Finally realized...

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Wild Bill, Feb 6, 2019.

  1. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    Tonight a new girl is coming over! I';m all viagra-ed up so I'll pay for this
     
  2. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    Well last night had a new girl come over last night. Took viagra to be sure and it started out promising. Foreplay and dick was responding well. We started fucking and I lost it and started having performance anxiety. Bottom line I ate her pussy and made sure she had multiple orgasms. Me? Not so great. I've got slightly painful blue balls and never released last night.
    Is this part of the reboot/ rewiring I'm going through or is it something else. I'm PMO clean 47 days which is good for me so far.
    Another issue is she's not as tight as my last girl so that may have contributed. Input and comments of the hardened vets who've dealt with this shit would be much appreciated.
     
  3. Libertad

    Libertad Well-Known Member

    Sorry I have no Input, but had to laugh at your expression of hardened vets. This made my day.
     
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  4. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    This can be part of the deal. Even the 20 year olds aren't fucking their way into oblivion without problems. You are even 3 months in. I'm almost three years clean and I'm still noticing changes. Personally I was never good at the one-night stand thing. I need to get to know a person before I can feel comfortable and be intimate. Perhaps you rushed things.
     
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  5. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    WE did take it slow. This was the 2nd date. She was all over me
     
  6. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    Saville what you're saying makes sense. I had performance anxiety at 20 y/o before it had a name
     
  7. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member


    Iam almost 11/2 years clean and sometimes stuff comes up in my sex life that makes me go " where did that come from?" Savilles correct just be aware of it don't worry.
     
  8. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    I'm going through a weird period of low/no libido, a plain of flatness. My test levels are all good but I just don't have much of a sex drive. Is this normal at this point in the reboot?
     
  9. Wild Bill

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    One positive is that porn thoughts are much rarer now. Seems the longer I'm PMO free the less I think about it.
     
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  10. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

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    Many others say thats what happened to them. Rebooting is real interesting isn't it WB ? Not to worry may just part of the process. It's in many of the journals written here.
     
  11. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    Hi Bobo it is a strange trip.I do get occasional morning wood but when I snog with a girl, I won't get hard but there'll be pre-cum in my shorts after. Is that the flatline or is this an age thing? I know my test levels are high for my age. I work out 6 days a week and get my levels checked and my libido is strangely dormant. Because this is the first time in adulthood I've gone this long without PMO, I have no reference point.

    The reality of modern dating is that it's online. Period! My 83 YO mom tells me her friends are dating online. I am on dating sites and communicating with women and they sometimes send T and A pics but I have not PMO'ed since I restarted the PMO counter. As far as the T & A pics I'm kind of meh about them. You've seen one, You've seen a million. They don't seem to do anything for me. It seems to me be very different than a porn flick which has raunchy sex acts playing out some fetish or scenario. I have not watched porn.

    I would like some feedback from the older single guys that are not in a committed relationship who my be going through a reboot currently.

    P.S. I've met a 28 yo submissive that wants me to be her Dom. We've met 2 times and she is definitely primed to be my sex slave. Is videoing a session not a good idea? Everyone will have identities masked
     
  12. Wild Bill

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    Happy Easter Everyone!
     
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  13. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    Ok here's my question for the hardened PMO vets

    I do get occasional morning wood but when I snog with a girl, I won't get hard but there'll be pre-cum in my shorts after. Is that the flatline or is this an age thing?
     
  14. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    How is this different than P? I'm not judging. I've done my own shit. But, 75 days is chump change in terms of rebooting the brain. If you wire to what you describe above then will never truly be in touch with your natural self. Neurons that fire together, wire together.
     
  15. MissingSelfCompassion

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    I'm not entirely clear on the term "flatline" as it is used here. Like is it just a shared experience that has been given this term? Is it a scientific term that's proven? That's not to say I haven't gone through it. As @Saville is talking about neurons, I think yeah we have attached all the sexual function neurons in our minds to PMO. So once you start rebooting, those Neurons are floating around without any connections. It will take time to find the healthier neurons, like physical touch and emotional connections. This seems like the "flatline" to me. This also seems to fit my experience with the lack of erections. I too have had issues as you describe, and I think it's simply about experience and the rewiring in the brain. You said age, which I would equate to experience. As someone who has been in a relationship in a while, erections don't come as easy as they do with P. With looking at P, you can have anyone, at any time. It's always a new conquest. It's not that way in real life. For me, during reboot, I get inside my head too. I'm so used to MO, that I start thinking about it as I'm snogging and totally kill the erection because I'm beating myself up.

    Just a few thoughts on how I see it and how things (don't) work for me. I hope it helps.
     
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  16. Wild Bill

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    Makes sense. Something for me to consider. I should just stay away from video of anything
     
  17. Wild Bill

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    Are you talking about the D/S stuff or videoing a session?
     
  18. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Member

    I start thinking about it as I'm snogging and totally kill the erection because I'm beating myself up. - That makes sense
     
  19. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Flatline is a flat term that is given when you face NO sexual attraction in other words " you don't care!"It does not matter if the term is scientifically proven or not. It happens. Sex is not the real point here. If you want it to be it can be but there is so much positive in so many other areas of your life sex is only one of them. The sex gets better as you avail yourself of the other aspects.
     
    Last edited: Apr 22, 2019
  20. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Both. We need to get back to when we were babies with no fetishes. Rebooting is just another term for us growing up from infancy onward. It takes time and patience. But, it's worth it. We're worth it.
     
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