day you are closer.
     
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  5. Wild Bill

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    Viagra makes the chaser much worse. I really had the urge terribly after.
    Bobo I think I read in your profile that you were non functional for 6 months and then you met a hot young thing from the Caribbean? How long after you started dating her that you were functioning normally?
     
  6. Bobo

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    Yes, you have to get thru that reboot. It's not easy Wild Bill but you can do it. Hmm-- I would say 90 days after reboot but reboot is a ongoing thing before I could hit full stride with Heather. At first was slowly but definite upscale. By the 5 or 6 month mark she was saying I was a sex maniac. Got better as time went on but start was fine. I am also pratcising ejaculation control and it is making Heather insane -- she has wild orgasms ! I think that's a side effect of ejaculation control? Perhaps you can look into it also? Hope this answers your question?
     
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  7. Wild Bill

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    I think I’m reading 6 months for reboot, and then 3 months after that for normal sex with her, and then 6 months total after rebooting and you were rocking her world? 1 year from start to finish?
     
  8. Bobo

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    Yes, sounds about right. You know I never counted never thought there was a certain time frame just plugged along. 1 year ? Iam off pmo like almost 2 years. Maybe your right-- just do it Bill ! This is a ongoing journey maybe there is no end. One thing I will tell you, it's a more natural feeling a more satisfying way of life a more complete sexual experience at least for me it is.
     
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  9. Wild Bill

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    Thank you
     
  10. Bobo

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    To answer your question more fully.

    To use a phrase another member used: the libido comes in waves. Thats exactly what it does. Some days roaring then other days zero. How often is it roaring?--- that's individual I think. It's not a state of total arousal all the time, at least it's not for me. I have days I could care less. I would not want it that way all the time that's just another addiction. 18 months later I was a different man. I am still healing and its been 23 months.
     
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  11. Wild Bill

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    What do you mean by fantasy? - Every day without pmo or fantasy is a day you are closer.
     
  12. Bobo

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    When you are not in the moment or not there with whoever you're with. Fantasy leads very quickly to pmo. Example : making love and you're thinking about some porn star you saw or scene you like. That's bad news and exactly what "pmo'" desires and the dopamine surge wishes.
     
  13. Wild Bill

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    Ok got it. However, that's very hard to do as a man just walking around and encountering women etc.
     
  14. Bobo

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    Yup hard to do but its the way of things.
     
  15. Wild Bill

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    Just reread this - “No artificial sexual stimulation during your reboot.” By artificial we mean pixels, audio and literature. No porn substitutes allowed, such as: surfing pictures on Facebook or dating sites, cruising Craigslist, underwear ads, YouTube videos, “erotic literature”, etc

    I haven't PMO'd but I've been sneaking peaks at porn pics and I'm on a dating site. I've been on a dating since I divorced. It's starting to sink in that I'm rewiring my brain and it's not necessarily time away from PMO. If I'm getting MW and I'm very fit it's not physical and viagra is just a bandaid for my brain. The longer I don't PMO the more sexual tension I feel but my body doesn't respond. Maybe a bit of phantom tingling? Is this the flatline?
     
  16. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes! No response could care less. Classic signs. No real ( not dopamine ) urges. Hello flatline!
     
  17. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Active Member

    You're saying I'm experiencing classic flatline symptoms?
     
  18. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes Dude! Welcome aboard glad to have you ! You will get thru it you're strong :rolleyes::rolleyes::)
     
  19. Wild Bill

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    Thanks very much!
     
  20. Wild Bill

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    Woke up with MW and I didn't look at the dating site I'm on all day! I should probably cancel it
     

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